On Attachment

In today's episode, we're talking all about the abandonment wound — and specifically, five scenarios that might unexpectedly trigger your fears and insecurities around abandonment. When we think about the fear of abandonment, we often imagine scenarios where someone physically leaves us—maybe a breakup or a loved one walking out the door. But the truth is, this fear can manifest in much more subtle and unexpected ways, especially for those of us with anxious attachment patterns.We'll cover:how periods of grief or loss can trigger abandonment fearsillness and wanting to be cared fordealing with unexpected life challengesperiods of transition or major life changesemotional overwhelm and the need for supportJoin my new membership, On Attachment Insiders today!Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Sydney Intensive - Buy tickets Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

In this episode, we dive into the growing issue of phone usage and its impact on relationship satisfaction, especially when one partner feels neglected, ignored and frustrated by the other's screen time. We explore why constant phone use can feel so personal, discuss strategies for approaching the topic constructively, and offer practical ways to set digital boundaries together. If you’re struggling with a partner’s phone habits, this episode will give you tools to foster more connection and understanding.Join my new membership community, On Attachment Insiders 🌎Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Sydney Intensive - Buy tickets Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

In this episode, we're exploring the common and very human experience of hoping an ex will come back after a break-up, saying they've changed their mind and want to reconcile. Whether you were left unexpectedly or the break-up was a long time coming, the hope that an ex will realise their mistake and come back can be powerful and all-consuming. I'll share some mindset reframes and tools to relate to your hoping differently, so you can validate yourself while still moving forward in a direction that supports your wellbeing and next chapter. Additional ResourcesBreak-up quizGuided closure meditationHigher Love course (save 50% with coupon code PHOENIX)Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Sydney Intensive - Buy tickets Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website

In this episode, we’re diving into how fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganised attachment) plays out in relationships. If you identify with this attachment style, you might notice certain patterns in your relationships that feel confusing or contradictory.Key points include:Feelings of instability in relationships: Many with fearful avoidant attachment feel fine when single, but painful emotions surface in relationships, often leading to blaming their partner.Impact of partner's attachment style: A hallmark of fearful avoidant attachment is the shift between anxious and avoidant behaviours, which can vary from one partner to the next depending on the attachment combinations. Idealising vs. villainising partners: There’s a tendency to place partners on a pedestal at times, but then quickly villainise them when triggered or threatened.Fear of intimacy vs. longing for connection: Fearful avoidants deeply crave closeness, but a core fear of rejection — often rooted in shame — makes true intimacy feel unsafe. Fear of betrayal and difficulties with trust are also common. Join On Attachment Insiders, my new membership community Upcoming Events Byron Bay Retreat - Apply now! 🏝️ Sydney Intensive - Buy tickets Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Check out my couples course, Secure Together (& save $200 with the code SECURE) Save 50% on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Visit my website