The Cathy Heller Podcast

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What if the same qualities that helped you become successful are making it harder to receive the relationship you actually want?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy, Cathy sits down with relationship coach Joel Monteleone for a deeply personal conversation about high-achieving women, hyper-independence, trust, dating, and what healthy masculine and feminine dynamics actually look like in a real relationship.

Joel explains why successful women can accidentally approach dating the same way they approach work: analyzing the problem, trying to figure out what they’re doing wrong, and looking for the perfect solution. But connection often asks for something very different. It asks us to be present, honest, playful, and willing to let another person actually know us.

Cathy opens up about how her own experiences taught her to associate independence with safety, why receiving a huge gesture of love from her former husband once made her panic, and the realization that letting another person take care of you creates intimacy because it requires trust.

They also talk about the stories we inherit about men and relationships, why our interpretation of an experience is not always the same as what actually happened, and how taking responsibility for your patterns is different from blaming yourself.

Joel and Cathy unpack the current conversation around “masculine men,” feminine energy, and the soft girl era, and why a healthy relationship is less about performing rigid roles and more about creating a dynamic where both people can lead, support, give, and receive.

This episode is for you if you’re successful in so many areas of your life but relationships still feel harder than they should, you find yourself overthinking dating, you struggle to let people take care of you, or you’re ready to create more trust and intimacy without becoming less powerful.

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What if the ambition, independence, and ability to “handle everything” that people admire about you are also protecting a much younger part of you that never felt fully safe, seen, or worthy?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy, Cathy sits down with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole for a deeply personal conversation about the Father Wound and the invisible ways it can shape our relationships, careers, self-worth, and ability to receive.

Terri shares how she spent years believing she was simply ambitious until a therapist asked whether she was running toward something or running away from something. That question helped her see how much of her achievement, overfunctioning, and high-functioning codependency was connected to a deeper belief that her worth depended on what she could accomplish or give to other people.

Terri walks through the process of identifying your own Father Wound Blueprint, honoring what happened without vilifying your father, learning to ask for and receive help, and allowing compassion for your parents’ humanity to emerge without using their pain to minimize your own. She also explains why you do not need to confront your father, or even have him alive, in order to do this work.

This episode is for you if you are exhausted from always being the capable one, you struggle to ask for help or let people show up for you, you notice yourself repeating painful relationship patterns, or you are ready to understand where your drive to achieve and prove yourself may actually come from.

Terri’s book Father Wound explores these patterns and the process of reclaiming worth, boundaries, and relational power.

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What if feeling healthier, more alive, and more connected does not require changing your entire life at once, but simply making the next choice that aligns with the highest version of you?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy, Cathy sits down with her friend Sanam Ghiyam for a conversation about the intersection of physical health, spirituality, desire, and what it really means to thrive. Sanam has spent years optimizing her own health and sharing what she learns with the people around her, and together she and Cathy explore why taking care of your body and deepening your spiritual life may be more connected than we realize.

They talk about the simple foundations Sanam returns to again and again, including sleep, resistance training, and nourishing food, as well as the role that peptides and GLP-1s can play when used thoughtfully with medical guidance. But the conversation goes much deeper than health hacks. Cathy and Sanam explore what it means to live with certainty without needing to control the outcome, why your desires may be pointing you toward the next version of yourself, and how sharing what you receive creates more abundance for everyone around you.

They also talk about starting small instead of trying to overhaul your life overnight, why who you surround yourself with matters, and how a few minutes of gratitude can completely change what you notice. Cathy shares a powerful story about asking God and her late father for guidance and receiving an answer in a way she never could have predicted.

This episode is for you if you feel overwhelmed by all the conflicting advice about health and longevity, you want to feel stronger and more energized as you get older, you are learning how to trust your desires without becoming attached to the outcome, or you want to become more available to the guidance, synchronicities, and blessings that may already be surrounding you.

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What if the reason your life does not feel like yours is not that you need more, but that you have spent so long becoming who everyone else needed you to be?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy Cathy sits down with Rachael Blumberg Chiprut, founder of PLATEFIT, coach, spiritual adviser, and speaker, for an honest conversation about what happens when a life that looks successful on the outside no longer feels true on the inside.

At 41, Rachael had the family, the businesses, the friends, and the life she thought she was supposed to want, but she was miserable. She shares the decision that began to change everything: taking alcohol out of her life, sitting with herself, and becoming radically honest about the fear, resentment, and beliefs that had kept her disconnected from who she really was.

Cathy and Rachael talk about why meditation needs to feel safe for your nervous system, how changing your inner world begins to reshape your outer one, and why manifestation is less about collecting things and more about deciding how you want to feel. They also explore the courage it takes to become visible, the unexpected gift inside judgment, and what becomes possible when you stop performing and allow yourself to be fully seen.

This episode is for you if your life looks good on paper but something still feels missing, you are afraid to use your voice or be seen, you are ready to release a habit or identity that no longer fits, or you want a simple way to begin creating a life that actually feels like yours.

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What if rejection isn’t proof that something went wrong, but the Divine Navigation System rerouting you toward what your soul is actually here to receive?

In this episode of Everything Is Energy, Cathy sits down with Yehuda Ashkenazi, senior teacher at The Kabbalah Centre, musician, composer, and creator of Sacred Sounds. Yehuda explains what it means to be a vessel for the Light: like the moon, we receive light not only for ourselves, but so we can reflect and reveal it to others.

They explore the difference between a partner who makes you comfortable and one who makes you better, and how relationships can support our transformation.

This episode is for you if life isn’t going according to plan, you’re making sense of a rejection or ending, or you’re ready to stop searching outside yourself for the wisdom and certainty already within you.

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Timestamps
0:00 The universal navigation system that reroutes you
1:58 What it means to be a vessel
3:57 How to access your soul when you feel alone
6:41 The dark side that's always litigating against you
9:00 Turning a problem into a challenge
10:31 When God wants to make you David, he sends Goliath
11:20 What Passover and freedom really mean for you
14:10 Certainty beyond logic
16:43 Praying for clear rejection, not a maybe
18:36 The mercy behind every "wrong turn"
19:19 Soul contracts, divorce, and staying friends
20:51 Mitzvot: advice, not commandments
23:04 What actually makes someone your soulmate
25:14 Finding peace in a world that never stops scrolling
27:35 Where to keep learning with Yehuda

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