Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

When a teen gets defiant or starts with the back talk, most of us push harder. More rules, louder voice, fewer explanations. And the harder we push, the further they pull away or shut down completely. José Rolón, known as NYC Gay Dad, raised his son and twin daughters as a single dad for ten years. He's the first LGBTQ dad on the cover of Parents Latina and co-host of the Love Take Two podcast, and he shares how he stays strict and fair without the yelling.

 

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN HOW TO:

Find the one setting where a teen who won't talk finally opens up

Understand the real reason your disrespectful teen goes from 0 to 100

Know what to say instead of "because I said so" when defiance hits

Use the one thing that earns your teen's respect faster than stricter rules

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED

José Rolón, @NYCGayDad 

Love Take Two podcast

 

The Parenting Teens Academy

The challenges we cover in this episode aren't happening in just one house. It's the exact thing we're talking about inside the Parenting Teens Academy, right now.

The Academy is a membership where you get direct answers from Dr. Cam when something blows up in real time, plus a step-by-step plan to adapt your parenting approach to work with your teen's brain, not against it. The best part, you have the comfort knowing you're not doing this alone anymore. The Parenting Teens Academy is full of supportive parents cheering each other on. Parents inside go from walking on eggshells to actually enjoying their teen again.

👉 Try it free for 7 days (www.askdrcam.com/academy)

 

MORE FROM DR. CAM
Follow me on Instagram @drcamcaswell

 

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🫶 Thanks for listening. See you next week. — Dr. Cam

Why Your Teen Won't Talk to You. And How to Change That Starting Today.

“I’m only trying to help, but every question makes my teen go quieter.”

When your teen won't talk, what looks like defiance may be a sign that they do not feel heard. The harder we push, fix, or force connection, the further they often pull away or shut down. Rachel Martin, Chief Operating Officer of the Born This Way Foundation, co-founded by Lady Gaga and her mother, Cynthia Bissett Germanotta, shares what teens need to feel safe opening up.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN HOW TO

Why your teen actually shuts down when you try to help.

The one thing missing when their packed schedule still feels lonely.

What to do instead of forcing connection when screen time spikes.

The real reason mental health talks can weaken or rebuild trust.

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Be There Certificate: https://www.betherecertificate.org

Born This Way Foundation: https://bornthisway.foundation/

Kindness in Community Fund

Ryan Bartel Foundation: https://www.ryanbartelfoundation.org/

Lambert House: https://www.lamberthouse.org/

Jack.org

Hopelab

 
The challenges we cover in this episode aren't happening in just one house. It's the exact thing we're talking about inside the Parenting Teens Academy, right now.

The Academy is a membership where you get direct answers from Dr. Cam when something blows up in real time, plus a step-by-step plan to adapt your parenting approach to work with your teen's brain, not against it. The best part, you have the comfort knowing you're not doing this alone anymore. The Parenting Teens Academy is full of supportive parents cheering each other on. Parents inside go from walking on eggshells to actually enjoying their teen again. 

👉 Try it free for 7 days: https://www.skool.com/parenting-teens-academy

MORE FROM DR. CAM
Follow on Instagram @drcamcaswell

SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW
If you loved this episode, please take a moment to subscribe and leave a review. Your support helps us reach more parents who want a better relationship with their teen too.

🫶 Thanks for listening. See you next week.  — Dr. Cam

Parents of teenagers face an impossible tension: how to stay close while giving their teens the freedom they desperately need. In this episode, child and adolescent psychotherapist Zara Kadir reveals that the biggest misconception about teens isn't that they don't like their parents—it's that they resent having an agenda forced onto every interaction.

Understanding the Teen Brain: How to Build Skills Without Punishment | Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Have you ever blamed your teen's eye rolls, impulsive decisions, or emotional reactions on their "underdeveloped brain"? While the teen brain continues developing into the mid-20s, that doesn't mean teens aren't capable of making good decisions. In fact, adolescence is one of the most important times for them to practice those skills.

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with psychotherapist and bestselling author Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, co-author of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline, to explore what brain science can teach us about raising teens. Together, they discuss why punishment can cause teens to hide their mistakes instead of learning from them, how parents can give teens safe opportunities to practice decision-making, and why connection is the foundation for discipline, trust, and independence. If you want to understand what's really happening inside your teen's brain and respond in ways that actually help them grow, this episode offers practical, science-backed strategies.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

What teen brain development really means for decision-making, empathy, impulse control, and responsibility

Why punishment and fear can cause teens to hide mistakes instead of learning from them

How to give your teen safe opportunities to practice decision-making and build independence

Why connection and secure attachment create the foundation for trust, discipline, and better behavior

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RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

The Whole-Brain Child by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Dan Siegel

No-Drama Discipline by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Dan Siegel

The Power of Showing Up by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Dr. Dan Siegel

The Way of Play by Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Georgie Wisen-Vincent

The Four S's of Secure Attachment: Safe, Seen, Soothed, Secure

Dr. Cam's Free Masterclass: The Connection Reset

askdrcam.com/reset

CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Website: tinabryson.com

Instagram: @tinapaynebryson

CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell

Website: askdrcam.com

Instagram: @DrCamCaswell

TikTok: @the.teen.translator

YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

Facebook: @DrCamCaswell

EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Teen Brain Science and Parenting

01:10 Parenting Teens with Understanding and Empathy

02:43 The Impact of Brain Development on Teen Behavior

04:09 Misconceptions About Brain Maturity and Responsibility

08:48 The Role of the Prefrontal Cortex in Teens

11:59 Repetition and Practice in Developing Skills

16:22 Supporting Teens Through Scaffolding and Support

22:45 Handling Mistakes and Repair as Learning

32:48 Building Trust and Secure Attachment

44:55 The Importance of Relationship Over Rules

ABOUT THE SHOW

The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth.

Whether you're struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.

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Parents often wait for a crisis before genuinely checking in with their teenagers, missing critical opportunities for connection and understanding. Dr. R.J. Ledet, a triple board-certified psychiatrist and Navy veteran, emphasizes that effective parenting requires pausing reactive responses and allowing wisdom to catch up with impulse. The core challenge isn't teen behavior—it's parental perspective. Teens develop through distinct developmental stages, each requiring specific emotional scaffolding; skipping these stages creates deficits that compound during adolescence when identity formation is critical.