Healing For Love

• Inside Love Wisely: A Heart-Centred Journey to Rewrite Your Love Template

  Send us a textEnrollments are Open, Doors Close Wednesday 17th 11:59PM (AEST)In this short bonus episode, I’m giving you a clear picture of what’s inside my 12-week group coaching program, Love Wisely, which begins Wednesday, September 24th.This program is for women who are ready to break free from old relationship patterns - especially the pull toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners and finally rewrite their Love Template so they can choose relationships that feel safe, secure, and deeply fulfilling.Here’s what you’ll receive inside Love Wisely: ✨ Weekly 2-hour live group coaching calls (recorded if you can’t make it live). ✨ A private online portal with foundational schema lessons, guided worksheets, and meditations. ✨ A private Facebook group, a safe space for encouragement, connection, and support. ✨ Two powerful bonuses: the Healing Your Inner Child mini-course and the Elevate Your Worth audio lesson & self-hypnosis recording. ✨ A special follow-up session in February to help you stay focused, integrate what you’ve learned and start the new year grounded and clear. ✨ And for the first five women who enroll, a complimentary 75-minute 1:1 coaching session with me.Most importantly, Love Wisely is heart-centred. It’s designed to meet you exactly where you are. Whether you’re dating, taking a break, or feeling disillusioned, you’ll feel nurtured, supported and guided every step of the way.We begin September 24th and finish on December 17th - the perfect time to complete the program before the holiday season and walk into the new year with clarity, confidence, hope and a plan!👉 Doors close Wednesday, September 17th at midnight. Enrolment details are in the show notes.Support the show✨ Connect with Me 📷 Instagram: @drgemmagladstone 📧 Email: [email protected] 🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 🩷 Love Wisely NOW OPEN!! LIMITED NUMBERS 🌸 Secure your place - Doors close wed 17th 11:59pm 🌻 Support the Podcast Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here 🚩 The Red Flag ProjectGet instant access to the online course: Access now

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• 123. The Fears That Hold You Back: 5 Limiting Beliefs Keeping You From Healthy Love

  Send us a textGemma answers the most common questions she’s received about Love Wisely and widens the lens to address the deeper fears and limiting beliefs that stop women from changing their relationship patterns. You’ll learn how schemas (like abandonment, emotional deprivation, defectiveness/shame, subjugation, approval-seeking and unrelenting standards) quietly shape attraction, tolerance, and your choices and what it looks like to shift from fear-driven decisions to wise, Healthy Adult decisions.What You’ll LearnWhy “I want love” is not neediness and why there’s no shame in wanting a partner, the goal is a good partner.5 fears that keep you stuck (and the schemas beneath them):“What if I can’t change?” → defectiveness, hopelessness; how willingness and skills create traction.“What if I’m behind everyone else?” → inner critic, comparison traps; using the paradoxical theory of change (accept where you are to move forward).“I’ve tried before and it didn’t work.” → learned helplessness; why the right framework goes deeper than tips.“Maybe I’m not meant to find love.” → self-fulfilling prophecy; moving from fate to agency and changing actions that drive outcomes.“There’s no one for me / no one could love me as I am.” → defectiveness/shame; how this belief warps dating behaviour and tolerance for crumbs.Rewriting your Love Template: bringing unconscious maps into the light, strengthening your Healthy Adult, and re-parenting vulnerable parts so they’re not making dating decisions.A hopeful reframe: your beliefs are learned, not destiny and learned beliefs can be unlearned.Key Ideas & TakeawaysLimiting beliefs are echoes of the past, not predictions of your future.Compare yourself only to your own trajectory, not to others.No relationship is a waste if you extract the learning.Real change is skills + practice: noticing triggers, choosing different responses, and getting out earlier when needed.You already have an innate wisdom, schema work helps you hear it again.Who This Episode Is ForWomen who want a healthy, emotionally available relationship and are ready to stop repeating patterns with unavailable or narcissistic partners.Resources & Next StepsJoin Love Wisely (12-week transformational group coaching) - doors close Wed 17 September (midnight AEST). First 5 enrolments receive a complimentary 1:1 intention-setting call. Program starts Wed 24 September.Questions? Email [email protected] the show✨ Connect with Me 📷 Instagram: @drgemmagladstone 📧 Email: [email protected] 🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 🩷 Love Wisely NOW OPEN!! LIMITED NUMBERS 🌸 Secure your place - Doors close wed 17th 11:59pm 🌻 Support the Podcast Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here 🚩 The Red Flag ProjectGet instant access to the online course: Access now

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• 122. The Catch-22 of Attraction: Why We Want Love but End Up with Distance

  Send us a textWhen your heart wants closeness but your “old map” keeps pulling you toward distance, you’re stuck in the Catch-22 of attraction. In this episode, Gemma explains how early schemas quietly shape who you’re drawn to, why “chemistry” so often points you toward the familiar (not the healthy), and what it takes to consciously rewrite your Love Template so you can choose emotionally available partners.In this episode, you’ll learnWhat a schema is (quick primer) and why it’s more useful than attachment boxesHow the Abandonment schema fuels anxious preoccupation, magical thinking, and self-fulfilling patternsWhy Emotional Deprivation normalises giving a lot while rarely feeling seen or nurturedHow Defectiveness/Shame covertly lowers your standards and tolerates poor treatmentThe role of Subjugation and Self-Sacrifice in silencing yourself early, then staying too longWhy attraction isn’t random and how your Love Template (old map) picks partners for you on autopilotThe Healthy Adult shift: moving from familiar chemistry to choosing steady, emotionally available partnersKey takeawaysAttraction pulls toward what’s familiar, not necessarily what’s good.“I’ll just go with the flow” keeps you on autopilot; intentional dating rewrites the outcome.Knowledge is power BUT applied knowledge (with guidance) is transformation.Your patterns in romance often ripple into career, friendships, and self-worth, change one, and others shift.Try this this weekName your top 1–2 schemas you hear in this episode.Write one “Healthy Adult” decision you’ll make before your next date (e.g., “If communication is inconsistent in the first 2 weeks, I’ll opt out kindly and early”).List 3 signals of emotional availability you’ll move toward (e.g., follow-through, steady pace, repair after missteps).Resources & next stepsJOIN Love Wisely - NOW OPEN Enrollment closes 17th Sept ▶︎ Learn moreSupport the show✨ Connect with Me 📷 Instagram: @drgemmagladstone 📧 Email: [email protected] 🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 🩷 Love Wisely NOW OPEN!! LIMITED NUMBERS 🌸 Secure your place - Doors close wed 17th 11:59pm 🌻 Support the Podcast Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here 🚩 The Red Flag ProjectGet instant access to the online course: Access now

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• 121. When “Staying Friends” Costs Your Self-Respect: Trauma Bonds, Avoidant Partners & Letting Go

  Send us a textIn this episode I answer a listener Q from “Maddie,” who’s in post-breakup limbo with an avoidant ex. I unpack blurred boundaries after a breakup, why “staying friends” can quietly erode self-respect, how trauma bonds differ from schema-triggered dynamics, and what it really takes to let go when your abandonment schema is pulling you back. You’ll also get a simple Relationship Review exercise to spot your patterns so you can date with clearer self-trust next time.What we coverThe self-respect signal: why “staying friends” sometimes keeps you stuckLove-bombing vs. real intimacy (and why early declarations are a red flag)Trauma bonding 101: replication, familiarity and unmet needsAvoidant–anxious dynamics and why they feel magnetic but unstable“Hard work” vs. “healthy work” in relationships - a practical litmus testHow to let go: grief, no-contact, and naming your modes without self-criticismThe Relationship Review: a step-by-step way to map your patternsTry this (listener worksheet prompts)“Where did I override red flags because of fear, guilt or hope?”“Which parts/modes showed up in me (e.g., Pleaser, Angry Protector, Vulnerable Child)?”“How did I actually feel most of the time in that relationship?”“What does ‘emotionally available’ need to look like for me, specifically?”Resources mentionedEpisode 104: The Good, the Bad and the Bond (trauma bonding explainer)Free guide: Dating With Insight: A Tune-In After Every Date (reflective prompts to help you notice how you felt in their presence)Free live masterclass: The Psychology of Attraction - why chemistry isn’t random and how schema chemistry pulls you toward the wrong partnersLive: Wednesday 10 September, 7:00pm AESTReplay available to all who registerIs Love Wisely for you? If you’re a self-aware woman with a history of emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners AND you’re ready to rewrite your Love Template™ the next 12-week Love Wisely group starts late September. Warm, structured and practical. Support the show✨ Connect with Me 📷 Instagram: @drgemmagladstone 📧 Email: [email protected] 🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 🩷 Love Wisely NOW OPEN!! LIMITED NUMBERS 🌸 Secure your place - Doors close wed 17th 11:59pm 🌻 Support the Podcast Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here 🚩 The Red Flag ProjectGet instant access to the online course: Access now

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• 120. The Rescuer Complex: Why Saving Them Won't Heal You

  Send us a textWhy do caring, empathic women end up doing the heavy lifting in love, staying out of guilt and “rescuing” partners at the expense of their own needs? In this episode, Gemma unpacks the unconscious pull to fix others, how childhood patterns (self-sacrifice, subjugation, emotional deprivation) set the stage, and the real cost of over-functioning. You’ll learn how to shift from “fixer” to “feeler,” build healthy entitlement, and make self-supporting choices, even when guilt shouts loudly.Key TakeawaysRescuing often masks self-abandonment learned in childhood; guilt can keep you stuck. “Too much empathy” without objective distance leads to empathic distress and burnout. Ask: Am I a partner or a parent/therapist/saviour in this dynamic?Build healthy entitlement: your needs matter and boundaries are an act of care. Shift from fixing them to feeling you: journal, re-parent, seek support, and challenge all-or-nothing beliefs. Try This (Journal Prompts)“If I weren’t rescuing here, what feelings in me would surface?”“What belief equates caring for myself with hurting someone else?”“Where did I first learn that love = self-sacrifice?”“What would healthy reciprocity look like this week (one tangible boundary)?”Resources MentionedFree Live Masterclass (Sept 10) – The Psychology of Attraction: Why We Bond with Emotionally Unavailable Men (replay available).Work with Gemma – Coaching & the Love Wisely program (for women ready to rewrite their love template).Rate & Review If this helped you, a quick review on Apple or Spotify helps other women find the show. Thank you for being part of this work.Support the show✨ Connect with Me 📷 Instagram: @drgemmagladstone 📧 Email: [email protected] 🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 🩷 Love Wisely NOW OPEN!! LIMITED NUMBERS 🌸 Secure your place - Doors close wed 17th 11:59pm 🌻 Support the Podcast Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here 🚩 The Red Flag ProjectGet instant access to the online course: Access now

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