Wildly Appropriate w/ Krissy Marsh

How do you spot a liar? A private investigator spent six months and found nothing. Krissy caught him with one $25 bank transaction.Krissy has trusted her gut her whole life. She calls it her smoke detector... where there's smoke, there's fire. It pulled her out of a taxi in Bali before the meter even started, and it is the same instinct that told her girlfriend something was off in her marriage long before there was any proof.This one is all about liars, and how to spot a liar when they are good at it. Because the frightening truth is that a good liar tells a lot of truth. Her friend's husband really was going to Canada. He really did need a break. He just never mentioned he was taking his girlfriend. A private investigator came back after six months with nothing. Then one $25 transaction to an unusual name, one Google search, and one phone call to a bar in Brisbane unravelled the whole thing.Krissy also gets into the small-lie test she raised her kids on (if someone lies about being at their mum's house, they can lie about anything!!), why decades of trust make us silence our own smoke detector, the friends who lie about the stupid stuff, double lives that DNA tests keep exposing, and the one rule that holds her family together: you get one chance to tell the truth.And she is about to play the ultimate lying game on The Traitors... consider this her warm up. Is she a good liar? You will have to watch and find out.⏱️ Chapters00:00 The smoke detector gut feel00:49 Two taxis I escaped03:55 Catching a cheating husband07:07 Why we suppress the gut feel10:20 Small lies, big liars13:03 Double lives and DNA tests16:13 The Traitors and moving on🔗 LinksWant the deeper cut? Join the newsletter: https://wildlyappropriate.substack.com/Follow:Newsletter: https://wildlyappropriate.substack.com/Instagram: @wildlyappropriatepodcast (https://www.instagram.com/wildlyappropriatepodcast)TikTok: @wildlyappropriate (https://www.tiktok.com/@wildlyappropriate)YouTube: @wildlyappropriatepod (https://www.youtube.com/@wildlyappropriatepod?sub_confirmation=1)Krissy on Instagram: @realkrissymarsh (https://www.instagram.com/realkrissymarsh)Krissy on TikTok: @realkrissymarsh (https://www.tiktok.com/@realkrissymarsh)Listen:Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/wildly-appropriate-w-krissy-marsh/id1790057838Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1TIH5sHckXXmnh8qjMb43S#WildlyAppropriate #TheTraitors #HowToSpotALiarProduced by Dreamers Mediawww.dreamersmedia.co

Do you say yes when you mean no? That is not kindness, it is fear.

Krissy on the signs you are a people pleaser, why it comes from fear, and the response nobody warns you about. Everyone knows fight and flight... the people-pleasing one is fawn.

One topic. One opinion. No filter. People pleasing in relationships, fawning over your kids, the friend who drains you, saying yes at work, and how to stop saying yes on the spot.

What you'll get:
Why saying yes can be fear, not kindness
How fawning shows up with partners and kids
The friend dynamic that quietly drains you
How to say no without the guilt

Chapters:
(00:00) The signs you're a people pleaser
(02:14) Putting your partner first
(06:35) Fight, flight, or fawn
(07:54) When you fawn over your kids
(09:28) Why I call people out
(12:49) The knife-and-fork lesson
(16:44) People-pleasing at work
(19:29) Stop saying yes on the spot
(22:31) What people-pleasing costs you
(30:37) Don't fight, flee, fear or fawn

Recognise yourself in this one? Krissy wants to hear it. DM the show on Instagram and tell her where you people please.

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This is one woman's opinion and lived experience, not professional or psychological advice.

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Did Michael Jackson get away with it? Krissy's unfiltered opinion on power, money and fame.

A table of twenty-somethings told Krissy he was great. Her book club calls him a monster. Same man, two verdicts.

One topic. One opinion. No filter. Why she believes fame and money bought decades of silence, how abusers groom the parents and not just the kids, and why a whole generation still refuses to believe it.

What you'll get:
Why young fans still defend him
How grooming targets parents too
What power and money really buy
The art vs the artist question

Chapters:
(00:00) The dinner table debate
(00:53) The Brisbane boy and a starstruck mum
(02:14) Grooming the kids and the parents
(04:10) The cheque that bought silence
(05:15) The O.J. parallel and the jury
(07:39) My opinion, and the acquittal
(09:53) Why victims stay silent
(10:34) The Jackson family and Neverland
(12:42) His legacy

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A note on this one. These are Krissy's personal opinions, not statements of fact. Michael Jackson was acquitted in 2005 and denied all allegations. This episode discusses child sexual abuse and may be distressing. If it brings something up for you, please reach out to someone you trust or a local support service.

MasterChef's Alvin Quah on lying, cheating and the betrayal that taught him what loyalty really costs.

Krissy and her friend Alvin Quah, the MasterChef fan favourite and former scientist, get into the one thing neither of them can forgive. A lie. He has been lied to in the worst way, and he has told the hardest lie there is about himself. This is where they agree, and the bit where they really do not.

What you'll get:
- How to tell a white lie from a real betrayal
- What years of being lied to teaches you about loyalty
- Why coming out can be the hardest lie to undo
- The Scorpio rule: forgive, never forget

Chapters:
(00:00) Meeting on The Traitors
(01:26) Malaysia and a laksa obsession
(04:51) The mum who taught herself to read
(06:25) Disowned, and a lost love
(09:49) Coming out at 29
(13:14) From the lab to MasterChef
(18:34) Are you a good liar?
(19:21) The betrayal that broke him
(22:34) No degrees of lying
(25:54) Traitors, Housewives, MasterChef
(27:58) White lies vs deception
(30:00) Rapid fire: who lies more?
(34:06) No room for surface friends
(37:21) How marriage changed loyalty
(39:31) The laksa promise

Alvin Quah: MasterChef Australia fan favourite (2010 and 2022), former medical scientist, and a proud home cook writing his first cookbook.
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Website: alvinquah.com.au (https://alvinquah.com.au)

Where is your line between a white lie and a betrayal? DM the show on Instagram... Krissy wants the ones that still sting!!

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This is a candid chat between friends about relationships, sexuality and trust. It is for entertainment, not advice.

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20 years. No red flags. Then he was gone... and the clue was in the money.

Krissy just finished Strangers, the true story of a woman blindsided by her husband's affair after 20 years, and it sent her straight into her own marriage. The thing that scared her most was not the cheating. It was how easily a smart woman gave away all of her financial independence and never saw it go.

What you'll get:
- Why money is the truest telltale sign
- Why hiding debt counts as cheating
- How to keep a part of yourself for yourself

Chapters:
(00:00) The Phone Call
(01:56) He Handled The Money
(04:36) Never Hand It Over
(08:00) Wealthy, Then Powerless
(11:39) The Trailing Spouse
(13:42) If He Dropped Dead
(16:43) Heart Or Wallet
(17:33) One In Four Hide Debt
(18:40) The Secret Second Wallet
(20:54) Living With A Stranger

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This is one woman's opinion and lived experience, not financial, legal or relationship advice. If money or a relationship has you worried, talk to a professional you trust.

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