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  • #1258 - A Gaming Exec on How Your Kids Are Getting Hooked
    Is your child’s gaming habit harmless fun—or something more serious? In this episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share highlights from an eye-opening conversation with Scott Novis, a former Disney and Nintendo gaming executive. They discuss how modern games are designed to hook kids using sophisticated psychological techniques, what parents can do to support healthier habits, and the small shifts that make big differences in digital wellbeing. KEY POINTS The "Hooked Algorithm": Modern games use cues, unpredictable rewards, and psychological manipulation to drive compulsive use—especially among kids. Addiction Is by Design: Notifications, in-game incentives, and persistent online features are engineered to steal attention and limit agency. Console Games vs. Online Games: Games played offline on a console with a defined endpoint are less addictive than online, never-ending games. Digital Detox Strategies: Removing screens, increasing nature time, and focusing on physical activity can reset unhealthy patterns. Agency is the Key: Healthy gaming promotes a sense of control and mastery. Unhealthy games rob kids of their agency and drive compulsive behaviour. Warning Signs: Sleep disturbances, sneaky screen use, emotional outbursts, or secretive behaviours may signal an unhealthy gaming relationship. Parents Aren’t Immune: Even adults struggle with screen control—our own detox experiences can inform how we guide our kids. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “Are these games reinforcing their sense of agency—or deleting it?” — Scott Novis RESOURCES MENTIONED Upcoming full interview with Scott Novis (drops Saturday) Book: Stolen Focus by Johann Hari (referenced) HappyFamilies.com.au – screen-time webinars and parenting resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Know the Hook: Understand how modern games manipulate attention and behaviour using psychological rewards. Audit the Games: Prioritise offline games with defined endings. Avoid always-on, online, in-app-reward-driven games. Turn Off Notifications: Disable alerts to reduce temptation and constant interruption. Create Tech-Free Routines: Set clear screen bedtimes and keep devices out of bedrooms. Watch for Warning Signs: Pay attention to sleep issues, irritability, or secretive behaviours. Detox Together: Plan regular family screen detoxes—go offline, get into nature, and rediscover agency. Talk Openly: Ask your kids how games make them feel—listen without judgement and create a collaborative plan for balance. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • #1257 - Connecting When You're Always Correcting
    What do you do when every interaction with your child feels like a battle? Today we respond to a mum’s heartfelt question about her 11-year-old daughter, who is struggling with screaming, lying, and constant conflict. We explore the psychological needs behind difficult behaviour and share practical, compassionate strategies for rebuilding connection—especially when all you feel like doing is correcting. KEY POINTS Challenging Behaviour Is Communication: Kids act out when their basic needs—connection, autonomy, and competence—aren’t being met. The Correction Trap: When every interaction becomes about control or discipline, children feel unseen, unheard, and undervalued. Slow Down to Reconnect: Rebuilding the relationship requires presence, patience, and sometimes stepping completely away from “the agenda.” Parental Self-Awareness Matters: Many parents unintentionally undermine connection through well-meaning but misdirected responses. Lifestyle Matters: Sleep, nutrition, movement, screen time, and social connection all have huge impacts on emotional and behavioural wellbeing. The Psychological Load of Puberty: Eleven is a big age—especially for girls. Body changes, identity confusion, and peer pressures amplify emotional volatility. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE “If you want to speed it up, you’ve got to slow it down. If you want control, you’ve got to give them voice.”— Dr Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED Book: Misconnection: Why Your Teenage Daughter Hates You, Expects the World & Needs to Talk by Dr Justin Coulson Podcast Reference: Pop Culture Parenting by Billy Garvey Research Mentioned: Sapiens Lab study on early device use and mental health ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS Pause the Correction Cycle: Focus less on behaviour and more on what your child might be trying to communicate. Rebuild Connection: Prioritise quality time—go for a bike ride, hit the beach, or just be together with no agenda. Validate & Listen: Show your child you see and hear them, even if you don’t agree with their behaviour. Assess Lifestyle Factors: Review sleep, nutrition, screen time, physical activity, and relationships. Reflect on Your Responses: Ask yourself—are your well-intentioned actions unintentionally adding fuel to the fire? Give Her Voice: Offer choices, listen to her preferences, and include her in problem-solving. Get Support if Needed: If mental health concerns persist, seek help from professionals. Find us on Facebook or TikTok Subscribe to the Happy Families newsletterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • #1256 - The Sweet Spot: Overscheduled or Underplayed
    Is your child’s schedule packed from morning to night—or are they struggling with too much downtime? Today we explore the pressure parents feel to provide enrichment, the unintended consequences of overscheduling, and why finding the "sweet spot" of activities matters. Plus, we give practical, compassionate guidance to help families strike a healthy balance between stimulation, growth, and the simple joys of being a kid. KEY POINTS: The Pressure to Perform: Some communities foster competitive parenting cultures where success is measured by how "busy" and advanced kids are. Overscheduling Risks: Too many activities, especially at a young age, can lead to burnout, injury, anxiety, and screen dependence. The Value of Boredom: Downtime activates the brain’s default mode network, critical for identity formation and creativity. Joy Over Achievement: Extra-curriculars should feel like a highlight of the week—not a chore. Parental Motivations: Sometimes we push activities to validate our own efforts, not because they truly benefit the child. Finding the Sweet Spot: One or two joy-filled, child-led activities per week—plus unstructured time for play and connection—is often enough. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Sometimes the best thing for a child is simply the freedom to be a child.” — Justin Coulson RESOURCES MENTIONED: Happy Families Website: happyfamilies.com.au Justin Coulson's books and parenting presentations (particularly on resilience and child development) ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Evaluate Motivations: Ask yourself if the activities your child is in are for their growth—or your peace of mind or pride. Limit Activities: Aim for 1–2 extracurriculars per week, chosen based on your child’s genuine interests and capacity. Prioritise Unstructured Play: Make space for relaxed, screen-free time with friends or solo play to develop creativity and identity. Watch for Burnout Signs: If your child resists or dreads their activities, it may be time to scale back. Invest in Family Time: Schedule regular, quality time together. Family connection is foundational to wellbeing. Redefine Boredom: Don’t rush to fill every moment. Boredom can be a gateway to deeper thinking and imagination. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • #1255 - Helping Your Kids Understand Sex, Puberty & Consent – Featuring Michelle Mitchell
    In this warm and essential conversation, Dr. Justin Coulson sits down with author, educator, and parenting expert Michelle Mitchell to explore how parents can navigate conversations around sex, puberty, consent, and identity with their children aged 8–12. Michelle shares insights from her book Where Do Babies Come From?, offering parents practical tools to talk about tricky topics with clarity, confidence, and compassion. KEY POINTS: Parents often feel unsure or awkward when kids ask about sex, reproduction, or body changes—but avoiding the topic can lead to misinformation and anxiety. Michelle's book is written for kids aged 8–12 and includes age-appropriate detail, wraparound values, and medical illustrations to provide clarity and context. Talking about sex should include conversations about respect, emotional intimacy, and consent—not just the mechanics. Children benefit from being book “bosses”—given agency and choice about how, when, and with whom to learn this information. Respecting a child’s privacy and emotional readiness is crucial; discomfort is normal and protective. Conversations about consent start with everyday experiences: knocking before entering, asking before touching, and even checking in before offering advice. Identity and family story matter deeply—every child deserves to feel seen and safe, no matter how they came into the world. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “If you don’t ever want that to happen to your body, you don’t have to—because anything to do with sex is 100% your choice.” —Michelle Mitchell RESOURCES MENTIONED: Where Do Babies Come From? by Michelle Mitchell The Girl’s Guide to Puberty and The Guy’s Guide to Puberty by Michelle Mitchell Michelle Mitchell’s website: www.michellemitchell.org Happy Families Website: www.happyfamilies.com.au Australian Government's Consent Can’t Wait Campaign ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Start Early: Begin conversations around body parts, privacy, and consent well before puberty. Choose the Right Resources: Use age-appropriate books like Michelle's to guide your conversations and revisit them often. Normalise Curiosity: Let your children know it’s okay to ask questions—nothing is off-limits. Respect Autonomy: Ask if your child wants to read with you or alone; offer space but stay present and open. Model Consent Daily: Ask permission before touching or offering advice to build mutual respect. Value Connection Over Perfection: You don’t need to have perfect answers—just be available and genuine.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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  • #1254 - The Subtle Art of Slowing Down (or Why Doing Less Can Bring You Closer)
    Sometimes, the best thing we can do for our family… is slow down. In this reflective I’ll Do Better Tomorrow episode, Justin and Kylie Coulson share the power of pausing, being present, and choosing connection over control. From Sunday night beach walks to heartfelt conversations with teenage daughters, this episode is a gentle reminder that the simple moments matter most. KEY POINTS: Presence > Productivity. Slowing down, ditching the schedule, and being together—like a spontaneous walk after dinner—can be the reset your family needs. Connection is the goal. Whether you're navigating tough teen years or sharing a sunset, strong relationships grow from time, conversation, and attention. Repair matters more than perfection. Every parent will make mistakes. What counts is how we acknowledge, repair, and grow through them. Children are wired to connect. They want close relationships with us. Our job is to not let ego or defensiveness get in the way. Grace + ownership = healing. When your child opens up about past hurt, resist defensiveness. Instead, acknowledge it, own it, and seek forgiveness. QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: “Our children are biologically wired to connect with us. We’ve just got to make sure we don’t get in the way of that.” RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Parenting Revolution – Dr Justin Coulson’s latest book Happy Families School Membership – For parent engagement and wellbeing resources ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS: Plan nothing. Take one evening this week to leave the agenda behind. Go for a walk, sit together, be still. Check in deeply. Ask one of your kids: “What’s been hard for you lately?” And listen—fully. Apologise when needed. If your child opens up about hurt or resentment, resist the urge to defend. Acknowledge their truth and offer a sincere, humble “I’m sorry.” Model forgiveness and grace. Let your children see that love doesn’t require perfection—just connection and accountability. Strengthen the bond. Say “yes” to spontaneous togetherness. It might become a memory your child cherishes forever.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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About Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

The Happy families podcast with Dr. Justin Coulson is designed for the time poor parent who just wants answers now. Every day Justin and his wife Kylie provide practical tips and a common sense approach to parenting that Mums and Dads all over the world are connecting with. Justin and Kylie have 6 daughters and they regularly share their experiences of managing a busy household filled with lots of challenges and plenty of happiness. For real and practicable advice from people who understand and appreciate the challenges of a time poor parent, listen to Justin and Kylie and help make your family happier.
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