The Thais Gibson Podcast

Unlock clarity, healing, and emotional freedom this Boxing Week with Thais Gibson. Start your FREE 7-day trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics-flashsale&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-31-25&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant suddenly pulls away, stops responding, or “goes missing,” it can feel confusing, painful, and deeply personal. But what’s actually happening beneath the surface is far more complex and far less about you than you might think. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the real emotional and nervous-system processes driving dismissive avoidance, including shame responses, fear of vulnerability, and learned patterns around conflict and emotional expression. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of this behavior, or if you recognize these patterns in yourself, this video offers clarity, compassion, and a powerful path forward. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why Dismissive Avoidants often withdraw after moments of emotional closeness How vulnerability activates shame and fear around emotional expression The role of unresolved family dynamics and emotional modeling Why conflict feels overwhelming or unworkable for dismissive avoidants How avoidance becomes a strategy for escaping uncomfortable emotions Why healing these patterns creates more freedom, safety, and connection in relationships ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – What the Dismissive Avoidant Is REALLY DOING When They Go Missing 00:31 – Dismissive Avoidants and Vulnerability in Relationships 01:29 – Dismissive Avoidants and Conflict in Relationships 02:23 – Dismissive Avoidants Have Core Fears About Their Own Emotions 03:14 – The Shame Response 04:41 – Healing Family Trauma Promo 05:27 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Go Missing 07:07 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Disconnect 08:01 – Why You Should Work On This If You Are A Dismissive Avoidant Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Unlock Clarity, Healing, and Emotional Freedom This Boxing Week With Thais Gibson. Start your FREE 7-day trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics-flashsale&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-29-25&el=podcast Do you feel yourself pulling away when someone gets close — only to panic when they create distance? This hot and cold cycle is one of the most painful and confusing patterns of the Fearful Avoidant attachment style. In this video, Thais Gibson explains exactly why this cycle happens, what’s really being triggered beneath the surface, and how to finally break free from it in a healthy, secure way. If you’ve ever felt stuck in make-up and break-up dynamics, struggled to settle into relationships, or felt overwhelmed by closeness and distance at the same time — this episode is for you. Fearful Avoidants often experience intense emotional polarities — craving closeness while simultaneously fearing it. In this episode, Thais breaks down: • Why Fearful Avoidants feel overwhelmed when partners pursue them • Why distance can suddenly trigger anxiety and chasing behaviors • How unresolved childhood core wounds fuel hot-and-cold relationship cycles • Why pushing someone away feels like “relief” — but leads to regret later • How emotional literacy, boundaries, and subconscious healing change everything You’ll learn how these patterns form, why they repeat, and what it actually takes to feel safe, settled, and secure in relationships — without losing yourself. ✨ Key Takeaways • Why Fearful Avoidants struggle to trust and settle into relationships • How core wounds like abandonment, entrapment, and unworthiness get activated • The real reason behind make-up and break-up cycles • Why pushing someone away is a trauma response — not a true desire • How to identify needs instead of reacting from fear • The role of subconscious reprogramming in lasting healing • What healthy bonding actually looks like for Fearful Avoidants ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Hot and Cold Patterns 00:49 – The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 01:40 – Fearful Avoidants Struggle to Settle Into Relationships 03:49 – When Core Wounds Get Triggered 05:57 – Boxing Week: Sex Course Promo 06:42 – The Make Up and Breakup Cycle 09:22 – Healing Your Core Wounds Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentTheory #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #HotAndCold #RelationshipHealing #SubconsciousHealing #DisorganizedAttachment #EmotionalHealing #SecureAttachment

Unlock Clarity, Healing, and Emotional Freedom This Boxing Week With Thais Gibson. Start your FREE 7-day trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics-flashsale&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-27-25&el=podcast If you’ve ever felt torn between craving closeness and pulling away, this episode will help you finally understand why. Fearful Avoidant attachment can feel like living in constant emotional contradiction, longing for intimacy while fearing it at the same time. In this episode, Thais Gibson dives deep into the inner world of the Fearful Avoidant, unpacking the subconscious patterns, core wounds, and survival strategies that quietly shape relationships from the inside out. You’ll gain compassionate insight into what’s really happening beneath the surface and, more importantly, how healing and secure connection are absolutely possible. In this conversation, Thais explores three core patterns that define the Fearful Avoidant inner world: • The push–pull dynamic of yearning for closeness while fearing emotional safety • Hypervigilance, resentment buildup, and difficulty communicating needs • Deep-seated unworthiness wounds that drive overgiving and self-sacrifice Through real-life examples, personal reflection, and practical guidance, you’ll learn how Fearful Avoidant behaviors develop and how awareness, communication, and subconscious rewiring can transform relationships from the inside out. Whether you identify as Fearful Avoidant or love someone who does, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and real tools for healing. ✨ Key Takeaways • Why Fearful Avoidants experience intense emotional push–pull • How hypervigilance leads to resentment and emotional shutdown • The danger of expecting partners to “mind-read” needs • How unworthiness wounds fuel overgiving and burnout • How to question internal stories instead of reacting from fear • Practical ways to communicate needs with clarity and safety • Why subconscious healing is essential for lasting change ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro 03:50 – 1 — They Yearn for and Fear Closeness 09:46 – Hypervigilance and Resentment Buildup 16:46 – Gaining Awareness and Ways to Communicate 22:16 – Healing Family Dynamics Course Promo 23:04 – 2 — They Expect You to Mind-Read 28:23 – Question Your Story and Meet the Need 31:46 – Transparency in Relationships 40:08 – 3 — They Have an "Unworthiness" Core Wound 48:31 – Final Thoughts 51:27 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentTheory #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #HealingRelationships #SubconsciousHealing #EmotionalHealing #AttachmentStyles #InnerChildHealing #RelationshipGrowth

Unlock Clarity, Healing, and Emotional Freedom This Boxing Week With Thais Gibson. Start Your Free 7-day Trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=K-OyK4c3FN0&utm_content=yt-12-26-25&el=podcast When someone you care about suddenly pulls away, it can feel terrifying and deeply confusing. You may find yourself asking: Are they discarding me… or is this just normal avoidant behavior? In this video, Thais Gibson breaks down the clear emotional, behavioral, and neurological signs that indicate whether a Dismissive Avoidant is preparing to discard and what you can do to protect your heart, stop self-blame, and respond from a grounded, empowered place. This video also walks you through practical steps to regulate emotional dysregulation, interrupt painful self-judgment patterns, and set boundaries that honor your needs, regardless of how the other person chooses to show up. In This Video, You’ll Learn: The difference between normal avoidant distancing and an actual discard Early emotional shutdown and devaluing behaviors to watch for Why Dismissive Avoidants replace intimacy with “creature comforts” The neuroscience behind emotional dysregulation in relationships How cortisol and oxytocin impact connection, stress, and bonding Why self-judgment makes everything more painful and how to stop it How to use pattern interrupts and boundary-setting to protect yourself The biggest sign a Dismissive Avoidant may be pulling away Timestamps: 00:00 – Are They Discarding Me? 00:44 – 1. If You See Them Shutting Down Emotionally 01:44 – 2. If There Are Sudden Devaluing Behaviors or Comments 04:50 – Healing Family Dynamics Course Promo 05:48 – 3. They Replace Intimacy With Creature Comforts 07:05 – The Neuroscience Behind Emotional Dysregulation in Relationships 09:12 – Step 1: You Don’t Need to Judge Yourself 10:58 – Step 2: Pattern Interrupt 13:49 – Ancient Wisdom on Self-Consideration 15:33 – 4. When They Stop Communicating 16:20 – Final Thoughts Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Unlock Deeper Intimacy & Connection With Thais Gibson This Boxing Week. Start Your Free 7-day Trial and Get the Attachment Styles & Sex Course ($250 Value) Free for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/boxing-week?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=boxing-week&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=aUrPwa0KzOI&utm_content=yt-12-20-25&el=podcast Moving in together can feel like a major relationship milestone, but when one partner has a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style, it can also surface unexpected challenges. In this episode, Thais Gibson and co-host Mike DiZio walk through what to realistically expect when you first move in with a Dismissive Avoidant, why certain behaviors show up, and how to navigate this transition without taking things personally or creating unnecessary conflict. If you’re considering moving in with a Dismissive Avoidant, or already have, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical strategies. Living together often fast-tracks couples into the power struggle stage of relationships, and Dismissive Avoidants can feel especially activated by this shift. In this episode, you’ll learn why Dismissive Avoidants may retreat, equate comfort with love, struggle with compromise, and fear expectations, even when they deeply care about their partner. Thais and Mike explore: ✅ Why Dismissive Avoidants need space to regulate emotionally ✅ How fear of being trapped can show up after moving in ✅ Why conflict feels especially threatening in their home environment ✅ How unconscious habits from hyper-independence impact cohabitation ✅ What conversations must happen in advance to prevent resentment Most importantly, this episode emphasizes that these patterns are understandable, workable, and not signs that the relationship is doomed, especially when both partners are willing to communicate and do the healing work. Key Takeaways ✅ Dismissive Avoidants often retreat into personal space to self-regulate after moving in ✅ Comfort and routine may be interpreted as love, leading to unintentional complacency ✅ Fear of expectations can cause emotional withdrawal, not loss of care ✅ Avoiding conflict temporarily increases long-term tension ✅ Compromise and shared habits must be consciously built, not assumed ✅ Clear conversations before moving in reduce fear, shutdown, and resentment Timestamps 00:00 – Introduction 03:17 – 1. Dismissive Avoidants Retreat to Their Own Space for Emotional Distance 21:34 – 7-Day Free Trial Promo 22:25 – 2. Dismissive Avoidants Equate Comfort With Love 31:06 – 3. Dismissive Avoidants Fear Expectation and Being Trapped 43:22 – 4. Dismissive Avoidants Retreat to Avoid Conflict 48:33 – 5. Dismissive Avoidants Struggle with Compromise 51:14 – 6. Dismissive Avoidants Are Protective of Their Belongings 51:14 – Live With Them for a Few Days Before Moving in 1:00:04 – Subscribe and Follow For More Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #DismissiveAvoidant #AttachmentTheory #AvoidantAttachment #CommitmentIssues #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #ThaisGibson #RelationshipHealing #SecureAttachment #DatingAdvice