Life Uncut

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Love Trapped Podcast
Keeshia - Virgin River on Netflix
Laura - La Casa Homewares
Then we jump into your questions!
MET A GUY BUT HE IS SO YOUNG
I‘m 36 years old and I met a guy on an intercontinental flight a month ago. It was weird, because even before ending up talking I felt completely relaxed around him and had the urge to rest my head on his shoulder (I didn’t btw). My friend, who was sitting across the aisle from me, even snapped a picture, because she thought we looked good together. In the final hour of the flight he finally started a conversation and that last hour just flew by. He asked for my number and texted me a few hours later and we’ve been texting ever since. I suspected he might be younger than me from the beginning, but didn’t put too much thought into it. He’s from a different country than me, works in the military and is currently deployed abroad. He has now invited me to his home country this summer and put together a full itinerary to give me a real experience of his home. And let’s just say our interests align 100%.
Yesterday I finally asked how old he is and it turns out that he is only 24 years old!This is a much bigger age gap than I would ever have imagined, because he comes across as very mature (more mature than many men my age honestly). But I‘m at a loss - how do I proceed from here? Interested to hear your take on this!
BF SAID IM NOT AT ATTRACTIVE AS OTHER GIRL FIRENDS (AFTER 8 MONTHS)
I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months and it has been the most amazing time. We’ve got similar values and hobbies, get along amazingly, have never fought once and have aligned goals for the future. From the moment we met, we haven’t stopped texting, our chemistry was amazing, and he was the first to introduce me to his family, as well as say I love you. True penguin material. Then 2 weeks ago, I asked him his thoughts on whether in a year’s time, we should move in together (we both live alone currently). He said he had to think about it, then two days later, he turned up at my house out of the blue in tears and said we needed to break up. When I asked him to talk through what had happened, he said something felt ‘off’ about us but when I asked if it was something I did, he couldn’t give me any examples. After talking it through, he agreed that he was having a meltdown from other life troubles and he wanted to give us another try.

Two days later, I asked him if being together is really what he wanted and he completely backflipped on having ever wanted to break up. He was extremely happy to stay together. When I asked him why, he paused and said ‘please don’t take this the wrong way, but you’re not as attractive as my previous partners. But I am attracted to you! More than enough! And I talked to my Dad about what’s important to me and everything else in our relationship is perfect!’ Given we met through an app, I didn’t alter my photos, plus we’d been together for 8 months, I thought that wouldn’t be an issue. But now I’m second guessing our relationship. What would you girls do in this situation? Extra info in case it helps with context, I’m 32, he’s 30, and we both came out of long term relationships, 1 year prior to getting together.
DO I GO FOR IT WITH MY SISTERS GROOMSMAN
Help- am I overthinking this? Last weekend was my sister’s wedding, a beautiful day celebrating love! One of the groomsmen, someone who went to uni with my now brother-in-law, was also single, and I sensed a kinda flirty vibe over the night. He has messaged me since and now I’m wondering if it is a bad idea to engage. He seems like a nice guy and our chats were lovely and lord knows the dating apps are not offering up anything better but if we date and it doesn’t really go anywhere, or worse it goes badly, then every time my family are reflecting on my sister’s wedding photos then BAM there will be this guy, and me, in the bridal party. Or worse, I make things awkward between my sister who has to be on my side and her husband who has been good friends with this guy for years.I’m leaning toward don’t engage because it’s not worth the potential drama but help me weigh up the pros and cons here.
FRIEND SWEARS AROUND OUR KIDS AND I DON'T KNOW HOW TO APPROACH
Hey girlies, I have a close group of girlfriends and we all had kids around the same time and catch up pretty often. The kids range in age from 18 months - 3.… I’m starting to notice varying parenting styles and one friend in particular often yells / swears at her toddler… but swears A LOT around the kids in a more general sense. It’s VERY different to how I parent. I don't yell or swear at my kid ever and try not to swear in front of my kids…. and it is starting to make me a bit uncomfortable. How would you navigate this? I haaaaaate confrontation but I feel like it might have a negative effect on my kid and that’s my biggest concern. Thanks guys, hope you can help me with this one
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Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend!
We chat:
Kim Novak “Would Never Have Approved” Sydney Sweeney Casting
Clavicular arrest goes viral after claiming that he is 6’2” when the authorities claim that he is 5’11”
AI Fruit Love Island FRUIT
Composer behind 'The Lion King' opening vocals sues comedian for $27M over 'Circle of Life' joke

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Lately, TikTok and Instagram have been flooded with content about something called “Trimester Zero”. It’s the idea that pregnancy preparation should start months (or even years) before conception. And while some of the advice is genuinely sensible, a lot of it veers into expensive, anxiety-inducing territory: detoxes, organ meat diets, “non-toxic everything,” DNA panels that cost thousands, and the suggestion that if you’re not doing all of this, you’re somehow failing before you’ve even conceived.
Today we’re joined by Dr Devini Ameratunga, a board-certified reproductive endocrinologist, gynaecologist and co-host of the Fertility Untamed podcast.
We speak about:
How common infertility is and whether it’s increasing
Is trimester zero marketing preying on vulnerabilities?
How common unexplained infertility is
Why we are finally speaking about how men’s health can affect fertility
Does men’s sperm quality affect miscarriage risk or nausea during pregnancy
Myth busting yes or no; folic acid, choline consumption, detox teas, organ meats, cutting out caffeine completely, giving up alcohol, expensive supplements, creatine and stress alone causing infertility
Dr Dev’s personal experience of Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) and how much it impacted her life

You can find more from Dr Dev’s website
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Fertility Untamed Podcast
Life Fertility Clinic
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Hey lifers!
Laura is FORTY and her birthday party is the gift that keeps on giving! There was no magician (there was however a very talented musician). Her alter ego Rara came out to play, the margaritas were free flowing, and the night ended with the neighbours doing something outrageous from the apartment block behind!
Britt also has a confession - she lied to get a job. Not a little white lie, a significant one. Have you ever lied to get a job?
It's been a rough week for Chappell Roan, and there are two big things colliding at once; the incident in Brazil with an 11-year-old fan and her security guard, and a growing conversation online about whether the brand she's built around herself actually holds up.
We speak about:
The Brazil incident - what actually happened and who is responsible
What celebrities actually owe their fans
The internet's "I got you" moment and whether this is a pile on
The halo effect; why we assume moral virtue across the board when someone stands for the right things
Her upbringing, Grammy Camp and whether she's feigned more hardship than she experienced
Whether criticising a system you've benefited from makes you a hypocrite
Why women with strong opinions and inconsistencies get cancelled faster than anyone else
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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning dilemmas!
Do you think 1 year olds should be having Easter hat parades? Do you think WE should have an Easter hat parade? (Only yes answers will be accepted).
Vibes for the week:
Britt: App Shortcuts -> Daily Declutter
Keeshia: Dynasty: The Murdochs on Netflix
Laura: Colour Me Kids

Then we jump into your questions!
MY COWORKER CRIES EVERY TIME SHE GETS FEEDBACK AND I'M LOSING MY MIND
I manage a small team and one of my staff members cries every single time I give her any feedback; even positive feedback with a small suggestion attached. The crying means I end up comforting her instead of actually finishing the conversation, and now I've started avoiding giving her feedback at all which I know is making things worse. She's actually good at her job and I like her as a person. But I am a manager, not a therapist, and I genuinely don't know how to do my job without it turning into an emotional crisis every time. What should I do?

HOW DO I TELL MY FRIEND SHES NOT INVITED ON OUR HOLIDAY?
Help! How do my best friend and I tell our other good mutual friend she’s not invited on our holiday? Hey girls! Love the pod and are in need of some big sister advice. My best friend and I are planning a 2-week international holiday. We’ve travelled together many times and are super excited. However, last time we went away we brought a third friend with us. We had a good time, however upon reflection we’ve both separately come to the conclusion that she doesn’t match our travel vibe and we’re generally not travel compatible.
My bestie and I have been friends for 10yrs now, but we fear our newer friend will be really hurt when she hears we’ve planned a trip just the two of us again. What is the best way to go about telling her? She can at times be quite sensitive (which we love and adore about her) and has had toxic friendships in the past which has left her being a bit insecure (she says this, it’s not us overanalysing her). The simple solution is just to invite her, but deep down we know we won’t enjoy our time and be able to relax if she comes. We don’t want to be bitches, but every way we look at it we just are the worst
I FEEL INADEQUATE AROUND MY PARTNERS SMART/RICH FRIEND GROUP
I am 30 years old, I work as a casual in 3 jobs. My partner is 32 and a doctor and business owner. We have been together for 3 years. His friends are lovely people and have always made an effort to make me feel welcome. However, every time I leave a gathering I feel less than. They all make at least 5x my income, all own properties (some quite lavish). When we go out to dinner it is often fine dining and we all split the bill. They think twice about booking business class flights, I think twice about purchasing coffee. They spent their youth in selective schools. I spent mine in intensive sports programs. They spent their 20s working hard for money, while I spent mine working hard on creative projects. They are all incredibly intelligent and witty. I find myself going quiet in the group, and blanking when I am addressed directly out of the anxiety of saying something stupid, which ironically makes me appear stupid.
I love my partner. He is a wonderful person. I just can’t help the intrusive thoughts that if I don’t fit in with his friend group, how is it that we fit together? I do sometimes worry that in an attempt to create a yin yang relationship, I am forcing myself into a box that I don’t fit into. And is that creating an unnecessary feeling of inadequacy. Is it putting too much external pressure to change my true core values of creativity and adventure? So my question is, have you ever experienced very real feelings of financial inadequacy in a relationship and how did you combat it? Secondly, when I raise concerns around these feelings to my partner, should he be doing more to placate me, or are my insecurities ultimately my problem?
FRIEND BEHAVED BADLY AND MAD I DIDN'T SIDE WITH HER
My best friend behaved badly and was mad at me because I didn’t side with her. My best friend of 20 years, let’s call her Sam, recently had a huge fight with her other friendship group. Long story short, there was alcohol involved and Sam said some rather horrible things to her friends including patronising comments about the unfortunate financial position of one, and mocking another’s recent breakup. I was not there for the incident, but had other people who were at the bar reach out to me to come and pick up Sam, plus her behaviour was so ‘big’ and ‘screamy’ that the incident was filmed and shared around our town. Sam’s version of events is very different to that of her friends, but the videos don’t lie and to be honest, everything she said in the moment are things she’s told me before. I have tried to raise it with Sam that she was unkind and needs to be accountable for her actions, but now she is mad at me for not siding with her.
A few years ago Sam helped me through a very rough patch and she’s brought this up, stating that I owe her for the help and support she once gave me. I don’t believe that her behaviour should be excused, and Sam should be held accountable for her nasty comments. I also don’t want to lose a friend of 20 years by not supporting her through this incident. What do you think I should do?
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