If you are experiencing Post Separation abuse please listen to this episode. In light of recent events around the world, explore the crushing issue of post-separation abuse, with insights from our family law accredited specialist who offers valuable expertise and tips on what you can do about it if it is happening to you.  Go beyond the surface to reveal the hidden aspects of abuse that often occurs after your relationship ends, especially in terms of economic power and control. Listen to the episode educate yourself and be prepared and proactive to deal with the tactics employed by abusers, such as manipulating institutions, concealing assets, and intentionally becoming unemployed, all aimed at maintaining economic control over their former partners.  We also shed light on how abusers exploit court processes, burdening their ex-partners with excessive legal fees and withholding vital documents and what you can do about it, if this is happening to you. Tune in to gain valuable knowledge and empower yourself in navigating your divorce or de facto separation. This is Part 1 of a 2 part special to offer support and guidance to those going through post separation abuse. Trigger warning: This content contains information about domestic violence and post separation abuse.   Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.    Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE Click here for our free before you leave checklist  Click here for our free mediation checklist Sign up here for our next free online webinar Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course   DOCUMENT WE DISCUSS IN THIS EPISODE Post Separation Abuse Wheel Developed  by Jenn Glinskii, University of Glasgow (2021)   Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic Dirty Money Deeds Coercive Control After Separation Post Separation Abuse Episode Bombarded with Legal Letters? The Post Separation Abuse Playbook and what you can do about it (Part 1) You Don’t Want to Miss Out On How does abusing the court system affect individuals? What impact can constant filing and negative accusations have on a person's self-perception? How can abusive words and false allegations affect someone's core being? What strategies can individuals employ to protect their mental health during court battles? Why is it important to recognize that the words spoken by an ex-partner may not be true? How does post-separation abuse involve using children? What are some examples of using children as a means of economic abuse? How can post-separation abuse affect a person's capacity to parent effectively? What can individuals do to mitigate the negative impact on children during post-separation abuse? How does the court process contribute to the comeuppance for abusers? What role does mental strength play in surviving post-separation abuse? How can individuals seek support and help when dealing with abuse? What are some common tactics used by abusers to manipulate and control their ex-partners? How does economic abuse impact individuals' financial stability? What steps can individuals take to live within their means and manage their finances during abuse? How can showing love and spending quality time with children counteract the effects of abuse? What are some long-term consequences of post-separation abuse on children? How does the abusive behavior of one parent impact the children's perception of the other parent? What are the challenges faced by individuals even after the court process is over? How can individuals support their children who may experience the same abusive patterns in their own relationships? What has been the progress of the new law on coercive control in Australia? What hiccups or challenges have occurred in the process of passing the new law? Who are the key individuals or groups involved in the decision-making process? What actions can be taken to address the concerns and influence the decision-makers? How does the presumption of equal shared care in family law impact cases of abuse? Why is it important to seek help from helplines or the police if triggered or in a dangerous situation? What are some examples of economic power and control in post-separation abuse? How do abusers manipulate institutions and use loopholes in legislation to protect their assets? What are some tactics abusers use to avoid paying spousal support or child support? How do abusers manipulate court processes to continue the abuse? Is the court system in Australia taking measures to address post-separation abuse? How can someone protect their mental health in the face of constant court battles and false accusations? What steps can individuals take to strengthen their core understanding of themselves and protect their inner self? Why is it important to seek support from a psychologist during the process of dealing with post-separation abuse? How can individuals avoid buying into the false narratives and manipulation tactics of their abusers? What hiccups have there been in the passage of the new laws on the presumption of 50/50 shared care? Why didn't the Liberal Party vote for the new law? What is the presumption of equal shared care and why is it considered damaging to children? Who is Anthony Albanese and what is his stance on this issue? What are some examples of economic control and how does it affect mothers? Why do people shame mothers for wanting child support and how can that be debunked? How can women challenge inaccurate child support calculations? What is the review process and how can it be used to address child support issues? What options are available if the review process doesn't resolve the problem? What is the role of the Administrative Appeals Tribunal in child support cases? How can women deal with coercive control tactics related to child support? What are the consequences of withholding personal documents and blocking access to joint accounts? How does economic abuse extend to harassment and intimidation in the banking place? How can women navigate the child support court system? How can women cope with the bombardment of legal letters and communications? What are some strategies to maintain hope and continue fighting for change?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 Australia DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.   

Demystify the valuation process and educate and empower yourself into a confident player in your divorce settlement process! By the end of this episode, you'll gain valuable insights, avoid common pitfalls, and make informed decisions when it comes to property & asset valuations in divorce and property settlement.  In this episode, you'll embark on a journey of understanding as we explain property & asset valuations in divorce settlements. Get ready to learn the crucial aspects that will help you navigate this complex process with confidence. Explore the role of valuers and delve into why their expertise is essential in divorce settlements. You'll gain insights into how to choose the right valuer and overcome challenges when your ex-partner disagrees or a mutual decision can't be reached. Discover the ins and outs of the valuation process as we explore what needs to be valued, the methodologies used, and the importance of accurate documentation. We'll address specific scenarios, including high-conflict divorces and amicable separations, and shed light on the role of forensic accountants in complex cases. Prepare to tackle practical challenges head-on, such as kerbside valuations, access to the property, and the crucial task of documenting your house's condition. We're here to equip you with the knowledge and strategies to navigate valuations effectively.   Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE Click here for our free before you leave checklist  Click here for our free mediation checklist Sign up here for our next free online webinar Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic Business and Divorce Selling the House Financial Contributions    Untangling the Value: How to Navigate Valuations in Divorce & De Facto Separation Property Settlements You Don’t Want to Miss Out On What is a valuer? How do you decide which valuer to use? How much does a valuer cost? Why do you need to use a valuer for your divorce settlement? What to do if your ex wont agree to a valuer? What happens if you can’t choose a valuer? How to get your ex agree on a valuer? What do you need to consider getting valued for your divorce proceedings? How do valuations happen? Do valuers come to your house? What is the process valuers take during the property settlement? How much is your furniture really worth? What do you need to provide a valuer? What does the valuer send you after they have finished? What if you don’t agree with the valuer’s appraisal  What kind of values will a valuer come up with? How do you avoid using a valuer? What happens if you can’t agree on how to split the property? House valuations and what you should know for divorce and property settlement Can you have a property settlement before you’ve sold the house. Property Settlement and Percentages Do you need to get your super valued during divorce? Do you need to find out how much your ex has in superannuation for divorce? Military Superannuation and valuations for divorce and property settlement Defined Benefit Superannuation and your divorce Does it matter when the valuations are done? What date of valuation will the family court look at for property settlement? How old can the valuation be for property settlement mediation or family court? Do you need to share the money you have saved after separation? What happens with shares and their values? What value amount is looked at at the time of trial or mediation? Business and Divorce What is a forensic accountant? How much does a forensic accountant cost? Should I get a forensic accountant for my divorce and property settlement? High Conflict Divorces and Valuation The pitfalls for high conflict divorces and valuations Manipulative and controlling divorces and valuations How do I be careful whilst getting valuations for divorce with a manipulative and controlling ex. The game playing that might happen during valuations for your divorce and property settlement. What do you do if you are worried the valuer might miss something to look at in your ex’s possession? Amicable divorces and valuations How not to use valuers if you are in an amicable divorce. How to deal with your avoidant ex and using a valuer to assess your house, or property.  When do you need a kerbside valuation for your property? What can you do if your ex won't let the valuer into the house to see the property and value it. Why you should always video your house before you leave so you don’t have to rely on your ex doing the right thing.   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Are you facing a divorce but desperately want to hold onto the family home that holds cherished memories for you and your kids? If so, this episode is a must-listen. We dive deep into the topic, providing valuable insights and practical general legal tips on how to achieve your goal of keeping the house. Let us guide you through crucial considerations to help you determine if keeping the house is a viable option. Learn about property settlement strategies and how to navigate the process of buying out your ex-spouse. Discover important calculations to factor in when making the decision, and learn about the impact of leaving the house during the divorce proceedings. Can you still retain your rights to the house if you choose to move out? We shed light on this common concern. Learn steps you can take to continue living in the house while working towards becoming the sole owner, ensuring a smooth transition for you and your kids. Find out the implications of your ex’s name being on the mortgage and how it affects their access to the property. If you're determined to preserve your home amidst the changes that divorce brings, this episode offers invaluable guidance. Tune in to gain clarity and empower yourself during this challenging chapter of your life. We got you. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.    Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE Click here for our free before you leave checklist  Click here for our free mediation checklist Sign up here for our next free online webinar Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic Moving Out Selling the House Financial Contributions  I really really want to keep the house: general legal tips on how to achieve this goal whilst going through property settlement, divorce and de facto separation.  You Don’t Want to Miss Out On How to figure out if you can keep the house? How does someone get the mortgage into your own name if they want to keep the house after divorce. Examples of property settlement spits Can you put your Mum or a Family Member on the house so you can keep the house? What happens if you both want to keep the house? What might the family court do if both people want to keep the house?  What if you both want to stay on the mortgage after property settlement? What if your ex offers to stay on the mortgage until the children are older so I can afford to stay in the house. What is the court obligation in regards to property settlement The emotional decision about the family home Moving forward with your life and keeping the house Pitfalls to watch out for when trying to keep the house in property settlement. Why it’s important to look forward 5 years before making property settlement decisions. Calculations to consider when deciding if you want to keep the house. Emotional considerations for if you want to keep the house What is a CAVEAT? Consequences of leaving the house during the divorce process. What happens with a caveat on a house? Can your ex come over to the house if they still have their name on it? Can you change the locks on the house if you are the one who is going to stay in it during the divorce? What is sole occupancy?  Is it unreasonable for both parties to stay living under one roof? Can you change the locks? What other options do you have if you can’t afford to keep the house?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different. 

Wondering if you need consent orders when going through a divorce?  We answer the what, why, when and how in the world of consent orders and answer all your burning questions you wish you could ask a lawyer. Discover the benefits of consent orders, the difference between consent orders and court orders, and whether they're cheaper than financial agreements. We'll also share insights on protecting yourself financially and resolving parenting matters. Learn how to avoid stamp duty, when to initiate consent orders, and why legal advice is crucial. Don't miss this valuable information! Explore what they are, why you need them and when you should do them. Also how hard is it and what are the steps you need to take? Learn about the different approaches you might need to take depending on your ex’s personality traits and also be aware of the dirty tricks to watch out for before you sign anything. Educate and empower yourself so you can get the best outcome for your de facto separation or divorce property settlement or parenting arrangements. Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR FREE DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE Click here for our free before you leave checklist  Click here for our free mediation checklist Sign up here for our next free online webinar Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course   Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic Untangling your finances podcast episode How to stop your kids from being used as chess pieces episode  Consent Orders: it's not rocket science. Explore the what, when, why, how of property and parenting consent orders after divorce so you know what's what.  You Don’t Want to Miss Out On Do you need consent orders when going through divorce? What do consent orders do? What is the difference between consent orders and court orders? Are consent orders cheaper than a financial agreement? Is it better to go to court or get consent orders? What is the benefit of doing consent orders? Why can consent orders protect you financially moving forward? Why do consent orders help you with parenting matters? Do you need consent orders for kids? Can you use a parenting plan instead of consent orders for divorce? The family courts view on children and stable arrangements/ Consent orders and stamp duty How to avoid paying stamp duty during divorce or de facto separation? When is the best time to do consent orders for property settlement? How expensive is a consent order? What is the consent order application form like? What to do before you sign consent orders? Legal advice for consent orders and why it’s important to see someone before you sign anything.  How to avoid high costs with a lawyer What is a legal precedent?  Why is wording so important in a consent order? Court Portal and filing ComCourts Can you do partial consent orders? Agreements during divorce negotiations What to do with partial agreements during divorce negotiations Consent orders and amicable separations Do you need consent orders is you are amicable Can you both go to the same lawyer? Why shouldn't you sign a consent order unless they sign it too. Dirty tricks used during consent orders being made What to look for in high conflict relationships with consent orders? What is an application for consent orders? How hard is it to fill in the application for consent orders form? How to get an avoidant person to sign consent orders? What is the dangers of just signing consent orders without giving it good thought. What to say to yourself if you are just wanting to sign anything to make it all stop?   If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.   

Can you meditate with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic traits in your divorce? Although you might see it as a waste of time, there is actually some good that can come out of it even if you don’t settle.  Our experienced accredited mediator and also experienced family law specialist will guide you through how you can make your mediation for family law matters (like property or parenting) work for you. Learn some strategies and steps you can take if you are dealing with someone who has narcissistic traits. Don’t waste your precious chance to settle or find out more about your ex’s plans. Listen to this episode today and get your agenda and strategies sorted.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.  Click here to learn more about your DIY DIVORCE BLUEPRINT CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR DISCLOSURE CHECKLIST GUIDE Click here for our free before you leave checklist  Click here for our free mediation checklist Sign up here for our next free online webinar Waitlist for our self represent in the family court course Podcast Episodes that are related to this topic After Mediation Episode FDR Mediation or Conciliation Conferences Episode Convincing the Unconvincable Episode  Can you really mediate with a narcissist? Mediation and Negotiation Tips when divorcing an ex with narcissistic behaviours You Don’t Want to Miss Out On What might surprise you at a mediation with a narcissist Why you think you know what your ex is thinking is a mistake for mediation Why it's a bad idea to assume your ex thinks like you leading up to mediation. When you understand what they care about you can have success in mediation What is the shuttle process? Why the shuttle process helps in mediation with a narcissist How you can ask the mediator to help you with the narcissistic attacks during the mediation.  How to let your mediator know about their behaviour The three things a narcissist will care most about in their agreement with you. Does it matter if the mediator knows they are narcissists? How you can use the mediation to help tailor your affidavit for trial The cat and mouse game sometimes used in mediation by a narcissist How to avoid the game playing in mediation with a narcissist Which issue do you deal with first in mediation with a narcissist? Can you make suggestions to the mediator? How to agree on the agenda for the day How to make sure your narcissistic ex doesn’t run the agenda for the day. Why you should avoid using the word narcissist when going through family court unless they are officially diagnosed.  What should you do to show to the mediator or the judge that  your ex has narcissistic behaviours? How to “rebrand” your offer in negotiation so that your narcissistic ex will agree to it.  Do’s and Don’ts of mediation with a narcissist  Why you need to be mentally fit to get the most out of the mediation. What is the current mediation success rate? Is the family court full of narcissists?  Why taking proof and documentation to a mediation is a good idea. What the mediator will do to help you in a mediation with a narcissist Is a shuttle process a good idea with a narcissist? How to be aware of old patterns and how to stay out of them during negotiations with your ex. If you need emergency help you can also contact: WOMEN'S SHELTER SERVICE  LEGAL AID Lifeline 13 11 14 Mensline Australia 1300 789 978 Kids Help Line 1800 551 800 Aboriginal Family Domestic Violence Hotline 1800 019 123 Relationships Australia  Police on 000 DVConnect Womensline on 1800 811 811 (24 hours, 7 days a week) Note: This number is not recorded on your phone bill DV Connect Mensline on 1800 600 636 National DV line on 1800 737 732.1800RESPECT 1800 737 732 Make sure you hit SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on the next practical steps and guide to your divorce or de facto separation coming soon. And, if you’ve found this episode helpful, please leave a rating and a review so it can help others. Thank you.  Please note this is general advice only. Please always seek independent legal advice as everyone’s situation is different.