The Hook Up

If you’re someone who seems to struggle in love, or you keep having the same fights in relationships - it might have something to do with what you learnt in your childhood. 
In this ep, Dee chats to psychotherapist Nichlolas Purcell about how much our parents/caregivers shape the patterns we emulate in love and how to start ‘doing the work’. 
SHOW NOTES:
Nicholas Purcell’s Guardian article - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jun/22/childhood-trauma-learnt-behaviours-narcissist-mother-avoidant-father-dysfunctional-adulthood
1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732 
Attached book - https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/about-the-book/
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

If you’re hooking up with someone who says they’re on a break, non-monog, ENM, or in an open relationship - do you need to do your homework and find out if they’re telling the truth? In this episode, we debate whether the ethics of investigating someone’s relationship status and hear your takes on whether it’s important to get evidence, if the burden of proof is on them, or if it’s none of your business.
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Summer Robert’s breasts have been growing excessively since she was 8 years old. She has an extremely rare and under-researched condition called Macromastia which means she doesn’t know when that growth will stop.
In this chat, she shares her experience and her journey with large boobs, her diagnosis, the impact it’s had on her life including dating and having sex, but also getting to a place where she’s really embraced them after becoming a huge creator on OnlyFans.
SHOW NOTES:
Most Extreme Humans: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2yrVMmiF9U
Eating Disorder Support - https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

We all know the classic hotspots when it comes to places on your body that turn you on like lips, breasts, nipples and genitals. But what about your undiscovered underdogs of pleasure - like belly buttons, outer thighs, fingers, ears and wrists? We find out all your erogenous zones from head to toe, how you discovered them and how you tell your partners to get all up in them.
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

When she was younger Bella Davis thought in order to be loved she needed to be thin. After years of hating her body and dating people who made her feel shit about herself, she decided she’d had enough and started posting about fatphobia on socials. 
Now Bella is a popular body acceptance content creator, happily married and about to become an author. In this chat, she shares her journey and advice on how to have a better relationship with your body. 
SHOW NOTES:
Would You Still Love Me If I Looked Different? Episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RQtbAV4jzMA&t=1225s
Bella Davis IG - https://www.instagram.com/isabelladavis6/?hl=en
Eating Disorder Support - https://butterfly.org.au/get-support/helpline/
DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au
The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.