The Sabrina Zohar Show

Why does an avoidant ex look completely fine after the breakup while you're falling apart? In Part 2 of this 4-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down avoidant attachment after a breakup using actual attachment research, not the recycled TikTok takes. She explains what deactivation really means in the nervous system, why avoidants register as less distressed in the acute post-breakup period, and what's actually happening when they seem to move on overnight or jump straight into a new relationship.

You'll also learn the three types of avoidant reach-outs (suppression breakdown, the phantom ex phenomenon, and the rare real reach out), how to tell which one you're getting, whether avoidants can actually change, and why you keep responding even when you know better. Stay until the end for the Tool of the Week, the single most useful practice for anyone trying to heal from an avoidant discard, an anxious-avoidant dynamic, or a breakup where you can't stop wondering if you ever mattered to them.

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Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Inside the Avoidant Breakup

06:10 What Avoidant Attachment Really Is

10:45 Why Avoidants Don't Grieve at First

13:21 Avoidant Discard vs Breakup

17:08 The Suppression Study Explained

21:20 3 Types of Avoidant Reach Outs

25:37 Why You Keep Responding

28:21 Can Avoidants Actually Change

31:12 Healing Without Becoming Avoidant

33:40 Tool: Stop Predicting Their Feelings

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It's 2am, you've checked their Instagram three times, and your body still aches for the person you know wasn't right. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks the anxious attachment breakup: why anxiously attached people chase, ruminate, and spiral after a relationship ends, what new research reveals about the nervous system pull toward an ex, and the one move keeping most anxious people stuck in the loop.

This is part one of a four-part breakup series covering anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment styles. Expect honest talk on post-breakup rumination, no contact, withdrawal symptoms, self-abandonment, and how to stop chasing emotionally unavailable partners, plus a 30-second reframe to interrupt the spiral the next time your brain starts to loop.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 - The 2am anxious breakup spiral

04:54 - Why you feel withdrawal from your ex

07:08 - Rumination and the pull toward your ex

11:43 - Both sides of an anxious breakup

15:48 - Why your 2am thoughts feel true

17:21 - Self punishment after a breakup

20:23 - How to actually get over a breakup

24:45 - Why anxious people grow most

27:47 - Tool of the week: the reframe swap

31:12 - Grief vs self punishment

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In the first ever live coaching session of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with brand ambassador and content creator Judit Moreno for an unfiltered conversation about anxious attachment, the father wound, and why so many of us keep dating emotionally unavailable men. They unpack how childhood shapes adult relationship patterns, what love bombing does to your nervous system, and why self-abandonment can feel like home when chaos was your blueprint for love.

If you have ever wondered why you keep attracting the same partner in different bodies, spiraled in anxious attachment dating cycles, or felt like you are "too much" in relationships, this episode is for you. Sabrina walks Judit through real-time inner child work, reparenting, and the powerful mindset shift from wanting to be picked to actually choosing yourself. A must listen for anyone working on attachment theory, healing childhood trauma, and breaking toxic dating patterns for good.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

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Chapters:

00:00 First Live Coaching Session

05:15 Anxious Attachment & Father Wound

10:36 When Anxiety Takes Over Your Body

14:47 Be Picked vs. Picking Yourself

19:30 Toxic Love, Gaslighting & Cheating

24:38 Normalizing Chaos in Childhood

29:39 Why Chaos Feels Like Love

35:27 Who Are You Without Struggle?

41:08 Loving the Parts You Hate

46:13 Shame, Guilt & Reparenting

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We hurt in relationships, but we also heal in them. Sabrina sits down with Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, to map out the actual stages of healing attachment wounds: core wounds from childhood, unmet needs, subconscious rewiring, anxious attachment patterns, somatic work, and nervous system regulation. No secure partner is going to fix you, and this episode breaks down exactly why.

If you are stuck in the same dating cycles, doing all the personal growth content and wondering why nothing is sticking, this one is for you. Thais explains why self-awareness is not the same as healing, how to re-parent the unmet needs from your childhood, and the 21-day practice that patterns new beliefs into your subconscious mind. This conversation covers inner child work, attachment theory, and the deep reprogramming that actually changes how you show up in love.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

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Chapters:

0:00 Hurt In Relationships, Heal In Them

6:21 Why Your Subconscious Runs Your Life

11:32 You Can't Outsource Your Healing

18:55 Rewire Core Wounds In 21 Days

24:55 Unmet Childhood Needs Explained

29:49 Nervous System Regulation Truth

34:08 Somatic Processing For Triggers

41:21 How To Communicate Needs Clearly

47:33 Setting Boundaries Without Guilt

53:04 Rewire Anger And Reactive Behavior

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If you keep getting the ick with every person you date, the problem might not actually be them. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks shadow work and the ick, breaking down how the parts of yourself you rejected long ago are running your dating life, your relationships, and the triggers that send you spiraling over something small. This is why you keep walking away from available, kind, emotionally present people and calling it intuition.

Sabrina lays out the difference between shadow work, inner child work, attachment styles, and nervous system regulation, and why the healing work most people are doing only takes them so far. With neuroscience on projection, the amygdala, and unconscious self-perception, plus practical tools to track the charge underneath your reactions, this episode is for anyone ready to stop self-sabotaging in dating and finally build a secure, emotionally available relationship.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠ 

Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠ 

Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠ 

Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Why You Get The Ick With Everyone

03:30 Inner Child Work vs Shadow Work

07:08 What Shadow Work Really Means

09:28 Parts You Reject In Yourself

12:29 The Ick Decoded In Dating

15:42 Masculine Feminine Polarity Myth

18:37 Triggers In Your Relationship

22:32 Projection In Love (Yale Study)

26:14 Neuroscience Of The Shadow

29:38 How To Do Shadow Work Daily

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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