Passion Struck with John R. Miles

You're smart. You're informed. So why do you still make terrible decisions?
We like to believe that intelligence and information protect us from bad decisions. They don't.
Professor Alex Edmans, Professor of Finance at London Business School and Fellow of the British Academy, returns to Passion Struck to reveal the psychological forces that can distort our judgment—from confirmation bias and anchoring to herd behavior, emotional decision-making, and our tendency to follow whatever information is most visible.
His new book, The Madness of Markets, uses financial markets to expose a much bigger truth about human behavior: the same biases that influence investors can shape the decisions we make in our careers, leadership, relationships, and everyday lives.
Even Isaac Newton wasn't immune.
In this conversation, Alex explains:
Why being intelligent doesn't make you rational
Why more information doesn't necessarily lead to better decisions
How confirmation bias makes us see evidence that supports what we already believe
Why we tend to overreact to information that's flashy, visible, and impossible to ignore
How anchoring causes the first information we encounter to influence our later judgment
Why millions of people making the same mistake can create collective irrationality rather than canceling one another out
How compelling stories can overpower better evidence
Why culture, human capital, reputation, and innovation can matter enormously even when they're difficult to measure
Why AI may change the decisions humans make without eliminating human bias
And the one question Alex believes can make you wiser: “What is the other side?”
Alex's advice extends far beyond investing. Before you change jobs, relocate, end a relationship, make a major purchase, or commit to an important belief, look for the strongest argument against your own position.
If you can't see it yourself, find someone you trust who disagrees with you and ask them to make the case. Because becoming a better decision-maker isn't always about knowing more. Sometimes it's about learning to see what you're missing.
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What if the proof you're waiting for never comes?
The apology. The promotion. The recognition.
Someone finally admitting they were wrong about you. Someone finally telling you that you belong.
What if you're waiting for proof that you don't actually need?
After conversations with Cole Brauer and psychologist Marisa Franco, John R. Miles noticed a powerful connection between their work.
Cole was told she was too small to survive the Southern Ocean. A year later, she sailed solo, nonstop, and unassisted around the world—without ever receiving the apology or reversal she had been waiting for. Marisa's research reveals the other side of the equation: when we already believe we're unworthy, even love, success, compliments, and positive feedback can fail to change that belief. Sometimes, the evidence simply doesn't match the story we already carry about ourselves.
In this solo episode, John brings those two ideas together to explore The Verification Trap—the tendency to wait for external proof before allowing ourselves to believe we're capable, worthy, or ready to move forward.
You'll discover:
Why a genuine compliment can sometimes make people feel worse instead of better
How rejection can become part of the story you believe about yourself
Why success and achievement don't necessarily resolve a deeper sense of unworthiness
How your memories can become a database that filters the evidence you receive
Why waiting for someone to reverse their judgment can keep you stuck
The difference between being validated and actually believing you're worthy
What Cole Brauer's story teaches us about moving forward without permission
Why healing requires honesty rather than constantly trying to become a better version of yourself
John's two-question Verification Check for identifying where you're waiting for external proof
How to take the smallest possible step toward something you've been waiting for permission to do
And John gets personal, sharing a previously untold chapter of his own life and what rebuilding after divorce taught him about validation, action, and self-trust. He realized that the proof didn't come before he moved forward.
The proof came after.
The Verification Check
Ask yourself: What specific proof am I waiting for before I let myself move forward?
Then ask: If that proof never arrives, is there a version of this where I go anyway?
Because sometimes you don't need the verdict reversed. You need to leave the dock.
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Why do you still feel like you're not enough—even when your life looks successful from the outside?
You can have a successful career, loving relationships, and people who genuinely care about you—and still struggle to believe you're worthy of love, connection, or belonging.
Marisa G. Franco, psychologist and author of the New York Times bestseller Platonic, returns to Passion Struck to explore the deeper science behind self-worth in her new book, Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment.
Her argument challenges one of the most common ideas about self-esteem: you don't become worthy by achieving more, becoming more impressive, or convincing yourself that you're extraordinary.
Instead, worth begins with something much harder—and much more honest: learning to accept yourself as you are.
In this conversation, Marisa explains:
Why achievement, compliments, and positive affirmations often fail to fix low self-worth
How childhood memories can become the lens through which we predict rejection, abandonment, or failure
Why trying to appear “secure” can actually disconnect you from your authentic self
The hidden cost of making your worth dependent on achievement
Why healing isn't becoming a better version of yourself—it's reconnecting with the parts of yourself you've learned to ignore
What “open memories” are and why unresolved experiences can continue shaping how you see yourself decades later
How attachment styles can be understood as adaptive responses rather than fixed identities
Why we need to stop treating our emotions as problems to solve and start allowing them to move through us
How memory reconsolidation may help us create new meaning around painful experiences
Why sometimes becoming healthier means allowing a relationship to end rather than abandoning yourself to save it
One of the most powerful ideas in our conversation is this: The goal isn't to convince yourself that you're extraordinary. It's to recognize that you're worthy even when you're ordinary.
Marisa's work offers a different way to think about healing: not as a project of optimization, but as the process of coming home to yourself.
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What happens when someone tells you that you're too small to do the thing you've been working toward your entire life?
For Cole Brauer, that moment could have been the end of the story. Instead, it became part of the beginning. Cole was told she was too short to compete in the Southern Ocean. She was cut from a major team after traveling across the Atlantic and giving up paid opportunities to pursue the dream. A year later, she was sailing solo around the world.
But what makes Cole's story so compelling isn't simply the achievement. It's everything she had to become along the way.
Cole grew up in a small town on Long Island, moved across the country, changed academic and career directions, lived in a van, taught herself the mechanical, electrical, and rigging systems of a boat, and eventually found a community and a purpose through sailing.
Then came the ultimate test: more than 130 days alone at sea.
She talks openly about the loneliness and anxiety that hit her roughly two weeks into the voyage, when the team and community she had relied on suddenly disappeared. Instead of trying to suppress those feelings, she learned to understand them, participate in nature, take care of her body, and keep moving forward.
Cole also shares why she chose her boat over the possibility of winning when she encountered two massive storms near Cape Horn, why First Light became more than a vessel to her, and how that relationship ultimately became a mirror through which she learned to see herself differently.
In this conversation, we explore:
What to do when someone else's definition of you becomes a limitation you start believing yourself.
Why Cole sees rock bottom not simply as failure, but as a place from which you can begin climbing again.
How purpose can sustain you when money, fame, and recognition aren't enough.
Why Cole believes our lives aren't predetermined and that we can restart far more times than we think.
What four months alone at sea taught her about loneliness, anxiety, self-care, and self-trust.
Why nature became one of Cole's greatest teachers and helped make the unpredictable feel more understandable.
How she learned to separate emotional reactions from the decisions she needed to make in moments of crisis.
Why she chose to protect First Light rather than risk the boat for a chance at winning near Cape Horn.
How gratitude helped her recognize the people who made the journey possible.
Why the solo journey wasn't the end of Cole's transformation, but the beginning of discovering who she really was.
Cole's story is ultimately a reminder that adaptation isn't always about becoming someone new. Sometimes it's about discovering who you were capable of becoming all along. And sometimes the people who tell you that you can't are simply showing you the limits of their imagination.
As Cole says, when someone tells you there's no way you can do something, sometimes the only answer is: "Yeah, okay. Just watch me."
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What if having more freedom doesn't always make you more free?
We tend to believe that adaptability means having more options, more resources, more independence, and more control. But after conversations with Martin Seligman and David Epstein, I began to see a different pattern.
Sometimes unlimited freedom creates paralysis. Sometimes individual willpower becomes isolation. And sometimes our greatest breakthroughs happen not when we escape our constraints, but when we learn how to work intelligently within them.
That's the paradox at the heart of this episode.
David Epstein's Inside the Box shows how constraints can focus creativity and turn seemingly small problems into breakthroughs. Martin Seligman's Agency asks a deeper question: What happens when human beings believe their actions can actually change the future?
Put those ideas together, and a new definition of adaptability emerges.
Real adaptability isn't about controlling everything. It's about knowing where you have agency—and using it well.
In this episode, I explore:
Why General Magic's enormous freedom became one of its greatest weaknesses—and how smaller, more focused ideas became eBay and the PalmPilot.
Why Mendeleev's breakthrough began with a textbook deadline rather than a magical dream.
The first question of the Agency Check: What constraint are you running away from that might actually contain your focus?
What my experience at Lowe's taught me about the danger of trying to solve enormous problems all at once.
Why UPS discovered that its routing challenge was ultimately a human learning and change-management problem, not simply a technology problem.
Martin Seligman's distinction between "I can" and "we can"—and why sustainable progress requires both individual and collective agency.
Why unlimited information can create a poverty of attention, and what Gloria Mark's research reveals about the cost of constant task switching.
David Epstein's Hemingway Principle for protecting tomorrow's most important work from today's urgent distractions.
How to conduct your own Constraint Check and Agency Check when you're feeling stuck or helpless.
The question isn't whether you can control everything. You can't. The question is whether you can identify what is actually within your agency, stop wasting energy fighting what isn't, and then act with intention inside the reality you've been given.
Because adaptability isn't unlimited freedom. It's agency within reality.
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