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Five o'clock. It's like an internal alarm that goes off for Sandra. The day goes from manageable to get me the heck out of here as soon as the clock flips. For Lucy, it usually hits mid-afternoon: the realization that today won't be Day 1 alcohol-free after all. Drinking to check out is so normal that most people will tell you it isn't a problem at all, but that isn't for anyone else to decide. It's up to Sandra and Lucy to choose what role alcohol will have in their lives.

Lucy discusses:

The two voices in her head, arguing again

Why she thinks she “deserves” a drink every night

Her father's death, her husband's cancer, and the return to the Path

What her relationship with wine has to do with her closeness to her brother

Sandra discusses:

Expectation: the thing she didn't know she was addicted to

The kindergarten memory Coach Zoe keeps circling back to

Golf, Mahjong, and why staying busy matters more than she thought

Wise adult, adaptive child, wounded child: the three Sandras

And more…

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Hayley Scherders is a Certified This Naked Mind Senior Coach. Drawing from personal experience, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, judgment-free space where clients feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: http://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Zoe Ewart is a Certified This Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/

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5 a.m., and the bottles go out before anyone's awake. A soft clink of glass against the can, quick hands, quicker steps back inside. For years this was Michelle's ritual, drink alone, hide it, wake up and do it again. A DUI didn't stop it. A year and a half without a drink during COVID didn't stop it. One sentence, heard on a commute to work, finally put a stop to her cycle of drinking alone and hiding it.

Michelle and Coach Cole discuss:

Growing up with a mother whose drinking shaped a lifelong anxiety Michelle didn't understand until years later

Why marijuana, not alcohol, came first, and what changed in her mid-twenties

The private ritual of disposing of empty bottles before dawn, and what it revealed about the shame she was carrying

A DUI, a year and a half alcohol-free during COVID, and why neither one was the real turning point

The one unexpected concept that finally undid years of moderating, relapsing, and starting over

And more on shame, self-trust, and what it means to finally feel like one whole person instead of two…

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Cole Harvey is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who helps people build better habits and find meaning through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

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Trigger Warning: This episode mentions death by suicide and death from alcohol use.

Something is wrong with me. Five words, but they can resonate in your brain over and over again for decades. That's the reality Lisa and Michelle have been living with day in and day out. To the point where drowning that voice out with wine was the only way to find peace. Or so they thought. Coaches Cole and Zoe offer a new perspective and a pathway to healing.

Lisa discusses:

The list of 15 friends who disappeared from her life, and what she'd decided it meant about her

The one letter her father ever wrote her, sent the year before he died of alcoholism

Why "people just lose touch" was the hardest reframe she'd ever been asked to try on

The difference between giving from love and giving to keep someone from leaving

Michelle discusses:

The exact age she started drinking, and what it gave her that nothing else did

Why "turn that frown upside down" became the rule that shaped her whole childhood

Becoming a people pleaser, and what it cost her to keep speaking up

Learning to re-parent the little girl who never got to just be herself

And more…

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Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/

Episode links:

Join The Path - nakedmindpath.com

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How do you quit drinking when your job is getting other people to drink? For years, that was Kelly's daily reality. She sampled wine and liquor with retailers all day, then went out drinking with her coworkers once the samples were done, and some nights she couldn't drive home afterward. She kept a tablecloth in the back seat of her car for exactly those nights, climbing back there to sleep it off instead of getting behind the wheel. Quitting drinking while working in alcohol sales meant unlearning her entire job description, and almost ten months later, she no longer needs that tablecloth.

Kelly and Coach Cole discuss:

Growing up with wine treated as a nightly ritual, and how that shaped her first years of drinking

Losing her senior season and her team captaincy after one night out with alcohol

What working in alcohol sales and distribution did to her drinking, and what daily industry culture looked like from the inside

Tracking her drinks in an app and mistaking a lower number for freedom

Learning to treat a slip as a data point instead of a reason to quit trying

Naming her drunk self "Kelly Lynn," and what it took to stop holding her at arm's length

And more on rediscovering travel, music, and finding her way back to who she was before alcohol took over…

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Trigger warning: This episode mentions disordered eating and self-harm.

“You either drink, or you don’t,” Kelly’s husband actually said to her. If only it were that simple, like there’s a switch you can just flick and the desire to drink evaporates. While that might be true for some people, most of us find the path to freedom much harder. Jules knows that, and she knows how hard being honest with the people you love about your drinking can be. When you’re stuck in the loop between blame, shame, and guilt, honesty seems hard to come by. Coaches Zoe and Cole help Kelly and Jules find peace with what was and hope for what’s to come.

Kelly discusses:

Realizing her drinking was a way to make an unsustainable marriage feel sustainable

How her husband’s “black and white” view of quitting fed a cycle of shame and blame

The one idea from The Path that reframed everything for her, and what changed once she stopped drinking alone in her bedroom

Renaming herself from “Blackout Kelly” to “Clear Kelly,” and what created that shift

Jules discusses:

Fearing she’s already failed her kids as a mother because of her drinking

A memory from a backyard badminton game with her daughter that she can’t shake

Coach Cole’s reframe of shame and guilt

What having the alcohol conversation with her kids might look like

And more…

Ready to take the next step?

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Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol.

Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/

Cole Harvey is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Episode links:

Join The Path - nakedmindpath.com

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