Raising Good Humans

Hearing "It's not fair!" or "Everyone else has one"?

Dr. Aliza Pressman and Dr. Stacy Kim on what envy is really telling your child and how to help them use it for good.

If your child is envious of a sibling, a friend, or what they see online, you're not alone, and it doesn't mean you're raising an ungrateful kid. In this episode of Raising Good Humans, developmental psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman talks with social scientist Dr. Stacy Kim, author of Envy: Why Wanting What They Have is the Key to Getting What You Want, about one of the most misunderstood emotions in childhood. Envy is often treated as something shameful to hide, but research shows it can be a powerful signal pointing kids toward what they truly care about. Together they explain the difference between jealousy vs. envy, why kids envy the people closest to them, and why shaming envy only keeps kids stuck.

What you’ll learn:

- Why envy is a universal emotion, and what is behind it

- The difference between jealousy vs. envy, and why naming it correctly helps

- Benign envy vs. malicious envy: how to steer kids toward the helpful kind

- Why kids envy siblings and close friends more than celebrities

- Finding the real feeling behind "Everyone else has one!"

- How social media and constant comparison make envy harder for kids and teens

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

Buy Dr. Stacy Kim's Book:

📘 Order "Envy: Why Wanting What They Have is the Key to Getting What You Want”: https://stacyskim.com/book/

Buy Dr. Aliza Pressman's Books:

✨ Preorder “The Orchid Code: How Temperament Shapes Who We Become":

https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250462312/theorchidcode/

📖 Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-5-Principles-of-Parenting/Aliza-Pressman/9781668014547

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Worried AI will make your kids stop thinking?

If you’ve watched your child ask a chatbot for the answer and wondered what that’s doing to their brain, you’re not alone, and the picture is more hopeful than the headlines suggest. In this episode of Raising Good Humans, developmental psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman talks with theoretical neuroscientist and AI researcher Dr. Vivienne Ming, author of Robot-Proof: When Machines Have All the Answers, Build Better People. Drawing on decades of research into what predicts a good life, Vivienne explains why the skills that matter most haven’t changed: curiosity, resilience, intellectual humility, perspective-taking, and a sense of purpose. Better still, these are skills parents can help grow.

What you’ll learn:

The research-backed traits that predict long-term success

Why most students using AI put in 40% less mental effort, and what to do differently

How AI that asks questions instead of giving answers can help kids think more deeply

Why praising interesting questions, not just correct answers, builds curiosity

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

Learn more from Dr. Vivienne Ming: 📘 “Robot-Proof: When Machines Have All the Answers, Build Better People”:

https://socos.org/robot-proof

🌐 Website: https://socos.org/about-vivienne

Buy Dr. Aliza Pressman's Books:

✨ Preorder “The Orchid Code: How Temperament Shapes Who We Become":

https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250462312/theorchidcode/

📖 Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-5-Principles-of-Parenting/Aliza-Pressman/9781668014547

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Getting nothing but "fine"?

Dr. Aliza Pressman on why your questions shut kids down and what actually gets them to open up and talk to you.

If "How was your day?" only ever gets you a "fine" (or an eye roll), you're not alone, and it doesn't mean something is wrong in your relationship. In this episode of Raising Good Humans, developmental psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman explains why so many kids stop sharing around the elementary school years, and why pushing for details usually backfires. Drawing on research on how children and teens decide what to share, she shows that kids open up to parents who feel approachable, not just available, and that how you react to the small, everyday stories decides whether they'll come to you with the big ones.

What you’ll learn:

- Why kids share more with parents who are approachable, not just available

- The Goldilocks reaction: how to respond when your child tells you something surprising so they keep talking

- Why micro-moments of connection matter more than big "tell me everything" talks

- Specific, low-stakes questions to use instead of "How was your day?" (and when to stop asking altogether)

- How to get the information you need when safety is at stake without being nosy

- Creative ways in: word games, family game night, your child's interests, and other trusted adults

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

Buy Dr. Aliza Pressman's Books:

✨ Preorder “The Orchid Code: How Temperament Shapes Who We Become":

https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250462312/theorchidcode/

📖 Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-5-Principles-of-Parenting/Aliza-Pressman/9781668014547

Follow Raising Good Humans:

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https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/

🎙 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

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Gentle parenting turned permissive?

Somewhere between "because I said so" and "is it okay if we go to bed now?", many well-meaning parents lost their footing. In this episode of Raising Good Humans, Dr. Siggie and Dr. Aliza are answering listener questions to unpack how gentle parenting can quietly slide into permissive parenting, and why children actually feel safer when a parent leads with structure, warmth, and clear boundaries.

What you’ll learn:

- Why "all feelings are welcome, all behaviors are not" works better than punishment when your child hits a sibling

- The problem with letting kids choose their own consequences, and what builds real ownership instead

- Mom guilt, separation, and how to help kids "hold on" to you when you're apart

- Setting bedtime limits: when connection becomes accommodation

- How to respond to negative self-talk in kids

- Why empty threats stop working, and how to set boundaries that teach self-regulation

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

📖 About This Episode's Guest, Dr. Siggie Cohen:

https://drsiggie.com/

📚 Her Book, You Are the Parent:

https://drsiggie.com/you-are-the-parent/

Buy Dr. Aliza Pressman's Books:

✨ Preorder “The Orchid Code: How Temperament Shapes Who We Become":

https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250462312/theorchidcode/

📖 Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-5-Principles-of-Parenting/Aliza-Pressman/9781668014547

Follow Raising Good Humans:

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https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/

🎙 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

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Does homework time in your house end in tears, arguments, or a kid still awake at midnight?

In this episode, Dr. Aliza Pressman sits down with Dr. Ellen Braaten, founding director of the Learning and Emotional Assessment Program (LEAP) at Massachusetts General Hospital and associate professor of psychology at Harvard Medical School. Together they unpack why homework has become such a point of tension in families, why more homework isn't actually better for kids, and how too much of it can quietly chip away at sleep, motivation, and mental health, whether your child is in second grade or staying up late studying in high school.

What you’ll learn:

● How much homework kids actually need by age, and why more than two hours a night stops helping

● The hidden costs of too much homework: lost sleep, lower motivation, and rising anxiety

● How to support your child without hovering, controlling, or doing the work for them ● What to say (and what to skip) when your child is crying over homework

● Why bright kids with ADHD, learning differences, or slow processing speed can take hours to finish

● How to tell the difference between a homework problem and a mental health problem

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

📖 About This Episode's Guest, Dr. Ellen Braaten: https://www.ellenbraatenphd.com/about

📚 Her Book, Bright Kids Who Can't Keep Up:

https://www.ellenbraatenphd.com/books

Buy Dr. Aliza Pressman's Books:

✨ Preorder “The Orchid Code: How Temperament Shapes Who We Become" by Dr. Aliza Pressman:

https://us.macmillan.com/books/9781250462312/theorchidcode/

📖Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-5-Principles-of-Parenting/Aliza-Pressman/9781668014547

Follow Raising Good Humans:

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/

🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

Subscribe on Substack for weekly articles and exclusive LIVE Q&As:

📧 https://dralizapressman.substack.com/

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