Insights with Joe Pane

• E101. Emotional Fitness 101

  Emotional fitness is learning how to continue to transform your relationship with uncertainty. The quality of our relationship with uncertainty matters immensely as it is a precursor to all growth. Growth is the perpetual need of the human condition. It is the very fabric of life; without it we cannot progress in who we are becoming and who we need to be to handle life’s inevitable challenges and problems. There are 5 key components of emotional fitness, of which all contribute to this all-important relationship to uncertainty. 1. Identity – our self-concept. By having clarity of who we are we can connect with the certainty needed to tackle difficult problems. This certainty is about backing oneself. 2. Life Stages – our journey from ambition to meaning. This is the journey from ego centricity to heart centricity. Focusing on what we can give rather than what we are getting, enables us to create a functional and purposeful meaning when navigating anything difficult. 3. Values – our emotional compass which directs us to realise our deepest desires. A value is an activity we do which brings us joy. Having a joyous activity to look forward to weekly, gives us the strength and energy needed to navigate any form of uncertainty. 4. Emotional flexibility – our emotions do not respond to facts; they respond to our interpretation of the facts. By learning how we create emotion we better manage ourselves through difficult times. 5. Perspective – our bigger picture view of life. Developing a clean and healthy perspective proves very useful to lean on when things get tough. For a deeper dive into emotional fitness, check out my book “Courage To BE You – Your guide to mastering Uncertainty.” --------------------------------------------------- Register for the upcoming free trainings ⁠⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au⁠ ----------------------------------------------------- Let's connect ⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights⁠⁠⁠ -  ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights

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• E100 We Can’t See Beyond A Choice We Have Not Made.

  As 2025 fast approaches, we once again face a new chapter in all our lives. We have become the accumulation of all choices, decisions, and actions we have and have not taken. Naturally this will continue into 2025 and beyond. When we don’t make that choice or decision, we cannot see what lies beyond it. Often when faced with significant decisions which will impact our lives and life direction, we can become guilty staying still. Our ego’s addiction to certainty comes to the fore and can complicate choice points. The ego’s favourite tool is fear. It loves engaging in the ‘what if’ talk, dealing in inuendo and hypotheticals, of which the majority will never come to fruition. When the ego is driving the bus, it prefers to stick to well known routes. When our spirit or soul drives the bus, we embrace the adventure of the unknown. We go down roads which have never existed. Carl Jung identified that we can live in one of two worlds. Those two worlds are the conventional world or the special world. The conventional world has clear path, and you simply do what everyone else is doing. This world is riddled in certainty, safety, comfort, predictability and familiarity. Whilst we all love these various flavours of comfort, we cannot grow in this environment. If we don’t grow, we fail to keep up with who we are becoming and will struggle to handle the next level of the game, that is our lives. For us to grow we need challenge, resistance, problem, adventures and so on. Contrary to the conventional world, the special world has no path, it has no direction and there is nobody there to tell you what to do. Sure, as we journey further into the special world, we will inevitably meet mentors and guides, but only we can take the step. There is no elevator to the top of Mt Everest. We have guides but they can’t climb it for us. The special world requires us to make choices, new decisions and commit to our chosen direction. In this world we can change path anytime, because all paths lead to our realised potential. In the special world our path is created as we move, just as a snail leaves a trail behind. It does not wait for the trail to appear because it doesn’t exist. We cannot see beyond a choice we haven’t made, unless we make that choice and commit. -------------------------------- Register for the upcoming free trainings ⁠⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au⁠ ----------------------------------------------------- Let's connect ⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights⁠⁠⁠ -  ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights

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• E99. Becoming An Authority On Yourself.

  The ultimate purpose of embracing uncertainty is that it eventually leads to all of us becoming an authority on ourselves. This means by doing hard things we begin to awaken aspects off ourselves which we never knew existed. These new parts, which have always been available to us, will prove to be very useful for any future challenge we need to navigate. For example, when I worked in real estate in the late 90s and early 2000s, I did a lot of cold calling and door knocking on the streets. We also had a mentor in the office who loved teachers like Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar and Brian Tracy. Embracing the fear and discomfort of going out cold calling looking for new business, and listening to people like Jim, Zig and Brian, unbeknown to me was preparing me to have my own business one day. It was such a great preparation for what was to come. Becoming an authority on ourselves also means we create a deeply personal sense of wisdom. Emotionally fit people have a quiet sense of wisdom. What does this mean? It means they no longer define themselves by their roles and achievements. They instead define themselves by the character they are becoming. Their lives become less about them and more about others. They no longer chase the goal of getting happy but embrace the mission of becoming fulfilled. They no longer want to be somebody and prefer to becoming nobody. They allow an abundance of opportunities to take part in activities which bring them joy, and they are conscious meaning making machines, hence becoming incredibly emotionally healthy. They have a clean and clear perspective on all things and do not believe in regret. The journey to becoming an authority on yourself takes courage and commitment. These are tow hallmarks of psychological maturity. -------------------------------- Register for the upcoming free trainings ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au ----------------------------------------------------- Let's connect ⁠⁠@joepaneinsights⁠⁠ -  ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights

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• E98. 5 Ways To Improve Your Emotional Fitness

  Emotional fitness is measured by the quality of our relationship with uncertainty. It is a psychological preparedness for the pressures, stresses and challenges our professional and personal lives inevitably bring. Uncertainty is a precursory seed for growth. Growth is a perpetual need of the human condition. In other words, it has been the challenges we have needed to navigate which have given us the most significant growth points. Facing and embracing uncertainty is not only a prerequisite for our growth, but it also prepares us for the next level of our lives. Next level of responsibilities, obligations and skillsets needed to thrive and survive. It is highly likely that the 2005 version of us would struggle to handle the responsibilities, obligations, and skillsets we need to handle our 2024 version of ourselves. Our 2024 version of ourselves may struggle to handle the 2035 responsibilities, obligations and skillsets needed in our lives then. We will need to grow into the 2035 version of ourselves. Uncertainty, in its many forms, will need to be embraced to get there. Therefore, uncertainty is part of the very fabric of life. Without it we cannot grow and keep up with our lives’ demands. Our level of emotional fitness is crucial to how well we navigate life’s challenges. It is important to realize that we can proactively work on improving our emotional fitness, just like moving and exercising our bodies improves our physical fitness. Here are 5 ways we can improve our emotional fitness. 1. Do something physically hard. Naturally this is very subjective. Do an ice bath, run a marathon, or even participate in your local park run to beat your time (park run is a free 5km fun run held every Saturday morning all year round. Research has continually shown that physical exertion improves our capacity to navigate the psychological pressures life will bring. 2. Practice acceptance. When facing any form of difficulty our life brings, the worse thing we can do is avoid, reject, or try to go around the issue. The sooner we accept and embrace it the sooner we can navigate through it effectively. Carl Jung once said “We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses it.” We can practice acceptance with the little everyday things that may go wrong, for example, a friend cancels a catch up. Practice accepting it immediately without lolling around in disappointment. 3. Practice the art of conscious meaning making. Emotions don’t respond to facts. They respond to the meaning we give the facts. Next time you feel a negative or heavy emotion, ask yourself, ‘what meaning have I just given what I have just experienced?’ Changing the meaning changes the emotion which in turn changes our experience. 4. Create a clean and healthy perspective. Our mind is all we have. When we get caught up in the dramas of life, has anyone ever said to you something like, ‘you just need to get things into perspective!’ When things get tough, we need a clean and healthy big picture view of our situation. In other words, we will need a healthy perspective to lean on. This is created by having a continual connection to gratitude and appreciation. There is always something to appreciate and be grateful for. 5. Simple rituals to set up our day. Rituals create predictability, comfort, and certainty. We all need a base of certainty to effectively operate in the world. This increases our emotional fitness because we will be psychologically in a much better place to handle the pressures or stresses of our day. Our emotional fitness plays a crucial role in maintaining our mental health levels at a functional and resourceful level. By consciously working on improving our emotional fitness we will be much better prepared for when we need to navigate those difficult days, or months. ------------- To register for the Free Masterclass go to www.joepane.com.au

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• E97. Projection…a very touchy subject.

  The topic explored in episode 97 of Insights with Joe Pane, the podcast is: Projection…a very touchy subject. Have you ever been instantly triggered by someone for no logical reason? Have you ever found yourself overreacting to a seemingly innocuous comment? What about anger? Have you ever become overly angry about something that is a mere inconvenience? These emotionally riddled triggers can be shocking, surprising and even downright confusing. They can take us and the people around us by complete surprise. Human behaviour is complex. It has been said that every where we go, there we are. Carl Jung once said that all perception is projection. In other words, every where we go, we can only experience aspects of ourselves. More accurately said, every where we go we can only experience aspects of our unconscious mind projecting itself onto the screen of life. These projections can vary from inspirational experiences through to experiences we detest. The negatively charged experiences can become very difficult to accept when we experience in others triggers or qualities which we detest or refuse to tolerate. All projection derives from the contents of our unconscious mind. In Jung’s “Collected Works” he best described the unconscious mind as: “ Everything of which I know, but of which I am not at the moment thinking, everything of which I was once conscious but have now forgotten, everything perceived by my senses, but not noted by my conscious mind, everything which, involuntarily and without paying attention to it, I feel, think, remember, want, and do, all the future things that are taking shape in me and will sometime come to consciousness: all this is the content of the unconscious.” Most projections are inert, neutral perceptions of our environment; however, the biggest learning and growing opportunities are the triggered projections. This type of projection (triggered) has 3 main qualities. They are: 1. Emotional 2. Compulsive 3. Out of proportion to the situation presented. As an example, anger is emotional (ie intense), compulsive (instant) and out of proportion to the situation (overreacting). These emotional, compulsive over reactions occur when we are projecting aspects of our unconscious which are unresolved, not embraced or we have not taken responsibility for. In other words, these triggered responses derive from unresolved frustrations, or issues, which we have not embraced or taken responsibility for in our lives. Often these triggers build up overtime because... To read more visit ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/blog ⁠⁠ ---------------------------------------------------------------- Get your copy of the book: Courage to BE YOU https://amzn.to/49nNxy2 ---------------------------------------------------------------- Download your free copy of Insights Magazine ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/insightsmagazine⁠⁠ To read more visit ⁠⁠www.joepane.com.au/blog ⁠⁠ Let's connect ⁠⁠@joepaneinsights⁠⁠ - ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@joepaneinsights

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