Passion Struck with John R. Miles

Why do we feel a "disclosure hangover" the moment we reveal something real, yet feel a persistent sense of loneliness when we stay silent?
Today, we are diving into the complex psychology of human connection with one of the world's leading experts on the science of secrets and sharing. Joining me is Harvard Business School professor and author Dr. Leslie John to discuss her groundbreaking new book, "Revealing."
In this conversation, we challenge the conventional wisdom that "less is more." Leslie argues that while we are hyper-aware of the risks of oversharing (TMI), we are almost entirely blind to the devastating costs of under-sharing (TLI—Too Little Information). We explore why silence is not neutral and how the fear of vulnerability is actually holding us back from the trust, influence, and well-being we crave.
We move from the research labs of Harvard to the internal "release valves" of our own emotions. Leslie reveals why your "disclosure reflex" might be miscalibrated and how "revealing wisely" can supercharge your career, deepen your most important relationships, and even improve your physical health.
If you’ve ever held back your truest self out of fear of judgment, this episode provides the scientific compass to help you navigate the social risks of being real.
Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. It is ranked #1 on FeedSpot’s list of the Top Passion Podcasts on the Web and is consistently recognized among the world's top business and mindset podcasts.
Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/leslie-john-the-science-of-opening-up-tli/
Download a Free Companion Reflection Guide: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/the-hidden-cost-of-silence-leslie-john
Connect with John (keynotes, books, podcast): https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Get the book Revealing: The Science and Power of Opening Up: https://www.lesliekjohn.com/book
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
The TLI (Too Little Information) Trap: Why the opportunities you miss by staying silent are far more damaging than the occasional awkwardness of saying too much.
The Disclosure Hangover: Understanding the psychological sting we feel after being vulnerable and why it’s often a false signal of social danger.
The Body’s Release Valve: Why sharing your feelings is a highly credible form of information that reduces physiological stress and breaks through stagnant communication.
The Gender Gap in Vulnerability: Insights from Leslie’s research on how boys and girls process emotion differently as early as kindergarten, and what it means for us as adults.
The Power of "Going First": How leaders can use metered vulnerability to build psychological safety and increase team motivation.
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What happens when the script you’ve lived for decades suddenly ends, and you’re forced to write a new one?
Today, I am joined by a true pioneer of broadcast journalism and a household name for nearly two decades as the co-host of Good Morning America, Joan Lunden. We are discussing her deeply personal new memoir, JOAN: Life Beyond the Script.
In this conversation, Joan pulls back the curtain on the transitions that defined her—from the high-pressure world of morning television and being a trailblazer for working mothers to her public battle with breast cancer and her current mission as a powerful advocate for the "sandwich generation" of caregivers.
We dive into the "just say yes" philosophy that launched her career and why she believes reinvention isn't just possible at any age—it's essential. Joan reveals why your worth isn't tied to a title or a teleprompter, but to the courage it takes to step into the unknown.
If you are navigating a career change, facing a health challenge, or wondering what your next act looks like, this episode provides the blueprint for writing a life of meaning on your own terms.
Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. It is ranked #1 on FeedSpot’s list of the Top Passion Podcasts on the Web and is consistently recognized among the world's top business and mindset podcasts.
Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/say-yes-joan-lunden-interview-life-beyond-script/
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Connect with John (keynotes, books, podcast): https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Get the New Book JOAN: Life Beyond the Script: https://joanlunden.com/books/
In This Episode, You Will Learn
The "Just Say Yes" Philosophy: How Joan Lunden's motto—"Whenever anyone asks you to do something, just say yes and then go figure out how to do it"—catapulted her career, from impromptu hosting GMA to embracing new opportunities at any age.
Breaking Barriers on Good Morning America: Bringing her baby to work, navigating sexism in the "second banana" era, and shifting to a true 50/50 partnership with Charlie Gibson—lessons in equality and humanizing television journalism.
Identity After the Spotlight: The emotional toll of leaving GMA after 20 years, the vulnerability of losing a national platform, and how to rebuild purpose beyond the role that defined you.
Turning Cancer into Advocacy: How a breast cancer diagnosis became a "gift" to fulfill her father's legacy, fight for dense breast tissue reporting laws, and remove fear for other women.
Caregiving Wisdom for the Sandwich Generation: Practical tips for preparing early—interviewing aging parents, securing legal tools like durable power of attorney and HIPAA releases, and addressing the emotional and practical challenges of elder care.
Support the Movement
Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.com
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What if Henry David Thoreau wasn’t escaping work but redesigning it?
In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles sits down with author and thought leadership expert Ken Lizotte to explore his transformative new book, Walden for Hire: Business Lessons from Henry David Thoreau.
Together, they dismantle the myth of Thoreau as a solitary hermit removed from society. Instead, they reveal a disciplined builder, an innovative entrepreneur, and a master architect of intentional living.
Lizotte reveals that Thoreau’s time at Walden wasn't a withdrawal; it was an act of radical design. By simplifying his needs and aligning his work with his values, Thoreau reclaimed his authorship. From reinventing pencil manufacturing to building a thriving surveying practice, he proved that meaningful work and ethical success are not opposing forces—they are deeply intertwined.
At the heart of this episode is a powerful reframe: A life of quiet desperation is often a life disconnected from meaning. The solution isn't to do more; it is to live more deliberately.
Drawing from philosophy, history, and modern psychology, this conversation offers a blueprint for anyone questioning the true cost of their current path—and seeking a way to work without betraying their soul.
🔗 Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/ethical-entrepreneurship-henry-david-thoreau/
Explore You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
Go deeper with companion reflections: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/business-mentor-for-2026-ethical-entrepreneurship
Connect with John (speaking, books, podcast): https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
In This Episode, You Will Learn
The biggest misconception about Thoreau’s relationship with work, productivity, and success
How “quiet desperation” shows up today as burnout, disorientation, and loss of meaning
What Thoreau meant by “the price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it.”
Why simplifying your life restores time, attention, and autonomy
How aligning your work with your values strengthens your sense of mattering
The concept of moral independence—and why your livelihood should never require self-betrayal
A practical reframe: how to examine your current life and redesign it around what truly matters
Support the Movement
Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.
👉 https://StartMattering.com
Disclaimer
The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a licensed physician, therapist, or other qualified professional.
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Why does modern life feel so "thin and frantic," even when we are more connected than ever?
Today, we are venturing into the "Celtic fringe" to sit with the man widely considered the preeminent mythologist of our time. Joining me is New York Times bestselling author Dr. Martin Shaw to discuss his profound new masterwork, Liturgies of the Wild.
In this conversation, we move beyond the clinical and the therapeutic to explore the mythic imagination. Martin argues that we are currently suffering from a profound spiritual exhaustion—not because we lack information, but because we have traded devotion for consumption.
We dive into the "mosh pit" of story, where Martin reveals why your life isn't a problem to be solved, but an ancient narrative to be lived. From the "Liturgy of the Limit" to the "Ecclesiastical Counter-Magic" required to meet the darkness of our age, this episode is a call to return home to a life of weight, worth, and wonder.
If you’ve ever felt like a passenger in a world moving too fast, this episode offers the ancient compass you’ve been looking for.
Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. It is ranked #1 on FeedSpot’s list of the Top Passion Podcasts on the Web and is consistently recognized among the world's top business and mindset podcasts.
Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/liturgies-of-the-wild-martin-shaw/
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Connect with John (keynotes, books, podcast): https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Get the New York Times Bestseller Liturgies of the Wild: https://drmartinshaw.com/books/
In This Episode, You Will Learn
The "Thin and Frantic" Diagnosis: Why excess choice and digital noise are stripping the weight from our souls.
The Liturgy of the Limit: Why meaning is found through what we say "no" to, and how the "banks" of the river create the depth of the current.
Myth as a Mosh Pit: Why we must stop politely observing our lives and start participating in the "sweat and friction" of our own mythic story.
Ecclesiastical Counter-Magic: How to use ritual, story, and awe-filled attention to meet the darkness of the modern world without becoming it.
The Discipline of Praise Making: Why maturity is the ability to recognize life as a gift and offer praise even amid the wreckage.
Recovering the Ancient Good: How to reconnect with the enduring truths that remain "awe-filled, urgent, and alive" regardless of the era.
Support the Movement
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Disclaimer
The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a licensed physician, therapist, or other qualified professional
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Why do so many children feel invisible, even in homes filled with love?
Today, on the official launch day of my new children's book, You Matter, Luma, we are diving into the heart of why "mattering" is the most important foundation we can build for the next generation.
Joining me is Dr. Gordon Flett, the world’s leading researcher on mattering and author of the groundbreaking paper on "Anti-Mattering." In this conversation, we reveal a startling disconnect: while only 8% of parents think their child might feel they don’t matter, nearly 35% of youth report feeling insignificant or uncertain of their worth.
Dr. Flett explains why mattering is a "foundational human need" and how we can bridge this gap to protect our children's mental health.
This conversation builds on the You Matter series—featuring leading thinkers like Barry Schwartz, Rebecca Newberger Goldstein, Daniel Coyle, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Harry Reis, and Paul Eastwick—and arrives at a powerful conclusion:
Mattering isn’t a luxury. It’s a core human need.
If you’ve ever questioned your place, struggled with invisibility, or wondered how to help others feel seen—this episode offers both scientific clarity and human hope.
Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. It is ranked #1 on FeedSpot’s list of the Top Passion Podcasts on the Web and is consistently recognized among the world's top business and mindset podcasts.
Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/feeling-like-you-matter-gordon-flett/
Download a Free Companion Reflection Guide: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/you-matter-luma-intrinsic-worth
Connect with John (keynotes, books, podcast): https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles
Get the New Children’s Book You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/
Learn More About Gordon Flett: https://www.yorku.ca/lamarsh/gord-flett/
In This Episode, You Will Learn
Mattering is foundational, not optional. It underpins mental health, relationships, and identity.
The Difference Between Love and Mattering: Why a child can be loved but still feel like they don't count.
Feeling unseen is deeply painful. It can manifest as shame, withdrawal, or a belief that one’s presence doesn’t count.
Childhood is the critical window. Early signals of attention and care shape lifelong self-worth.
Small moments matter most. Being noticed, listened to, and valued creates a lasting psychological impact.
Mattering can be created. Through attention, service, and connection, we can restore it in ourselves and others.
Support the Movement
Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.com
Disclaimer
The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a licensed physician, therapist, or other qualified professional.
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