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In this episode, I’m sharing my theme for 2024: Plentiful. When this word came to me, it felt expansive, almost too big for the version of me who was used to letting things in just a little at a time. But I knew it was the one. Plentiful—existing in or yielding great quantities, abundant—moved through my life in ways my little ego self couldn’t predict but my soul knew what was needed. This theme cracked my heart open to what I had been rationing—love, freedom, joy, celebration, peace, pleasure. Things I’d been allowing in smaller doses, as if I didn’t deserve the fullness of them. But Plentiful asked me to stop limiting myself. It asked me to welcome and accept these things in abundance, not just when it felt safe or earned, but as my birthright.It hasn’t always been comfortable. Letting in abundance means facing the parts of yourself that resist it. But the more I leaned into this theme, the more I realised how much beauty and growth comes when you stop holding back and start saying yes to more.As you listen to this episode, I invite you to reflect: What was your theme for 2024? What are you ready to welcome into your life in greater quantities? What would it look like to fully embrace it, even when it feels bigger than what you’re used to? Let’s walk into the new year together, hearts wide open. EP Starting the year with clear intentionBuy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowAuthentic - The Program - Enrolments open nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode of Ask Kat & Steve, we addressed a question from one of our listeners, Carole, about finding a mature man—something I know so many people can relate to. Steve shared some real gold from his dating experiences, talking about how he learned to be more intentional in how he approached dating. Early on, he realised the importance of vetting people better: asking deeper questions, jumping on a FaceTime call sooner rather than later, and paying attention to the vibe and connection right away.But what really stood out was the clarity he brought to the process. Steve talked about setting a clear intention for the kind of energy he wanted in a partner. It wasn’t just about swiping based on looks—it was about looking deeper and trusting his intuition. That focus kept him from wasting time and energy on matches that didn’t align with what he was genuinely looking for.For me, I shared how, for a long time, I attracted immature men—boys, really—because of where I was coming from. If I was feeling needy, I’d choose someone who reinforced that dynamic. And if I was in a hyper-independent phase, I’d attract people who might have been right, but I was closed. It wasn’t until I got more comfortable in myself—more grounded and aligned—that I started to see things more clearly. I could read the red flags, tune into my gut, and choose not to date someone if it didn’t feel right, rather than trying to force something that wasn’t there in the first place.This conversation wasn’t just about dating tips; it was about the energy we bring to relationships and how that shapes who we attract. Whether you’re swiping on apps or meeting people in real life, it all starts with how well you know and trust yourself. That’s where the real shift happens.EP Why she left love off her intention settingEP Throw your relationship criteria list in the binBuy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode, I’m sharing an update on my perimenopause journey, thanks to a member of my community asking the question. It's been a chapter of life that has been anything but predictable. Working with Dr. Kirstey Holland has been a game-changer. We discovered that my progesterone levels were low, which caused my estrogen levels to spike. The result? Mood swings that left me feeling completely unrecognisable, heavy periods, moments of rage, crying on the bathroom floor, and just this deep sense of being not me.Since starting on progesterone cream and a stack of supplements to address my gut health, it’s like I’ve found my way back to myself. My digestion is functioning well, the bloating is gone, the brain fog has lifted, my libido is back, and my mood feels steady. For the most part, I’m asymptomatic, which feels like a massive win considering where I started.That said, there’s one thing that still throws me: the forgetfulness. It sneaks up on me in moments when I’m speaking or being interviewed, and it shakes my confidence. I catch myself feeling embarrassed or even stupid, which can be hard to shake. But this is a part of the cycle, and I’m learning to meet it with kindness rather than frustration. This stage of life is teaching me patience, humility, and how to trust my body as it shifts and changes.If you’re navigating perimenopause, know this: you’re not alone, and there’s help out there. It’s about finding what works for you, paying attention to what your body’s telling you, and giving yourself grace as you figure it out. This isn’t a chapter we need to go through in silence. Let’s talk about it.Episode #278 with Dr Kirstey HollandBuy my book - AUS, EUR, USACoach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show

In this episode of *Ask Kat & Steve*, we answered a listener’s question about navigating the complexities of blended families. She asked how to handle the difficult, messy moments and how to eventually feel like she fits in as part of a real and authentic family. This is a question that hits home for us because we’ve lived it, and we know how challenging those “ick” moments can feel when everything seems out of sync.  Steve and I shared the key principles we come back to time and again: honest communication and understanding the unique dynamics of the kids in the family. It’s about paying attention to their triggers, quirks, and egos—knowing what sets them off and how to bring them back to their relaxed, authentic state of being. It’s not about fixing them but holding space for who they are while remaining grounded ourselves. No easy feat may I add!We also talked about the work we do on ourselves, which is the foundation for everything. If we’re not checking in with our own triggers and patterns, we can’t show up as the united front the kids need. Blended families aren’t about pretending to be perfect or forcing connection; it’s about consistently doing the work to build trust, create safety, and let the relationships evolve naturally. It’s a beautiful mess. Buy my book - AUS, EUR, USA1:1 coach with me - Book a 20-minute call nowHold onto the rope - The letter your teenager can't write youWrite into us - let us know what you want to hearSupport the show