SHE BREAKS THE RULES

You’ve probably said it before… “I feel so guilty for eating that.”
But what if guilt isn’t actually the problem?
And what if the real thing keeping you stuck in the binge–restrict cycle… is something much deeper?
In this episode, we unpack the powerful (and often misunderstood) difference between guilt and shame and why confusing the two could be the exact reason you feel stuck in your relationship with food.
Because here’s the truth…
You can’t change your behaviours when you believe you are the problem.
And this is something Tarryn sees every single day with her clients.
Shame is the number one emotion keeping women stuck in binge eating, emotional eating and self-sabotage. Not lack of willpower. Not lack of discipline.
Shame.
And the moment that shame is released?
Everything shifts.
Behaviours change. Self-talk softens. And for many women, it’s the first time they actually feel free around food.
In this episode, we cover:
The critical difference between guilt (“I did something bad”) vs shame (“I am bad”)
Why shame is one of the most damaging emotions for binge eating
How shame keeps you stuck in cycles of hiding and self sabotage
The surprising reason guilt after eating actually makes things worse
How shame shows up (even when you don’t realise it)
Why releasing shame can create instant shifts in behaviour and mindset
Practical steps to start breaking the shame cycle and moving forward
A powerful question to reflect on:
Where are you still using guilt or shame to try to change your body or your habits…
and what might change if you replaced that with self-compassion and self-trust?
How this episode breaks the rules:
At She Breaks the Rules, we don’t believe you need more discipline, more restriction, or more guilt to change your body.
We challenge the idea that you need to “fix” yourself to be healthy.
Because real change doesn’t come from shame…
it comes from understanding, compassion, and learning to trust yourself again.
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“I’m just not ready.”
“I’m honouring my nervous system.”
“I’m listening to my body.”
But what if the language that sounds like healing… is actually keeping you stuck?
In this episode, we’re calling out how “wellness talk” can become a subtle form of avoidance... keeping you in your comfort zone instead of moving you forward.
Because awareness alone isn’t enough.
🔥 What We Cover
Awareness vs action (and where most people get stuck)
How wellness language can mask avoidance
The truth about your nervous system
Why discomfort is required for growth
Radical honesty vs self-criticism
💥 Key Takeaways
Awareness without action keeps you stuck
Not all “self-care” is actually helping you grow
Avoidance often sounds logical and justified
Your nervous system is adaptable — not fragile
You can be honest with yourself and compassionate
🧠 A Question for You
Where are you using “healing” or “self-care” language…
when it’s actually avoidance?
⚡ Your Challenge
Catch your language this week.
When you say:
“I’m too busy”
“I’m not ready”
“I’m protecting my energy”
👉 Ask yourself:
Is this true… or am I avoiding something uncomfortable?
Then take one small step forward.
💜 She Breaks the Rules
This is what breaking the rules looks like.
Questioning even the “wellness” narratives that keep you stuck.
Because real change comes from action, not just awareness.
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Low libido is something so many women experience… but barely talk about.
And when they do?
It’s usually blamed on hormones.
But what if that’s only part of the story?
In this episode, we break down the real reasons your libido might be low. From hormones, nutrition and stress… to the deeper emotional and psychological factors most women are overlooking.
Because the truth is… your libido isn’t “broken”, it’s being blocked.
🔥 What We Cover
The physical “big rocks” impacting libido (hormones, sleep, nutrition, stress)
Why it’s not just about hormones
The role of emotional intimacy & connection
How stress, motherhood & mental load shut down desire
The impact of body image & self-consciousness
Why sex can start to feel like a chore
The importance of communication, safety & feeling seen
💬 A Question For You
What does your body need to feel safe, connected and present enough to want intimacy?
💥 She Breaks the Rules
Because we’re not settling for “it’s just hormones”…
We’re looking deeper, asking better questions, and taking back control of our health, our bodies and our relationships 🔥
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Emotional regulation is one of the most important skills for your health, mindset and relationships, yet most women were never taught how to actually do it.
In this episode of She Breaks the Rules, we break down what emotional regulation really means and why feeling overwhelmed, reactive, anxious or completely shut down is often a sign that your nervous system is dysregulated.
Tarryn also shares the 4-step emotional regulation framework she uses with her clients to help them move through difficult emotions instead of suppressing them, ignoring them or coping with things like emotional eating.
Because when you learn how to regulate your emotions, you change the way you respond to stress, relationships, parenting, work and your relationship with food.
And that’s exactly how she breaks the rules.
In This Episode
What emotional regulation actually means
Signs your nervous system is dysregulated
Hyper-arousal vs hypo-arousal explained
Why emotional eating is often a regulation problem, not a discipline problem
How to stop reacting and start responding to stress
How emotional regulation improves your relationships and daily life
The 4-Step Emotional Regulation Process
Notice – Recognise the physical signs of dysregulation in your body
Name – Identify the emotion you’re feeling
Ask – Ask yourself: What do I need right now?
Give – Give yourself what you need in that moment
Question To Reflect On
Next time you feel overwhelmed or reactive, pause and ask:
“What am I trying to regulate right now?”
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In today’s episode, we’re doing something a little different.
Instead of diving straight into a health topic, we wanted to bring you behind the scenes of our lives and share some big personal updates that have been unfolding recently.
Because the truth is… health, wellbeing and personal growth don’t happen in isolation. They happen within the real life experiences we navigate every day.
And right now, there are some big life transitions happening for both of us.
Tarryn shares the exciting news that she’s pregnant at 38 and reflects on what this moment means after waiting to find the right person to start a family with plus years of doing the work on her health, gut health and body image.
Faye shares that she recently got married at 41, opening up about overcoming the stigma around divorce, being honest about what she truly wanted and allowing herself to fully embrace love again.
This episode is a reminder that life rarely follows the timeline society expects and that’s exactly what breaking the rules is all about.
We also answer two listener questions around:
Managing PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder)
How to restart your health journey when you feel like you’re constantly starting over.
If you’ve ever felt behind in life, stuck in a health cycle or unsure where to start again, this episode will give you both perspective and practical steps forward.
Because your timeline doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.
What We Cover In This Episode
• Tarryn’s pregnancy announcement and navigating pregnancy at 38
• The role gut health and preconception health played in her journey
• Body image during pregnancy and navigating physical changes
• The identity shifts that can come with motherhood and postpartum
• Faye’s recent wedding and getting married again after divorce
• Letting go of stigma around second marriages
• How honesty and personal growth transformed her relationship
• Listener Question: What is PMDD and where should you start if you suspect you have it?
• Listener Question: How to restart a health journey when you feel like you're always starting again

Listener Reflection
If you’ve ever felt like you’re behind in life or that you’re starting again… ask yourself:
“Am I actually starting over, or am I simply continuing my journey with more wisdom than before?”
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