Beyond The Surface Podcast

• Episode 7: Relationships: Love Languages, Conflict & Attachment Styles

  Relationships challenge us, grow us, and reflect back our deepest wounds and our greatest potential. In this episode of Beyond the Surface, I explore what makes relationships work, the patterns that hold us back, and how to create deeper, healthier connections.We'll dive into:. The power of having a "WE" not "ME" relationship. How attachment styles are formed and how they shape the way we connect (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized). Understanding love languages and how we express and receive love differently. Why healthy relationships still challenge you-just in a different way. How self-awareness and accountability are key to breaking cycles. Conflict styles and why it's not about if you fight, but howyou fightWhether you're in a long-term relationship, dating, or reflecting on past experiences, this episode will help you better understand your patterns, your partner's needs, and how to create deeper, healthier connections.Resources & Links:.Take the Love Languages Quiz:https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-languageLet's Connect:. Website:www.belindaanderson.com.au.              Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson.              Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/

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• Episode 6: What You Focus on Grows

  In this episode, we explore how your focus shapes your reality—you see what you look for. Ever notice that when you’re focused on something—good or bad—it starts showing up everywhere? That’s because what you focus on grows. What’s wrong is always available, and so is what is right.I’ll break down why shifting your focus isn’t just about “thinking positive” and how your brain and nervous system filter your reality. Plus, you’ll learn a powerful exercise to shift your perspective—especially in your relationships. I’ll explain why shifting your focus starts from within and share practical tools to help you do it.You’ll also hear why so many of us get stuck scanning for problems or become addicted to stress, negativity and chaos without even realizing it—and how to start breaking that cycle.In this episode, you’ll learn: How your brain filters what you see (hello, RAS!) Why a dysregulated nervous system makes positivity feel fake A quick focus exercise to help you understand that what you see is what you look for How shifting your focus can change your relationships with your partner and kids Breaking free from unconscious patterns of stress, negativity and chaos Simple daily practices to help you shift your perspective How gratitude can literally rewire your brainLet’s Connect: Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/

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• Episode 5: Live Aligned with Your Values & Ditch Busy as a Badge of Honour

  Are you living your life—or just rushing through it? In this episode of Beyond the Surface, we’re shifting from the deeper inner work to something that shapes your everyday life—your values. If you’ve ever felt out of alignment, caught in the ‘busy’ trap, or wondering why life feels “off,” this one’s for you.Here’s what you’ll walk away with:Why knowing your values isn’t enough—you have to live them.A fresh take on values—what they truly are and how they shape your life, relationships, and choices.The hidden ways misalignment with your values leads to burnout, frustration, and feeling lost.Simple, practical steps to identify your top values—and spot where your actions don’t align.Why ‘busy’ feels safe (but keeps you stuck)—and what you might be avoiding by staying busy.How learning to say no can be one of the most powerful ways to honour your values.Plus: I share personal stories, including how discovering and living by our values transformed my relationship with my husband and the way we show up for ourselves and each other.Let’s Connect:Website: www.belindaanderson.com.auInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.andersonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/Sponsor Spotlight:Big thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support women’s and men’s hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: fm21.auIf this episode resonates, share it with a friend who needs to hear it—and don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to help us reach more people ready to heal, grow, and thrive.

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• Episode 4: Overcome Subconscious Limiting Beliefs

  Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things—practicing gratitude, setting goals, reading the books—but something still feels stuck? Like there’s an invisible force holding you back?That’s your subconscious mind at work.In this episode of Beyond the Surface, we’re diving deep into subconscious programming—the hidden beliefs that shape your reality and keep you stuck in patterns you don’t even realize you’re repeating. I’ll be sharing some of the biggest limiting beliefs I had to unlearn (ones that kept me doubting myself, playing small, and feeling unworthy) and how I reprogrammed them into empowering beliefs that changed everything.What we cover in this episode:How your subconscious mind is running 95% of your life (whether you realize it or not)Why you keep falling into the same patterns, even when you’re consciously trying to changeThe three biggest limiting beliefs I had (and how they were keeping me stuck)The simple reframing technique that shifts limiting beliefs into empowering onesA powerful exercise we do on retreat to rewrite subconscious beliefsWhy your nervous system needs to feel safe before real change can happenHypnosis, somatic practices, and other powerful tools for reprogramming your subconsciousYour subconscious doesn’t know the difference between real and imagined—so whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right. This episode is about choosing a new belief that aligns with the life you actually want.Links:Website: www.belindaanderson.com.auInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.andersonFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/Sponsor Spotlight:Special thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support women’s and men’s hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: fm21.au

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• Episode 3: Release Trauma and Trapped Emotions

  If you’ve ever felt stuck despite all the work you’ve done—whether it’s thinking positive, talking it out, or trying to move on—this episode is for you. Trauma isn’t just a memory. It’s something your body holds onto. And no, you can’t simply think or talk your way through it. True healing happens in the body. Today, we’re diving deep into what trauma and trapped emotions do to your nervous system and, most importantly, how to release them. You’ll learn: • Why trauma is stored in the body—not just the mind • The four nervous system stress responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn • Why unprocessed emotions can lead to anxiety, fatigue, and even physical pain • Powerful body-based tools to help you regulate your nervous system and release stored trauma, including: • Somatic exercises • Grounding techniques • Breathwork • Vagus nerve stimulation • Psoas and fascia release •  EMDR and other somatic practices This episode isn’t just about understanding trauma—it’s about releasing it. If you’ve been carrying the weight of old wounds, past experiences, or unprocessed emotions, it’s time to give your body what it truly needs to heal. Resources Mentioned: The Body Keeps the Score – Bessel van der Kolk Links: Website: www.belindaanderson.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/belinda.anderson Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/belindaandersonau/ Sponsor Spotlight: Special thanks to our sponsor, Fem21 and their new product, Man21. Fem21 & Man21 are carefully crafted naturopathic blends of 21 natural herbs and superfoods, designed to holistically support women’s and men’s hormonal and gut health, vitality, and overall wellbeing. Find out more at: fm21.au

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