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On Episode 36 of 1-800 CHATLINE… we're asking a question so many people in emotionally abusive relationships find themselves asking: Am I going crazy?
Welcome back to Our Boyfriend, Our Abuser, a special series exploring domestic violence, emotional abuse, coercive control and relationship red flags.
Amy Dickinson is joined by Taylor Davies, who dated the same man at a different time. After discovering their shared experiences, they're unpacking the psychological dynamics they now recognise and how their confidence in their own reality was gradually undermined.
Because sometimes, the most damaging part of an abusive relationship is being made to question whether your own experiences are even real.
🖤 GASLIGHTING: AM I GOING CRAZY?
Amy and Taylor explore gaslighting, a pattern of psychological manipulation that can cause someone to question their own memory, perception and judgement.
From having experiences denied to being told they were insane, irrational or mentally unwell, they discuss how repeated manipulation can erode self-trust and leave you questioning your own reality.
🎙️ IN THIS EPISODE:
• What gaslighting is and how it differs from ordinary disagreements
• How we started questioning our own reality
• Epistemic trust: Why we began believing someone else's version of events over our own
• Cognitive dissonance: Wanting to believe someone is good while experiencing behaviour that contradicts it
• Denial, minimisation and conversations being turned around
• Being called crazy, insane, mentally ill or delusional
• Hypervigilance: Constantly monitoring someone's moods and reactions
• Learned helplessness: When you stop trying to explain yourself because you no longer believe you'll be heard
• How gaslighting affects confidence, self-trust and our perception of reality
• Recognising the patterns and rebuilding trust in ourselves
💭 WHY GASLIGHTING IS SO HARD TO RECOGNISE
Gaslighting isn't simply two people remembering an argument differently. It's a repeated pattern of behaviour that undermines someone's confidence in their own memory, perception or judgement.
When someone repeatedly denies your experiences, challenges your credibility or redirects conversations until you're questioning yourself, you can gradually begin trusting their version of reality more than your own.
We unpack the psychology behind these dynamics, why we started doubting ourselves and how we eventually stopped trusting our own judgement.
🖤 IF YOU'RE HERE FOR:
• Gaslighting and psychological manipulation
• Emotional abuse and abusive relationship red flags
• Cognitive dissonance and epistemic trust
• Hypervigilance and learned helplessness
• Why you constantly question yourself in a relationship
• Rebuilding self-trust after emotional abuse
• Domestic violence awareness and survivor stories
…this episode is for you.
A NOTE ON SUPPORT
If anything discussed in this episode resonates with you, you don't have to navigate it alone.
🇦🇺 AUSTRALIA — DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT
📞 1800RESPECT: Call 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732 for free, confidential, 24/7 support. https://www.1800respect.org.au
⚖️ Women's Legal Service Queensland: Free legal assistance for women, including domestic violence and family law. Call 1800 957 957 (Monday–Friday, 9 am–3 pm). https://wlsq.org.au
🚨 If you are in immediate danger, call 000.
You don't have to be certain that what you're experiencing is abuse to reach out for support.
🎧 1-800 CHATLINE — where we fuel your intrusive thoughts.
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On Episode 35 of 1-800 CHATLINE… we're talking about the moment the mask starts to slip, the behaviours we couldn't explain at the time, and how we slowly lost parts of ourselves in relationships we wanted to work.

Welcome back to Our Boyfriend, Our Abuser, a special series exploring domestic violence, emotional abuse, coercive control and the relationship red flags we wish we'd recognised sooner.

Amy Dickinson is joined by Taylor Davies, who dated the same man at a different time. After discovering their shared experiences, they're unpacking what happened, the patterns they now recognise, and why putting language to abuse matters.

Because sometimes, what feels like isolated incidents is actually part of a much bigger pattern.

COERCIVE CONTROL: WHEN THE MASK SLIPS

Amy and Taylor discuss how coercive control gradually changed their behaviour, chipped away at their confidence and left them walking on eggshells.

From arguments that seemed to come out of nowhere to silent treatment, isolation and the fear of triggering another fight, they explore how control can develop so gradually that you don't recognise it until you look back.

🎙️ IN THIS EPISODE:
• The first signs that his behaviour was changing
• What coercive control is and how it differs from normal disagreements
• Creating fights before spending time together and a lack of empathy
• Silent treatment as a form of emotional abuse
• Walking on eggshells and anticipating his reactions
• Changing what we wore, who we saw and how we socialised to avoid conflict
• How isolation from friends and family develops
• Why we didn't recognise coercive control while experiencing it
• Being in love, turning a blind eye and wanting the relationship to work
• How abuse erodes confidence and makes leaving harder
• The sunk cost fallacy, embarrassment and fear of losing a relationship we've invested in

💭 WHY THE BIGGER PATTERN MATTERS
Coercive control isn't always one dramatic incident. It can involve repeated behaviours that restrict someone's freedom, independence and sense of self.

When you're anticipating someone's reaction, avoiding decisions out of fear or changing your behaviour to keep the peace, it's worth looking at the bigger picture.

We didn't have the language for what we were experiencing. Looking back, we can see how separate incidents connected to form a pattern.

🖤 IF YOU'RE HERE FOR:
• Coercive control and signs of an abusive relationship
• Domestic violence awareness and survivor stories
• Emotional abuse, silent treatment and manipulation
• Relationship red flags and unhealthy dynamics
• Why leaving an abusive relationship can be difficult
• How control, isolation and fear affect behaviour
• Honest conversations about healing and recovery
…this episode is for you.

A NOTE ON SUPPORT
If anything discussed in this episode resonates with you, you don't have to navigate it alone.

🇦🇺 AUSTRALIA - DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT
📞 1800RESPECT: Call 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732 for free, confidential, 24/7 support. Online chat: https://www.1800respect.org.au

⚖️ Women's Legal Service Queensland: Free legal assistance for women, including domestic violence and family law. Call 1800 957 957 (Monday–Friday, 9 am–3 pm) or visit https://wlsq.org.au

🚨 If you are in immediate danger, call 000.
You don't have to be certain that what you're experiencing is abuse to reach out for support.

🎧 1-800 CHATLINE - where we fuel your intrusive thoughts.

Follow 1-800 CHATLINE on Spotify so you don't miss the next episode of Our Boyfriend, Our Abuser. Follow Amy @amzdicko and Taylor @taydaves on Instagram.

On Episode 34 of 1-800 CHATLINE… we're starting a conversation that is deeply personal, confronting, and one we never expected to have.
Welcome to Our Boyfriend, Our Abuser - a special series exploring domestic violence, abusive relationships, relationship red flags and the warning signs we wish we'd recognised sooner.
Amy Dickinson is joined by Taylor Davies, a woman she never knew existed until Taylor reached out after watching Amy's TikTok series, My Boyfriend, My Abuser.
The plot twist? Amy and Taylor dated the same man at different times, without knowing each other's stories.
After connecting and discovering striking similarities, they're sharing their experiences to raise awareness, unpack the warning signs and help others better understand abusive relationships.
💌 HOW WE FOUND EACH OTHER
How Taylor discovered Amy's TikTok series

The DM that connected two separate stories

The similarities they uncovered when they compared experiences

Why they've decided to share their stories

💘 THE HONEYMOON PHASE
Abusive relationships don't always begin with obvious red flags. Sometimes, they start with intense chemistry, affection and the feeling that you've finally met someone who truly understands you.
❤️‍🔥 LOVE BOMBING, MIRRORING & EARLY RED FLAGS
Amy and Taylor unpack:
Love bombing: Intense affection, attention and promises that may form part of a pattern of manipulation or control.

Mirroring: Reflecting someone's interests, values or personality to create a powerful feeling of compatibility.

Boundary testing: Pushing limits, disregarding preferences or making someone feel guilty for saying no.

Affection and shared interests aren't automatically red flags - it's the broader pattern of behaviour that matters.
🎙️ IN THIS EPISODE:
The story behind Our Boyfriend, Our Abuser

Who Amy and Taylor were before the relationship

What the honeymoon phase felt like

Love bombing, mirroring and boundary testing

Early relationship warning signs

Why recognising abuse isn't always straightforward

Turning individual experiences into a conversation about domestic violence awareness

🖤 IF YOU'RE HERE FOR:
Domestic violence awareness and survivor stories

Abusive relationships and relationship red flags

Love bombing and emotional manipulation

Understanding unhealthy relationship dynamics

Honest conversations about healing and recovery

Finding language for experiences you've struggled to explain

…this series is for you.
🫶 AUSTRALIAN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SUPPORT
If anything in this episode resonates with you, you don't have to navigate it alone.
🇦🇺 1800RESPECT: Call 1800 737 732 or text 0458 737 732, 24/7. Online support: https://www.1800respect.org.au
📍 Queensland DVConnect: Womensline - 1800 811 811 (24/7). Mensline - 1800 600 636.
🚨 In immediate danger, call 000.
You don't have to be certain that what you're experiencing is abuse to reach out for support.
🎧 1-800 CHATLINE - where we fuel your intrusive thoughts.
This time, we're also making space for the conversations that matter.
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Episode 33 – LOVE SPELLS, FESTIVAL CHAOS & DATING DJS | 1-800 CHAT LINE

On Episode 33 of 1-800 CHAT LINE, Amy Dickinson and Sasha Heath are officially entering their witchcraft era — because apparently swiping on dating apps wasn’t getting the job done.

And first things first… we have a NEW CATCHPHRASE. 🔮

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We kick things off with a formal apology before getting straight into this week’s chaos.

🏕️ Sasha’s Solo Festival Adventure
Sasha went to a camping festival ALONE with nothing but a duffel bag and vibes.

Naturally, she made friends, found her people and somehow managed to get herself into VIP.

Because if there’s one thing Sasha is going to do, it’s network her way into a better experience.

💘 Amy’s THREE-STEP Dating Program
Amy reveals her three-step approach to dating — because apparently we’ve reached the point where dating requires a formal strategic framework.

Consider this your unofficial guide to navigating modern dating.

🔮 WE’VE STOPPED SWIPING
Dating apps? Deleted.

Logic? Gone.

We’ve officially moved on to love spells, Post-it notes and witchcraft.

Yes, really.

Amy and Sasha unpack the increasingly unhinged lengths we’ll go to when we want the universe to deliver us a man.

🎧 THE PROS & CONS OF DATING DJs
Are DJs actually good boyfriend material?

We break down the perks, the red flags, the lifestyle, the late nights, the attention from other women and everything else that comes with dating someone who works in nightlife.

Because sometimes you want a boyfriend.

Sometimes you want a boyfriend who plays at 2am.

Sometimes you need to know what you’re signing up for.

🎧 IN THIS EPISODE:
• The brand-new 1-800 Chatline catchphrase
• Our formal apology
• Sasha’s solo camping festival adventure
• Going to a festival alone
• Making friends at festivals
• How Sasha got into VIP
• Amy’s three-step dating program
• Dating advice and modern dating
• Love spells and manifestation
• Post-it note witchcraft
• Dating apps vs. witchcraft
• Dating DJs
• The pros and cons of dating DJs
• Nightlife, relationships & dating
• Chaotic female conversations
• Dating stories, red flags & intrusive thoughts

If you’re here for dating advice, dating stories, relationship chaos, dating apps, love spells, manifestation, female friendship, festival stories, DJs, nightlife, modern dating and two women making questionable romantic decisions… this episode is for you.

🎧 1-800 CHAT LINE — WHERE WE FUEL YOUR INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS.

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On Episode 32 of 1-800 CHAT LINE, Amy Dickinson and Sasha Heath are bringing you some of their scariest dating stories yet — plus one absolutely unhinged life update.

🚨 Amy’s Friday Night Horror Story
Amy reveals how she was bashed in Brisbane’s Fortitude Valley by three women on Friday night. A completely unprovoked attack, three women, one very chaotic story… and obviously, we had to unpack it.

💍 The Girl They Date Before They Get Married
We discuss the universal experience of being that girl — the one a man dates before he suddenly settles down and marries someone else.

Except Sasha has a very specific grievance: she’s more devastated that her ex’s new fiancée has stopped watching her Instagram Stories since they got engaged.

Honestly? Understandable.

🚩 Our TWO Scariest Dating Stories
This week gets DARK.

Amy tells the story of the man who love-bombed her, swept her off to a remote farmhouse with his friends, and then verbally abused her — ending in a genuinely terrifying situation.

Sasha reveals how she accidentally dated a married Albanian man… and received a “hey girly” message from his wife WHILE SHE WAS STILL IN BED WITH HIM.

The wife then threatened to deport Sasha and claimed her family had connections to the Albanian mafia.

So, naturally, we discuss what could possibly be worse than finding out your date has a wife.

🚩 How to Spot Dating Red Flags Before It’s Too Late
From love-bombing and isolation to controlling behaviour and stories that simply don’t add up, Amy and Sasha break down the red flags they wish they’d recognised sooner.

📅 The August Dating Theory
And finally, we unpack the August dating theory — because apparently the month you meet someone might tell us something about where your relationship is headed.

🎧 IN THIS EPISODE:
• Amy’s Brisbane Fortitude Valley attack story
• Being the girl men date before they get married
• Sasha’s ex getting engaged
• The devastating loss of an Instagram Story viewer
• Amy’s love-bombing horror story
• The remote farmhouse dating nightmare
• Sasha accidentally dating a married Albanian man
• The “hey girly” wife message
• Albanian mafia threats
• How to identify dating red flags
• Love-bombing vs genuine interest
• Scary dating stories
• The August dating theory
• Dating, relationships, toxic men & female friendship

If you’re here for dating horror stories, relationship red flags, love bombing, toxic relationships, dating advice, chaotic female conversations, ex-boyfriends, Instagram drama and stories that sound too insane to be true… this episode is for you.

🎧 1-800 CHAT LINE — your unofficial hotline for dating disasters, female friendship, pop culture and the stories you probably shouldn’t tell anyone else.

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