The Sabrina Zohar Show

Why do I keep choosing the wrong people? Why can't I let go of someone who won't choose me? If you're stuck asking "why," this episode is for you. Sabrina breaks down why self-awareness alone won't heal anxious attachment, how childhood patterns follow you into dating and relationships, and what Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation study shows about anxious and avoidant attachment: avoidants feel the panic too, they just hide it.

She also reads from Chapter 4 of her new book, Why Am I Like This?, about a dating story that taught her what self-abandonment really looks like. Learn the better questions to ask yourself, how nervous system regulation changes the story you tell yourself, and how to stop people pleasing and start choosing you.

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If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Stop Asking Why: Ask Better Questions

04:03 Why Self-Awareness Isn't Enough

07:06 How to Trust Yourself and Choose You

09:41 The Strange Situation Attachment Study

13:10 Family Patterns and Outgrowing People

16:04 Feeling Insecure? Stop Being Perfect

18:37 Childhood Trauma and Anxious Attachment

21:42 Abandoning Yourself to Get Chosen

25:09 Self-Abandonment Is a Trauma Response

28:41 Third-Person Self-Talk Stops Rumination

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Why does healing feel so hard, and why doesn't "regulating your nervous system" fix it? Nervous system expert Masha Kay returns to break down what the internet gets wrong about nervous system regulation, why regulation has become the new perfectionism, and what capacity really means in dating and relationships. We talk about why someone can love you and still not meet your needs, how to handle being triggered by a text, why "if he wanted to, he would" is bad advice, and what's actually going on when an avoidant partner shuts down.

Masha explains somatic experiencing and titration in plain terms, how to stop ruminating and overthinking, and why building stability in your whole life matters more than any quick trick for calming anxiety. If you're dealing with anxious attachment, a painful breakup, emotional triggers, or healing from childhood patterns, this episode gives you real tools for healing trauma, feeling safe in your body, and building healthier relationships.

Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Nervous System Regulation Myths

05:16 What Dysregulation Really Looks Like

10:44 Why Love Isn't Enough in Relationships

16:43 Healing Your Whole Life, Not Just Dating

22:27 Feeling Safe Around Difficult Family

27:08 Somatic Experiencing Explained

33:11 Titration: Why Slow Healing Works

38:38 Are You Really Doing the Work?

43:34 How to Handle Triggers in Dating

50:20 Avoidant Attachment and Overthinking

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How do you get over a breakup without making it mean something is wrong with you? In the final episode of the Things To Do and Not To Do series, Sabrina breaks down what to do and what not to do during and after a breakup, from why no contact matters (and why it shouldn't be used to make your ex miss you) to how to handle the urge to text your ex, stop ruminating, and accept that closure is a decision you make, even when you never get the conversation. She also covers processing anger and grief, moving on from someone who broke up with you months ago, staying civil with an ex you work with or co-parent with, and seeing your ex on dating apps.

Whether you got dumped or did the dumping, this episode will help you stop tying rejection to your self-worth, let go of who you hoped they would become, and heal after heartbreak without rushing it. Plus, Sabrina shares her tool of the week, the unsent letter, a simple exercise for releasing what you never got to say so you can finally move on.

Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 How to Handle Getting Dumped

03:12 Don't Make a Breakup About Your Worth

06:34 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Your Ex

09:08 Processing Anger and Grief After Breakup

11:48 Breakup Withdrawal and No Contact

14:30 How to Walk Away From an Ex

17:23 How to Get Closure After a Breakup

20:08 When You're the One Who Ended It

22:15 Seeing Your Ex on Dating Apps

24:42 Unsent Letter Exercise for Heartbreak

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The dos and don'ts of dating and relationships, from the first date to years in. Sabrina covers what to do and not do before, during, and after a first date: stop the endless texting, set boundaries and non-negotiables, watch for reciprocity and consistency, and stop falling for potential and breadcrumbs.

Then the relationship dos and don'ts: responding to bids for connection, communicating so your partner actually hears you, handling jealousy without surveillance, and keeping the dating habits that build a healthy, secure relationship.

Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Breadcrumbs and Bare Minimum Dating

04:22 Dating Dos and Don'ts Before a Date

07:18 Falling for the Idea of Someone

11:04 Big Conversations on a First Date

15:20 What to Do on a First Date

18:26 Why Texting Builds False Intimacy

22:36 Reciprocity and Consistency in Dating

25:25 Relationship Dos and Don'ts

29:11 Jealousy and Opposite Sex Friendships

33:46 How to Track Bids for Connection

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This one is about feeling behind. The belief that you missed your window, that everyone else got the memo, that whatever you want is off the table now because of your age. We are answering the questions you keep sending in: how to date after divorce without carrying the last relationship into the next one, how to stop treating the apps like a second job, whether age gaps actually work and where they stop working, and how to make the kids decision when everyone has an opinion about it except you.

We also get into why so many of us stay in relationships that are hurting us and call it love, what it actually takes to rebuild after a divorce or a breakup that flattened you, and why perimenopause is a conversation you should be having in your 30s instead of finding out at 47. Tamsen Fadal, journalist and author of How to Menopause, joins me for it. Nobody is behind. You are just on your own timeline.

Come see me on tour! https://sabrinazohar.com/tour

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at ⁠http://sabrinazohar.com/book⁠

Take the new and improved dating quiz! ⁠sabrinazohar.com/quiz⁠

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step ⁠⁠HERE!⁠⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 From News Anchor To Menopause Advocate

05:24 What You Look For Changes With Age

09:15 Divorce, Debt, And Starting Over

13:38 Knowing When To Leave A Relationship

18:48 What A Healthy Relationship Feels Like

24:19 The Pressure To Have Kids

29:35 How To Decide If You Want Children

35:58 Do Age Gaps Actually Work

40:12 Dating App Burnout And Discouragement

45:48 How To Stop Feeling Behind

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