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The End of an Era
The first episode of ON BOYS podcast went live March 12, 2018. Seven years ago!Over the past seven years, we’ve talked to guests from around the globe: Maggie Dent, Michael Gurian, Amy Lang, ADHD Dude Ryan Wexelblatt, Steve Biddulph, Richard V. Reeves, Ruth Whippman, and so, so many others.We’re talked about puberty, porn, school, ADHD, autism, entrepreneurism, motivation, sports, suicide, consent, respect, dating, and – again — so, so much more.Jen’s boys grew up in that time. Her youngest is now 19; her oldest, 27. Janet became an Oma (a grandma) — and is looking forward to welcoming two more grandchildren this year! Boys’ & men’s issues are now part of national and international conversations, and we hope those conversations fuel continued change. Boys need and deserve our love and support too.This will be the last Jen-and-Janet episode of ON BOYS podcast. We’ve loved sharing our lives & learning with you, and we thank you for trusting us with your questions and stories.Remember: We’ve got seven years of content in our archives! When a new boy-raising concern comes up, run a search in our archives. Odds are good that you’ll find something to help you through. Jen will also continue her Substack newsletter, Building Boys Bulletin, so you can connect with her there. Janet will also continue family coaching — and soon, Jen & Janet will offer another session of their popular class, Boost Boys’ Motivation. (Want to be sure you get the info as soon as it’s available? Sign up for Building Boys Bulletin.)Building Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World That Misunderstands MalesGet Jen’s book here Breakthrough Session for Family CoachingSchedule your no-cost call with Janet at https://boysalive.com/call Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Raising Awe-Seekers (w Deborah Farmer Kris)
Raising Awe-Seekers, the first parenting book by author Deborah Farmer Kris, outlines a transformative approach to parenting based on joy, wonder, and curiosity. Science, Deb says, shown that awe isn’t just a feel-good experience—it also helps kids develop resilience, strengthen relationships, and manage stress. But in a world filled with distractions and negativity, how do we nurture awe in everyday life?Educator and author Deborah Farmer Kris joins Jen & Janet to discuss insights from her new book, Raising Awe-Seekers: How the Science of Wonder Helps Our Kids Thrive. She explains why awe is essential for children’s emotional well-being and how simple, daily moments—like watching a sunset, listening to music, or witnessing an act of kindness—can shape a child’s perspective and growth.“Awe helps kids zoom out,” Deborah says. “It reminds them they’re part of something bigger.” And here’s the best part: You don’t need to take your kid on an epic adventure to cultivate awe—you just need to pay attention.Takeaways:Awe can motivate positive action and change.Awe can reduce stress and improve mental health.Collective experiences of awe foster community and belonging.Curiosity is closely linked to experiencing awe.Fostering curiosity in children enhances their learning capabilities. Five minutes a day with your child is protective.Attention restoration theory helps improve focus and learning.The single most common source of awe is goodness.Awe and wonder can transform parenting.Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Raising Awe-Seekers: How The Science of Wonder Helps Our Kids Thrive, by Deborah Farmer KrisRaising Awe-Seekers — Deborah’s Substack newsletterHope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness, by Jamil ZakiDeborah Farmer Discusses Emotional Literacy (& Awe!) — ON BOYS episodeBuilding Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World That Misunderstands MalesGet Jen’s book here Breakthrough Session for Family CoachingSchedule your no-cost call with Janet at https://boysalive.com/callAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Listener Q & A: Navigating the Complexities of Raising Boys
How do you respond to a 6-year-old boy who thinks he has to “play rough” to prove his masculinity?How can you make space a small boy’s emotions when you also have other kids to keep on track?And what do you do, exactly, when your formerly potty-trained son starts having accidents at school?These are some of the questions Jen & Janet tackle in this Listener Q & A.Takeaways:Boys often face developmental expectations that don’t align with their actual growth.Rough play can be a way for boys to express themselves, but it needs guidance.School stress and anxiety can manifest in physical symptoms Potty training regressions are common and should be approached with patience.Creative approaches can help redirect a child’s focus during emotional outbursts.Parents should not feel guilty about using screen time as a tool.Seeking support from parenting coaches can provide valuable insights.Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:The Art of Roughhousing (w Dr. Lawrence Cohen) — ON BOYS episodeTeacher Tom Talks About Boys, Emotion, & Play — ON BOYS episodeDo Schools Create “Problem Boys?” — ON BOYS episodeMyths & Misconceptions About Boys — ON BOYS episodeBuilding Boys: Raising Great Guys in a World That Misunderstands MalesGet Jen’s 2nd book here Breakthrough Session for Family CoachingSchedule your no-cost call with Janet at https://boysalive.com/callAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Boys, A Rescue Plan: Conversation w Michael Gurian
Do boys need a rescue plan?The available evidence says yes. Collectively, our boys are struggling academically, socially, emotionally, and economically. Their academic, educational, and workforce involvement has decreased. Their suicide rates have risen. Ignoring these issues isn’t in our best interest.Fortunately, more and more people are talking about the challenges facing boys & young men. But talking about boys’ challenges isn’t enough. We must act to improve outcomes.Author and counselor Michael Gurian has spent the past 40 years thinking, writing about, and advocating for boys (and girls.). His latest project — Boys, A Rescue Plan: Moving Beyond the Politics of Masculinity to Healthy Male Development, a book he co-authored with Sean Kullman — outlines a path forward.In this conversation, Michael, Janet, & Jen discuss their 7 point rescue plan:Raise Boys To Thrive in a Three Family SystemProvide Seven Nurturing Elements to Boys Who Are In TroubleTrain All Schools in Boy-Friendly PracticesComplete Your Own Classroom Citizen ScienceCompel School Boards to Include Sex Differences in Annual Reports Decrease the Male Gender Gap in College EducationBuild and Support Community Programs That Help Boys Thrive Takeaways:Understanding male development is crucial for effective support.Trauma plays a significant role in boys’ behavior.Education systems need to adopt boy-friendly practices.Data collection is crucial for understanding and addressing educational disparities.Citizen science allows parents and teachers to observe and improve educational environments.The politics of masculinity can distract from real issues.Solutions for boys already exist and need to be implemented. Trauma in education can stem from systemic issues.Community programs should actively involve boys in their development.Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:Boys, A Rescue Plan: Moving Beyond the Politics of Masculinity to Healthy Male Development, by Michael Gurian & Sean KullmanGurian Institute — online home for all things Gurian (includes links to his books, classes, & upcoming events)www.michaelgurian.com Michael Gurian on Raising Boys — ON BOYS podcast episodeGlobal Initiative for Boys & Men — ON BOYS podcast episode featuring Michael’s Rescue Plan co-author, Sean KullmanGlobal Initiative for Boys & MenIn His Words — Sean’s Substack newsletter Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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Helping Boys Find A Path to Manhood
How do we help boys along the path to manhood? That’s a question Paul Cumbo, a veteran educator, has been asking for a long time. It’s one he’s well-positioned to answer too, given that he’s spent the past few decades of his life teaching, educating, and coaching teenage boys and young men. His latest book, A Path to Manhood, offers encouragement and advice to young men.The available evidence suggests that our boys and young men need support and guidance. Too many have withdrawn from modern life, choosing to spend most of their time online. Too many feel unwanted, useless, and accused. Paul reminds boys and men that they matter. As he writes in the in the first chapter of his book, he doesn’t “buy the cultural narrative that men are simple.” He encourages young men to chart their own path through life, and shares how listeners can help boys on their journey.Takeaways:Each person’s path to manhood is unique and must be navigated individually.Paralysis by analysis is a common issue among today’s youth.Boys crave to be needed and to contribute meaningfully.Long-term vision is essential for effective planning.Backtracking is a natural part of the journey.Transformative travel can provide profound experiences.Joy is deeper and more meaningful than mere happiness.Young men seek challenges and opportunities for growth.Experiences of genuine joy are crucial for well-being.Links we mentioned (or should have) in this episode:A Path to Manhood: Encouragement and Advice for Young Men, by Paul Cumbopaulcumbo.compaulcumbo.substack.com/ — Paul’s Substack newsletterCamino Institute – info re the Young Men’s International Seminar (Note: there are still some spaces left for the 3rd Annual Young Men’s International Seminar, which runs June 14-21, 2025)Wilderness Therapy with Paul Cumbo — ON BOYS podcast episodeAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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