Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

Your kids might roll their eyes at you today, but the little things you do as a family could become the memories they treasure for a lifetime. Justin and Kylie share why family traditions matter, how unexpected moments become lasting rituals, and why parenting doesn't always come with the answers. From teenagers who are embarrassed by their parents to a Christmas tradition that nearly got cancelled, this episode is a reminder that the small things often mean the most.
KEY POINTS:
Why parenting doesn't always go to plan, even when you're doing everything right.

Learning to let teenagers grow up without taking their independence personally.

Why family traditions create belonging, identity and lasting memories.

How everyday routines like Sunday dinners can become the traditions children cherish.

Simple ways to create meaningful family traditions without spending money.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
"Traditions often just happen because of what you do with your family on a regular basis."
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
Think about the little things your family does regularly. Could they already be traditions?

Start a simple ritual, such as Sunday dinner, a family walk or dancing in the kitchen.

Ask your children which family traditions matter most to them.

Don't panic when parenting doesn't go to plan. Keep showing up and give your children room to grow.

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Is smacking really harmless if you grew up with it? A new Australian study reveals just how many parents still believe physical punishment is acceptable, even when it involves hitting a child with a wooden spoon or across the face.
Justin and Kylie unpack the research behind smacking, challenge the familiar "I turned out fine" argument and explain why physical punishment doesn't teach children the lessons parents hope it will. More importantly, they share a better way to handle challenging behaviour without hurting your child.
KEY POINTS
What a new Australian study reveals about attitudes towards smacking.

Why "I turned out fine" isn't proof that physical punishment is harmless.

What six decades of research tell us about smacking and children's behaviour.

The links between physical punishment, aggression and mental health struggles.

Why smacking may achieve short-term compliance but doesn't create lasting change.

How to use problem-solving conversations to teach better behaviour.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
"Discipline not as an opportunity to hurt our child, but an opportunity to help our child."
RESOURCES MENTIONED
The Fallacy of the 'I Turned Out Fine' Argument The New York Times article by Justin Coulson

Parenting books, articles and free podcast resources at happyfamilies.com.au.

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Notice when you're reaching for punishment out of frustration.

Wait until everyone is calm before addressing challenging behaviour.

Talk with your child about what went wrong and how to prevent it happening again.

Give your child a chance to help create family rules and solutions.

Focus on teaching the behaviour you want to see, rather than punishing the behaviour you don't.

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Bedtime shouldn't end in arguments every night. Justin and Kylie share practical ways to help older kids wind down, stick to routines and take more responsibility for getting enough sleep. From screen time and dimming the lights to giving teens more control over bedtime, discover how to make evenings calmer and mornings less stressful.
KEY POINTS
Use the Three E's approach: Explore, Explain and Empower to work through bedtime struggles together.

Set consistent evening routines for dinner, showers, homework and getting ready for bed.

Reduce screen time in bedrooms and use dim lighting or music to help everyone wind down.

Slow the evening down with family time and a shared tidy-up.

Give older kids more independence by focusing on getting up on time and managing the consequences of late nights.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“You go to bed when you go to bed. So long as we don't have any problems in the morning, we're all good.”
RESOURCES MENTIONED
Happy Families: happyfamilies.com.au
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Set aside time this weekend to talk with your kids about what's making bedtime difficult.

Agree on a realistic evening routine that everyone understands.

Check whether screens are keeping your kids awake or making it harder to wind down.

Try dimming the lights and slowing down the pace of the evening.

Give older kids more say in their bedtime while setting clear expectations for getting up in the morning.

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What keeps a relationship strong when life gets hard? Justin and Kylie Coulson unpack 24 years of Australian household data to explore what makes relationships thrive. From sharing the mental and physical load at home to surviving the stressful years of raising children, discover why relationship satisfaction can dip for decades before reaching its highest point yet.
KEY POINTS
Why sharing the load at home matters more than you might think

How money, housework and parenting pressures affect relationship satisfaction

Why relationships can feel harder during the years of raising children

What changes as couples move into their 40s and 50s

How communication, trust and teamwork help couples stay connected

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE
“When you trust one another, when you believe the other person is going to act in your best interests, and you see that on repeat because they do, that's when people feel high levels of relationship satisfaction.”
RESOURCES MENTIONED
HILDA Survey (Household, Income and Labour Dynamics in Australia)

The Ape That Understood the Universe by Steve Stewart-Williams

A Billion Years of Sex Differences by Steve Stewart-Williams

ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS
Talk honestly about whether the workload at home feels fair to both of you.

Ask your partner what has been feeling hard lately and listen without getting defensive.

Look for small ways to show your partner they can rely on you.

Remember that you are on the same team, even when you contribute in different ways.

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Nine in 10 teens who get periods regularly experience pain, and around half report moderate to severe symptoms. In this episode, Dr Justin Coulson speaks with paediatrician Dr Anthea Rhodes from the Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne about why so many girls are missing school, sport and social events because of period pain. They unpack the myths parents need to stop believing, how to recognise when pain needs attention, and practical ways to help teens feel supported. Plus, learn why boys need to understand periods too and how families can make these conversations less awkward.
KEY POINTS:
Why period pain shouldn’t be something teens simply have to endure

The signs that pain is interfering with everyday life

Why boys and dads need to understand periods

Practical ways to make period products and support accessible

How to start conversations when teens feel embarrassed asking for help

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE:
“Just because something’s common doesn’t mean there aren’t things that you can do to actually make that better.” Dr Anthea Rhodes
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Royal Children’s Hospital Melbourne Teen Health Info and Kids Health Info fact sheets, plus resources from the Pelvic Pain Clinical Network.
ACTION STEPS FOR PARENTS:
Ask your teen how their period affects school, sport and friendships.

Take pain seriously, especially when it stops them participating in everyday activities.

Keep period products and suitable pain relief accessible at home and in the car.

Make conversations about periods normal, not embarrassing.

Speak with your GP if symptoms are persistent, severe or not improving.

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