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The ultimate purpose of embracing uncertainty is that it eventually leads to all of us becoming an authority on ourselves. This means by doing hard things we begin to awaken aspects off ourselves which we never knew existed. These new parts, which have always been available to us, will prove to be very useful for any future challenge we need to navigate. For example, when I worked in real estate in the late 90s and early 2000s, I did a lot of cold calling and door knocking on the streets. We also had a mentor in the office who loved teachers like Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy. Embracing the fear and discomfort of going out cold calling looking for new business, and listening to people like Jim, Zig and Brian, unbeknown to me was preparing me to have my own business one day. It was such a great preparation for what was to come. Becoming an authority on ourselves also means we create a deeply personal sense of wisdom. Emotionally fit people have a quiet sense of wisdom. What does this mean? It means they no longer define themselves by their roles and achievements. They instead define themselves by the character they are becoming. Their lives become less about them and more about others. They no longer chase the goal of getting happy but embrace the mission of becoming fulfilled. They no longer want to be somebody and prefer to becoming nobody. They allow an abundance of opportunities to take part in activities which bring them joy, and they are conscious meaning making machines, hence becoming incredibly emotionally healthy. They have a clean and clear perspective on all things and do not believe in regret. The journey to becoming an authority on yourself takes courage and commitment. These are tow hallmarks of psychological maturity. -------------------------------- Register for the upcoming free trainings ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au ----------------------------------------------------- Let's connect ⁠⁠@joepaneinsights⁠⁠ -  ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights

Emotional fitness is measured by the quality of our relationship with uncertainty. It is a psychological preparedness for the pressures, stresses and challenges our professional and personal lives inevitably bring. Uncertainty is a precursory seed for growth. Growth is a perpetual need of the human condition. In other words, it has been the challenges we have needed to navigate which have given us the most significant growth points. Facing and embracing uncertainty is not only a prerequisite for our growth, but it also prepares us for the next level of our lives. Next level of responsibilities, obligations and skillsets needed to thrive and survive. It is highly likely that the 2005 version of us would struggle to handle the responsibilities, obligations, and skillsets we need to handle our 2024 version of ourselves. Our 2024 version of ourselves may struggle to handle the 2035 responsibilities, obligations and skillsets needed in our lives then. We will need to grow into the 2035 version of ourselves. Uncertainty, in its many forms, will need to be embraced to get there. Therefore, uncertainty is part of the very fabric of life. Without it we cannot grow and keep up with our lives’ demands. Our level of emotional fitness is crucial to how well we navigate life’s challenges. It is important to realize that we can proactively work on improving our emotional fitness, just like moving and exercising our bodies improves our physical fitness. Here are 5 ways we can improve our emotional fitness. 1. Do something physically hard. Naturally this is very subjective. Do an ice bath, run a marathon, or even participate in your local park run to beat your time (park run is a free 5km fun run held every Saturday morning all year round. Research has continually shown that physical exertion improves our capacity to navigate the psychological pressures life will bring. 2. Practice acceptance. When facing any form of difficulty our life brings, the worse thing we can do is avoid, reject, or try to go around the issue. The sooner we accept and embrace it the sooner we can navigate through it effectively. Carl Jung once said “We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses it.” We can practice acceptance with the little everyday things that may go wrong, for example, a friend cancels a catch up. Practice accepting it immediately without lolling around in disappointment. 3. Practice the art of conscious meaning making. Emotions don’t respond to facts. They respond to the meaning we give the facts. Next time you feel a negative or heavy emotion, ask yourself, ‘what meaning have I just given what I have just experienced?’ Changing the meaning changes the emotion which in turn changes our experience. 4. Create a clean and healthy perspective. Our mind is all we have. When we get caught up in the dramas of life, has anyone ever said to you something like, ‘you just need to get things into perspective!’ When things get tough, we need a clean and healthy big picture view of our situation. In other words, we will need a healthy perspective to lean on. This is created by having a continual connection to gratitude and appreciation. There is always something to appreciate and be grateful for. 5. Simple rituals to set up our day. Rituals create predictability, comfort, and certainty. We all need a base of certainty to effectively operate in the world. This increases our emotional fitness because we will be psychologically in a much better place to handle the pressures or stresses of our day. Our emotional fitness plays a crucial role in maintaining our mental health levels at a functional and resourceful level. By consciously working on improving our emotional fitness we will be much better prepared for when we need to navigate those difficult days, or months. ------------- To register for the Free Masterclass go to www.joepane.com.au

The topic explored in episode 97 of Insights with Joe Pane, the podcast is: Projection…a very touchy subject. Have you ever been instantly triggered by someone for no logical reason? Have you ever found yourself overreacting to a seemingly innocuous comment? What about anger? Have you ever become overly angry about something that is a mere inconvenience? These emotionally riddled triggers can be shocking, surprising and even downright confusing. They can take us and the people around us by complete surprise. Human behaviour is complex. It has been said that every where we go, there we are. Carl Jung once said that all perception is projection. In other words, every where we go, we can only experience aspects of ourselves. More accurately said, every where we go we can only experience aspects of our unconscious mind projecting itself onto the screen of life. These projections can vary from inspirational experiences through to experiences we detest. The negatively charged experiences can become very difficult to accept when we experience in others triggers or qualities which we detest or refuse to tolerate. All projection derives from the contents of our unconscious mind. In Jung’s “Collected Works” he best described the unconscious mind as: “ Everything of which I know, but of which I am not at the moment thinking, everything of which I was once conscious but have now forgotten, everything perceived by my senses, but not noted by my conscious mind, everything which, involuntarily and without paying attention to it, I feel, think, remember, want, and do, all the future things that are taking shape in me and will sometime come to consciousness: all this is the content of the unconscious.” Most projections are inert, neutral perceptions of our environment; however, the biggest learning and growing opportunities are the triggered projections. This type of projection (triggered) has 3 main qualities. They are: 1. Emotional 2. Compulsive 3. Out of proportion to the situation presented. As an example, anger is emotional (ie intense), compulsive (instant) and out of proportion to the situation (overreacting). These emotional, compulsive over reactions occur when we are projecting aspects of our unconscious which are unresolved, not embraced or we have not taken responsibility for. In other words, these triggered responses derive from unresolved frustrations, or issues, which we have not embraced or taken responsibility for in our lives. Often these triggers build up overtime because... To read more visit ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/blog ⁠⁠ ---------------------------------------------------------------- Get your copy of the book: Courage to BE YOU https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ---------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine⁠⁠ To read more visit ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/blog ⁠⁠ Let's connect ⁠⁠@joepaneinsights⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights

We will explore on a deeper level how it is we make all of our decisions. The word decide has a fascinating history. The word decide, which originates in the 1300s, actually means to cut off or to kill off. FREE training - Register now! ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joepane.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The suffix ‘-cide’ means to kill off. For example, homicide, pesticide and insecticide. I'm sure you get the idea. The word decide means to cut off from the past. In this Part 2 of episode 95, we will now explore how each of the four energetic types of DISC energy make decisions. I love this quote from Carl Jung. Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. Carl Jung. In so many ways by becoming aware of each of the energy styles decision making strategies, we will most certainly make the unconscious conscious. For most of us have never heard of these decision- making strategies I'm about to share. Let's begin by focusing on the D energy first. The D energy is outcome focused goal orientated fact driven and is the fastest decision maker of all four types. The D energies decision making strategy is one that is automatic with outcome-based criteria. In other words, once their outcome-based criteria has been met they make the decision straight away. For example, if they were buying a book , they would assess that book based on how well or how effectively it contributes to a specific goal or outcome they are seeking. If it satisfies that criteria, they make the decision immediately. The I energies have a similar decision making strategy. Via automatic decision makers with connection-based criteria. In other words, they base their decisions on who else is involved, who else will be impacted, who else do I get to share this with, who do I get to connect with. Back to our book buying example, the I energy would take a look at the testimonies in the book and who wrote them. An if who wrote them impresses them or if they are someone that they respect they will base their decision on buying the book based on who said what about the book. Very different decision-making strategy to the D energy! The S energy is a slower decision maker generally. They are what is known as a period of time convincer. They need time to reflect on how they feel about the decision they are about to make. In the bookstore they'll spend some time with the book perhaps seated immersed in pages of the book for maybe 20 or 30 minutes, and will then place the book back down to walk around the store to reflect on whether they should buy it or not. This would drive a Do I energy nuts. The C energies are the most detailed and analytical of all of the decision makers. They are known as number of times convincers. Typically, three to five times. They might have to circle back three or four times to the book before they buy it. Generally, most of the time they need at least three touch points either mentally physically or psychologically to make a decision. I'm looking forward immensely to taking a much deeper dive into these energetic profiles in our upcoming free intro to E disc training on March 22 and 23. To register feel welcome to go to www.joepane.com.au and register your details so you can access the zoom link. Can't wait to see you there it's going to be fun. Thank you for reading. FREE training - Register now! ⁠⁠https://www.joepane.com.au⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ -------------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ To read more visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/blog ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Let's connect ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ -  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights