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• Nell Frizzell on journeying through the panic years, the tracksuit years and the partial eclipse

  [RE-RELEASE] There's a good chance you haven't listened to today's episode, but you may have heard Loz and Lu bang on about it a million times. It was originally published in November 2023 when Lu/Lucinda was pregnant with Posie, and it's one of our favourite episodes of all time. We're re-releasing this episode today because not only is Lu currently in talks with Nell to get her back on the show after the birth of her second baby, Lu is also on the last week of her van trip and let's just say there was a little bit of mismanagement on her end with some edits. So today, a BRILLIANT re-release that's worth a re-listen. And if it's your first time, you're in for an absolute treat. Lu is back home and back to business next week.Nell Frizzell might just be one of the wisest and funniest people I've ever had the pleasure of speaking to. She's a journalist, an author, and a mother, and she writes with the sort of candour and kind sense of authority that makes you trust her immediately.My dog-eared copies of her books - The Panic Years and Holding the Baby - are completely battered and bruised, such is the wisdom and comfort that her words bring to exploring gender, motherhood, politics, and culture.Here, we talk about the flattened female identity of motherhood, why mothers feel the need to hide their children in order to be taken seriously, and her experiences moving through the flux, the panic years, the tracksuit years and the partial eclipse.---This episode of Witching Hour is brought to you by Our Pilates - physio led, on-demand pilates classes designed for new mums of all fitness levels and at any stage of their postpartum journey.We particularly love the eight week postnatal program. Designed and instructed by Han, a physiotherapist and mother of two with over 15 years of experience, this program is the perfect way to gain strength in a way that is safe, can be done within the comfort of your home, And guess what? They're giving Ready or Not listeners a month of free classes.To redeem your complimentary month of Our Pilates and access a huge library of Pilates classes, simply head to their website in our show notes (https://ourpilates.com.au) and enter the code READYORNOT when creating an account and select their monthly membership option.---Thanks for listening to Witching Hour! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.podThis podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

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• Does your resentment reach 'volcanic' levels? | Witching Hour

  Welcome back to another episode of Witching Hour, the show where two cousins and mums of two banter all things making work, work alongside motherhood. Today on the show:New Australian data exposes grim fact men don’t want to admit (news.com.au). So, are the men that are guilty just oblivious, or are they just getting away with it? (Read the article attached that volcanic levels of resentment quote here).And a soft landing for Lu today because she's still on the road – here, she gives you a bit of an update as to what caravanning with a one year old and three year old has been like.--This episode of Witching Hour is brought to you by Our Pilates - physio led, on-demand pilates classes designed for new mums of all fitness levels and at any stage of their postpartum journey.We particularly love the eight week postnatal program. Designed and instructed by Han, a physiotherapist and mother of two with over 15 years of experience, this program is the perfect way to gain strength in a way that is safe, can be done within the comfort of your home, And guess what? They're giving Ready or Not listeners a month of free classes.To redeem your complimentary month of Our Pilates and access a huge library of Pilates classes, simply head to their website in our show notes (https://ourpilates.com.au) and enter the code READYORNOT when creating an account and select their monthly membership option.---Thanks for listening to Witching Hour! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.podThis podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

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• Why “I’ll just do it myself” is keeping you stuck (and how to stop) | Ask Ready or Not

  Welcome back to Ask Ready or Not! It’s Ready or Not’s tip-based episode, landing in your ears every Friday. Today, Loz is calling out a habit that so many mums fall into: the “I’ll just do it myself” mindset. Whether it’s at work, home, or in relationships, taking everything on alone might feel easier in the moment—but in the long run, it’s exhausting and holding you back. In this episode, Loz unpacks why we struggle to delegate, how to get comfortable asking for help (without feeling guilty), and why letting go of control is the key to actually having more time, energy, and mental space. If you’re drowning in responsibilities, this one’s a must-listen.---Thanks for listening to Ask Ready or Not! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.podThis podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.We Pay The Rent and you can too here.

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• BONUS: Psychologist Sarah Garby answers your questions on navigating motherhood & mental health

  In part 2 of our conversation with Sarah Garby, she jumps on the mic solo to answer your listener questions:1. How do I cope with my two and a half year old? The emotions are intense.2. How do I overcome mum rage and better communicate with my partner?3. Tips for how to cope with mess, loud noises, and minimal alone time to regulate.4. Tips for mums with adhd -- how can I regulate with no spare time? (Similar to the above so feel free to call that out and maybe there's something more adhd specific to add here?)5. How do you suggest feeling paralysed by loneliness?6. How do I deal with the anxiety side of feeling bad and stressed out about people looking after my baby?7. What's the line between PND & just being tired and frazzled? How do I tell the difference?8. It's obviously so important for us mums to do the work and I think we are really good at being proactive about getting help so we don't pass our stuff onto our children. But how do we get dads to do the same? So many of our partners are passing their shit down to their kids but are so much more reluctant to look within as the source. Please help!9. How do we better support each other without projecting our own motherhood stories on each other?---Thanks for listening to Ready or Not! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.podThis podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.We Pay The Rent and you can too.

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• How to cope with the noise of modern parenting with psychologist Sarah Garby

  Sarah Garby is one of those people that just feels good to be around, and I think after listening to this conversation, you'll agree that it comes as no surprise that she found her passion in psychology. She's a mother of two. She's navigated very different births and like me, she found the transition from one to two far more challenging than zero to one. I was interested to know then, as someone who's found her niche in perinatal mental health, how does a psychologist move through and make sense of her own motherhood journey?What comes up for her? Does she analyse herself the way she does her clients? And what does she see as the most common challenges that mothers are facing today? Here we talk about the importance of mental maintenance, why a psychologist will often have their own psychologist, and in part two, Sarah also answers your questions around mental health and motherhood. I think I put that little question box up a little bit too late on Instagram because so many of you added questions after this recording, so immediately after this episode, jump into part two where Sarah answers another seven listener questions solo.Part two is absolutely brilliant. It's so interesting when you hear a friend of yours in their sort of smart work mode, and it's already helped my mindset immeasurably, so I know it will do the same for you. But first...part one.--This episode is brought to you by Our Pilates - physio led, on-demand pilates classes designed for new mums of all fitness levels and at any stage of their postpartum journey.We particularly love the eight week postnatal program. Designed and instructed by Han, a physiotherapist and mother of two with over 15 years of experience, this program is the perfect way to gain strength in a way that is safe, can be done within the comfort of your home, And guess what? They're giving Ready or Not listeners a month of free classes.To redeem your complimentary month of Our Pilates and access a huge library of Pilates classes, simply head to their website in our show notes (https://ourpilates.com.au) and enter the code READYORNOT when creating an account and select their monthly membership option.---Thanks for listening to Ready or Not! If you liked the show, please tell your friends, subscribe or write a review. You can also find us on Instagram at readyornot.podThis podcast was recorded on the lands of the Boon Wurong people of the Kulin Nation. The land on which we're lucky enough to raise our sons and daughters always was and always will be Aboriginal land.We Pay The Rent and you can too.

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