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In this episode, Jonathan Goodman discusses defines unhinged habits and how to transform your life by doing less. He shares how selling his software company led him to focus on writing and living intentionally. Jonathan also explores the importance of prioritizing money, health, and relationships, embracing life’s natural seasons, and making conscious trade-offs. He explains how intense focus can transform habits, the value of childhood passions, and the difference between meaningful and vacant activities. The episode encourages listeners to nurture what matters, let go of what doesn’t, and periodically reset for a more fulfilling life.

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Key Takeaways:

Discussion of the importance of prioritizing life’s triad: money, health, and relationships.

Exploration of the concept of life seasons and the need to focus on different priorities at different times.

Insights on habit formation and the necessity of making trade-offs to avoid burnout.

The metaphor of the “good wolf” and the importance of nurturing positive qualities within oneself.

The significance of recognizing when a season ends to allow for rest and reflection.

The idea of maintaining balance in life and the dangers of comparing oneself to others.

The role of intentional living and making deliberate decisions about time and energy investment.

The benefits of an exploratory mindset and trying new activities to discover what fits best.

Discussion on the social and physical benefits of engaging in inclusive activities like games.

The impact of modern life on natural rhythms and the importance of consciously ending seasons for personal growth.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonathan Goodman, check out these other episodes:

How to Create Elastic Habits that Adapt to Your Day with Stephen Guise

Behavior Change with John Norcross

Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg

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In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one’s authentic voice and boundaries.

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Key Takeaways:

Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism.

Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn.

Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze.

Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood.

The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma.

Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency.

The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning.

Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys.

Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches.

Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes:

How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole

How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab

Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower

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In this episode, Nedra Glover Tawwab talks about why family relationships are so hard and what actually helps navigate them. She explores the complexities of family dynamics, self-sabotage, and why people resist change. Nedra also shares insights on managing discomfort, setting boundaries, and accepting others’ limitations. The conversation covers practical strategies for healthier relationships, the challenges of being a “cycle breaker,” and how to navigate difficult conversations. You'll discover compassionate guidance for breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering self-awareness, acceptance, and growth in family and personal relationships.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

Family dynamics and their impact on personal development

Understanding and managing unhealthy relationships

The concept of self-sabotage and its connection to discomfort

The role of emotional patterns in addiction and recovery

Navigating relationships with individuals resistant to change

The significance of personal accountability in healing

The complexities of shame and its effects on relationships

Strategies for effective communication and resolving circular conversations

The importance of self-compassion and acceptance in difficult relationships

Recognizing and addressing the influence of family roles and expectations on identity

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Nedra Glover Tawwab, check out these other episodes:

How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson

How to Have Healthier Relationships with Yourself and Others with Jillian Turecki

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Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠⁠!

In this episode, Brad Stulberg explores how to cultivate excellence in a chaotic world. He explains how excellence is a lifelong practice rooted in daily effort, presence, and values, not a final achievement. Brad also discusses the importance of process over outcome, balancing ambition with self-kindness, and finding meaning through consistent, value-driven actions. The conversation also covers overcoming burnout, the illusion of perfect balance, and how to live intentionally in a chaotic world, offering practical advice for cultivating fulfillment and true greatness in everyday life.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

The concept of excellence as a continuous practice rather than a fixed destination.

The transformative nature of pursuing goals and its impact on character and personal growth.

The importance of a process mindset, focusing on daily efforts and consistency.

The metaphor of "feeding the good wolf" to emphasize nurturing positive qualities.

The balance between striving for outcomes and being present in the process.

The significance of measuring effort over outcomes for sustained progress.

The idea of "raising the floor" to improve performance on average days.

The role of care and commitment in achieving excellence.

The distinction between meaningful engagement and the pitfalls of comfort and convenience.

The necessity of intentional living and effort in a chaotic, technology-driven world.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Brad Stulberg, check out these other episodes:

The Practice of Groundedness with Brad Stulberg

Mindfulness and Understanding Identity with Cory Allen

By purchasing products and/or services from our sponsors, you are helping to support The One You Feed and we greatly appreciate it. Thank you!

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Check out ⁠Mountains to Cross ⁠by Dr. Abraham George. It’s the story of how a life built on success was redirected toward compassion, and how that choice led to the founding of Shanti Bhavan, a school helping children break free from generational poverty. Find it wherever books are sold.
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Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠!

In this episode, Casey McGuire Davidson talks about discovering life beyond alcohol and strategies for lasting sobriety and emotional wellness. She shares her struggles with alcohol, repeated attempts to quit, and how support, coaching, and treating sobriety as an experiment helped her succeed. Casey also discusses the challenges of early sobriety, the importance of community and self-care, and practical strategies for replacing drinking habits. The conversation emphasizes curiosity, planning, and support as keys to lasting change, offering hope and encouragement for anyone considering a break from alcohol.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠

Key Takeaways:

Personal journey of struggling with alcohol and attempts to quit.

Challenges faced during early sobriety, including anxiety and withdrawal symptoms.

Benefits of sobriety, such as improved emotional stability and better sleep.

The concept of treating sobriety as an experiment rather than a permanent decision.

Importance of support systems, including coaching, therapy, and community groups.

Strategies for replacing drinking habits with healthier alternatives and activities.

The role of public accountability in maintaining sobriety goals.

Understanding the cultural conditioning around alcohol and its impact on social interactions.

The significance of creating new rewards and self-care practices to replace alcohol.

Encouragement to approach sobriety with curiosity and openness to change.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Casey McGuire Davidson, check out these other episodes:

Special Episode: 4 Different Journeys to Sobriety

The Joy of Being Sober with Catherine Gray

The Magic of Being Sober with Laura McKowen

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