The Sabrina Zohar Show

Certainty in dating is a fantasy. There is no milestone, not exclusivity, not "I love you," not moving in, not marriage, that finally makes relationship anxiety go away. In this episode Sabrina breaks down why your brain would rather have a bad answer than no answer, how anxious attachment turns an unanswered text into a story about rejection, and why chasing, overthinking, testing, people pleasing, and checking your phone every five seconds are ways of managing anxiety rather than dating strategies.

She also separates the two kinds of discomfort: walking on eggshells, accepting breadcrumbs, and tolerating mixed signals and inconsistency, versus asking for what you need, setting boundaries, saying no, and letting someone leave. Plus the tool of the week, evidence versus story, a simple practice for catching the narrative your brain invents when you do not have all the information. Secure people are not secure because they have certainty, they have capacity.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Why certainty in dating is a fantasy

02:58 Why your brain needs an answer now

05:39 Overthinking texts and short replies

08:01 Why not knowing feels so stressful

10:24 Wrong discomfort vs right discomfort

13:12 Do they come back after a break?

15:54 Why control does not make you safer

18:38 Why you attract the same people

21:53 Tool: evidence vs the story

23:48 Why secure people have more capacity

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Do you go silent mid-argument and only find the words hours later in the shower? Stay in a situationship you can't end? Become whoever they need that week until you can't find your own taste anymore? In this vulnerable solo episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina unpacks the freeze, fawn, and flop behaviors that get mislabeled as being chill, low maintenance, or the "cool girl." She explains why people-pleasing is really self-abandonment, why going blank isn't you being broken, and why the avoidant "they don't care" story is a lie we tell ourselves to feel better.

Through raw personal stories about chasing older men, buying concert tickets to be chosen, and finally coming home to herself, Sabrina reframes these patterns as survival skills you can actually change. If you deal with anxiety, decision paralysis, overthinking, situationships, attachment wounds, or feeling "too much" or "too cold," this one is for you. There is nothing wrong with you, and it's time to stop earning everyone's love except your own.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Why You Shut Down Instead of React

02:20 Why Avoidants Really Pull Away

05:30 Why You Freeze in Hard Conversations

08:25 My Situationship and Self Abandonment

11:08 Decision Paralysis in Dating

13:32 Freezing and Coming Home to Yourself

16:38 People Pleasing and Losing Yourself

19:12 Why Your Body Freezes and Goes Numb

22:27 How to Stop Overthinking Right Now

25:31 There Is Nothing Wrong With You

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The disappearing. The suddenly busy. The phone that comes out the second eye contact gets real. In this episode of the nervous system series, Sabrina breaks down the flight response in dating and relationships: what's actually happening in the body when someone pulls back, why intimacy reads as danger, and why "I just need space" almost never has anything to do with space. Anxious and avoidant attachment both run this alarm, and we've spent years villainizing one and excusing the other instead of understanding either.

Inside: why going cold after a great date isn't self-sabotage, how hyper independence and fear of vulnerability get wired in childhood, why situationships are often two flight responses agreeing not to scare each other, and the difference between an explanation and an excuse.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

0:00 Why People Pull Away When It Gets Real

2:59 What The Flight Response Actually Is

6:06 Why We Villainize Avoidant Partners

9:38 The Anxious Avoidant Dance Explained

12:35 When Someone Says I Need Space

15:30 Why They Won't Let You In

18:17 Going Cold After A Good Date

21:10 How Flight Shows Up In Dating

24:50 What You Can't Control In Love

27:51 Tool Of The Week: Stay 10 Minutes

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Have you ever fallen for someone's potential instead of who they actually are? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down why we chase the idea of a person, get stuck in situationships, and keep betting on emotionally unavailable partners who flood us with attention but never follow through with intention. She answers real audience questions about getting discarded, obsessing over an ex, dating someone who won't commit, and knowing when a person is wasting your time.

If you struggle with falling hard fast, ruminating after a breakup, or self-abandoning just to get chosen, this one is for you. Sabrina shares how to build discernment, tell the fantasy from the reality, and finally choose yourself so you can stop pouring your energy into people who were never going to change.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠

Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠

Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠

Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

Chapters:

00:00 Falling For Someone's Potential

03:21 What Chasing Potential Really Means

06:31 Attention Vs Intention In Dating

09:53 How To Stop Thinking About Your Ex

13:14 If He Wanted To He Would

16:46 Situationship With No Future

20:01 Stop Wasting Time On The Wrong People

23:26 Texting Chemistry And Red Flags

26:34 Moving On From The Idea Of Him

29:29 Facts Vs Feelings: Choose Yourself

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If you have ever asked yourself what is wrong with me, or wondered why you take everything so personally, this episode is for you. Sabrina sits down with licensed psychologist Dr. Jacob Ambrose to unpack rejection sensitivity, why one comment can send you into a spiral, and where that deep fear of not being enough actually comes from. They get into the childhood core beliefs that convince you the problem is you, and how anxious attachment keeps you chasing outside validation just to feel okay on the inside.

From limerence and obsessive thinking to the anxious avoidant dynamic, holding onto hope after a breakup, and the myth of being discarded, this conversation reframes the traits you were taught to hate about yourself as the exact things that make you powerful. If you are ready to stop the self-attack, understand your patterns, and choose yourself instead of shrinking to keep everyone comfortable, press play, babe. You are not too much, and you are not broken.

Work with Dr. Jacob

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠HERE!⁠

If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

Get Ad free ⁠HERE!⁠

Watch on Spotify. Spotify subscribers get fewer ads on my video.

Want to work with Sabrina? ⁠HERE!⁠

Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show ⁠HERE!⁠

Don't forget to follow ⁠Sabrina⁠ and ⁠The Sabrina Zohar Show⁠ on Instagram and ⁠Sabrina ⁠on TikTok! Video now available on ⁠YOUTUBE!⁠

Chapters:

0:00 Why Do I Take Things So Personally

4:25 ADHD In Women vs Men

9:21 Stop Watering Yourself Down

14:23 Anxious Or Avoidant Attachment

18:09 Is It Always The Avoidant's Fault

23:12 Dopamine And Chasing Love

27:53 Rejection Sensitivity And RSD

32:41 Why Criticism Feels So Personal

36:33 The Myth Of Being Discarded

41:29 When Is Hope Healthy

Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity.
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