111: How to Stop Fawning & Reclaim Your Boundaries as a Woman | Perri Chase
Check out the replay of my masterclass Reclaimed Relationship here.You’re not being “nice”—you’re lying for safety.In this episode, Kelly sits down with feminine embodiment teacher and unapologetic truth-teller Perri Chase to expose the hidden cost of the fawning response—why it works, what it protects, and how it hijacks your nervous system, your relationships, and your sense of self.Perri, creator of the transformational practice Sex Bomb and a leader in modern feminine awakening, brings a raw and riveting perspective to the conversation. Her work unpacks the addictive loop of shame, the villainization of women’s needs, and the subtle ways we betray ourselves daily under the guise of “being good.” With decades of lived experience, provocative teachings, and a sharp lens on spiritual bypassing and codependent dynamics, Perri doesn’t just talk embodiment—she lives it.This is not your average empowerment episode. It’s a permission slip to stop performing, start feeling, and finally claim what you actually want.You’ll Learn:How the fawning response rewires your nervous system to lie for safetyWhy shame can become a seductive, self-reinforcing addictionHow to identify and interrupt codependent communication loopsWhat sexual energy reveals about your capacity to hold intensityWhy regulating your nervous system doesn’t always require slowing downHow unmet needs mutate into people-pleasing and self-abandonmentWhat “negative empathy” teaches about dissolving the victim-perpetrator splitHow to use sensation-based awareness to dissolve reactive patternsWhy “being good” often masks an avoidance of boundaries and truthHow to shift from external validation to internal energetic sovereigntyTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:05] What the fawning response is and why it works[04:52] The link between fawning and lying for safety[10:50] The cost of being “nice” instead of honest[13:40] How feminine awakening shifts priorities from safety to self[16:42] The fear of chaos and suppression of feminine life force[20:15] The difference between survival-driven tribes and conscious communities[24:40] What a healthy masculine container feels like in partnership[27:00] Shame as a wet blanket and addictive emotional loop[33:50] Why “there are no victims” isn’t always useful[36:25] Family constellation theory and the victim-perpetrator mirror[43:00] Transitioning from mental awakening to body-based awakening[45:35] How sexual energy helps regulate the nervous system from within[48:50] The shift from managing thoughts to creating from stillness[54:10] The danger of staying in relationships out of fear of loss[56:50] Maturing into a woman who no longer needs to fight to be herself[59:50] Breaking generational silence around female embodiment👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call hereResources Mentioned:Orgasmic Meditation (OM) by OneTaste | WebsiteMy Mother/My Self by Nancy Friday | BookFamily Constellation Therapy | WebsitePussy Map – women's sexuality and embodiment course by Perri Chase | CourseYou can connect with Perri and learn about all of her current offerings here.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
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110: Why Many Women Play the Wrong Role in the Relationship (Pat Allen Book Review)
Join Kelly's Reclaimed program and membership hereIn this provocative solo episode, Kelly unpacks the life-altering insights from Pat Allen’s classic book Getting to “I Do”. Drawing from her own experience and years of clinical observation, Kelly explores the often uncomfortable—but liberating—truths about masculine/feminine dynamics, romantic polarity, and the myth of the “career woman.” She breaks down why women’s power lies not in doing more or achieving more, but in mastering the art of the “no,” cherishing themselves first, and choosing the dynamics that truly serve their deepest desires.Whether you’re single, dating, or married, this is a blueprint for reclaiming your feminine essence and reshaping your relationship reality—without another strategy, seduction tactic, or self-help checklist.You’ll Learn:How polarity clarifies power dynamics in romantic relationshipsWhy seeking both respect and cherishing can sabotage intimacyHow to choose between being a career woman or a woman with a careerWhat the “five-second gaze” reveals about feminine initiation and nervous system capacityHow withholding sex until commitment rewires relational self-worthWhy honoring your “no” is the ultimate feminine flexWhat happens when women unconsciously reject the men they claim to loveHow emotional and intellectual pedestals define partner rolesWhy many high-achieving women feel resentful, bitter, or overwhelmed in relationshipsWhat asking for more love or attention signals about relational misalignmentTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:00] Why modern relationships are struggling[01:58] Difference between being cherished and respected[03:05] Why demanding both respect and cherishing doesn’t work[04:00] Choosing your relational orientation[05:02] The meaning of a woman with a career vs a career woman[06:00] The gaslighting of career fulfillment[07:02] Honoring the power of your no[08:00] Why sexual access should come after commitment[09:05] Defining commitment[11:02] Living from your pleasure and feminine gifts[12:00] How to stop chasing femininity and power[13:02] Why you should not ask a man for more love or attention[14:00] Traits of a cherished woman[15:03] Traits of a respected partner[16:00] Why respected partners focus on giving[17:02] Red flags in dating and complementarity[18:00] Manipulation and mother wounds in relationships[19:00] How projection blocks intimacy[20:00] Staying until you reach apathy and empathy[21:02] Signs a man is truly committed[22:00] Why early stages of dating matter[23:00] Applying these ideas to marriageResources Mentioned:Inspiration derived from this book by Amy LoftusGetting to 'I Do' by Pat Allen and Sandra Harmon | Book or AudiobookDr. Christiane Northrup | Website Vital Mind Reset by Dr. Kelly Brogan | WebsiteLaura Doyle | WebsiteFind more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here
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109: How to Rewire Your Brain to Get Unstuck For Good | John Assaraf
Learn more about Dr. Kelly Brogan's signature health protocol, Vital Mind Reset hereYou don’t have a mindset problem—you have a commitment problem.In this episode, Kelly sits down with John Assaraf, one of the leading minds in brain retraining and behaviour change, to unpack the neuroscience of why we stay stuck—and how to finally break free. A New York Times bestselling author and featured expert from The Secret, John has built five multimillion-dollar businesses, overcome addiction, healed ulcerative colitis without medication, and transformed his relationship patterns—all using the exact tools he now teaches.They cover why most people unconsciously choose to stay stuck, how self-talk wires your brain for failure or freedom, and why the Law of Attraction is useless without what John calls the “Law of G.O.Y.A.”. Whether you’re trying to quit sugar, start a business, or break lifelong emotional patterns, this conversation reveals the mechanics of meaningful, lasting transformation—and gives you a clear path to start taking action today.You’ll Learn:How rewriting your self-talk patterns reshapes your brain’s neurochemistry and behaviourWhy the “Law of G.O.Y.A.” outperforms the Law of Attraction in real-world resultsWhat avoidance, procrastination, and sabotage reveal about subconscious fear circuitsHow visualizing success triggers neural coherence and primes the brain for actionWhy consistency beats intensity when building new habits and identityHow to identify the exact belief systems blocking your next transformationWhat the science of automaticity teaches about lasting change through repetitionHow emotional rehearsal overrides fear and creates new default responsesWhy most people fail not from lack of knowledge, but lack of inner alignmentHow to train your “innercise” muscle daily to build discipline, confidence, and clarityTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[01:30] What drives self-sabotage and procrastination[03:14] Childhood trauma and early struggles[05:00] Discovering the power of the brain[07:00] Action versus impulsivity[08:00] Understanding stuckness[10:00] How neurochemicals reinforce feeling stuck[12:00] Addiction to stuckness and secondary gain[14:00] How patterns are automated by the brain[16:00] Procrastination and fear of failure[18:00] Conflict between goals and self-image[20:00] Vibrational coherence explained[22:00] Recipe for achieving goals[24:00] How artificial intelligence exposes the real issue[26:00] Healing ulcerative colitis naturally[29:00] Overcoming alcoholism with identity work[31:00] Fixing relationship patterns by changing beliefs[33:00] Building businesses without traditional education[36:00] Healing chronic illness without medication[38:00] Why commitment beats interest[41:00] How upgrading skills changed John’s life[44:00] Finding the real cause of procrastination[46:00] Law of GOYA explained[48:00] Mastering change versus disappointment[50:00] Why consistency beats intensity[53:00] Building self-trust through small daily actionsGet John's free e-book "Unleash Your Brain's Full Potential" hereLearn more about John by checking out his website, app and Youtube. You can also follow him on Instagram, Facebook, and X.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.Use code KELLYBROGAN at biofieldtuningstore.com for 15% off your first purchase. Not valid during sales. Exclusions apply.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here
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108: How to Break Through Your Limiting Beliefs & Attract Abundance | Gay Hendricks
Join Kelly's sovereignty-minded community, Vital Life Project hereGay Hendricks, Ph.D., is a psychologist, bestselling author, and expert in relationship and bodymind therapies with over 45 years of experience.In this episode, you're going to learn how we unconsciously block success and happiness, what an upper limit problem looks like, why fear often follows positive experiences, how to move into your zone of genius, and how physical symptoms can reveal emotional patterns.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:00] Personal examples of struggling to hold positive feelings[06:00] The upper limit problem explained[08:15] How fear causes drama after good experiences[10:20] Staying uplifted without fear pulling you back[13:05] Why we unconsciously stay small[15:00] Childhood roots of upper limit problems[18:00] How success can trigger guilt and fear[21:00] Fear of outshining and loyalty to others' pain[24:00] Limiting beliefs even in successful people[27:00] How to break unconscious agreements[30:00] Learning to enjoy success without guilt[33:00] Gay's writing journey and building prosperity[36:00] Fulfillment in relationships and career[39:00] How upper limits show up through arguments and illness[42:00] Fear as the driver behind accidents[45:00] How somatic symptoms reflect emotional blocks[48:00] Loving and accepting fear to healResources Mentioned:The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks | Book or AudiobookFive Wishes by Gay Hendricks | Book or AudiobookConscious Loving by Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks | Book or AudiobookThe Spiritual Cinema Circle | FacebookIf you want to learn more about Gay's work, visit hendricks.com and foundationforconsciousliving.org.You can also follow him on Facebook and Instagram and visit his Youtube.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here
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107: Byron Katie: How to Stop Being Controlled by Your Ego
Byron Katie is a renowned teacher and creator of "The Work," a method of self-inquiry for ending suffering.In this episode, you're going to learn why believing your thoughts is the root cause of suffering, the four simple questions that can radically change your relationship to pain and conflict, how to deal with feelings of certainty and superiority in activism and health advocacy, why trying to change other people often reveals deeper fears within yourself, and what true personal responsibility looks like even in everyday moments like picking up socks off the floor.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:15] How victim consciousness creates suffering[04:45] Byron Katie’s moment of ego death[06:10] Discovering the cause of suffering[08:00] Moving stressful thoughts onto paper[10:00] Seeing the ego as a terrified child[12:00] Who you are without painful thoughts[14:10] The death of the victim identity[16:00] How inquiry brings relief in groups[17:45] Activism, certainty, and superiority[20:00] Applying inquiry to health and activism[22:10] Loving others through their own choices[25:00] Owning decisions without guilt[27:00] How fear fuels activism[30:00] Responsibility for your emotional experience[31:50] Picking up socks and ending resentment[34:10] Defense as the first act of war[36:00] Boundaries and selfishness[39:00] How drama and suffering lose appeal[42:00] Ego’s survival and waking up[45:00] Byron Katie’s experience of awakening[48:00] Freedom from stressful thoughts[50:00] How inquiry naturally changes your life[52:00] Living without complaint or resentment[54:00] Relaxation and the gift of the unknownResources Mentioned:The Work of Byron Katie | WebsiteAt Home Live With Byron Katie | ZoomLoving What Is by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookA Thousand Names for Joy by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookI Need Your Love—Is That True? by Byron Katie and Michael Katz | Book or AudiobookA Mind at Home with Itself by Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell | Book or AudiobookYou can follow Byron Katie on LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook and Threads. You can also check out her website and give her Podcast a listen to on Spotify or Apple.Find more from Kelly:Instagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.This episode is sponsored by Samadhi Moss. Use code KELLY10 for 10% off your sea moss!👉🏻 Want to start a podcast like this one? Book your free podcast planning call here
It hurts to have unmet needs. And it sucks to scurry after crumbs when you’re starving. Join Kelly Brogan MD, as she teaches us how our pain points are portals. She’ll help you discover a world where every seeming challenge is a new chapter in your most audacious story. Plot twists, body symptoms, and heartbreak each represent an opportunity to own ourselves and learn to better wield the power of choice. Kelly will take you on a reclamation journey from the battlefield of victim consciousness to the sovereignty of self-devoted pleasure and expose every surprising place you’ve given your power away. Explore the tools you’ll need to find out what you want, how to ask for it and how to stand in fierce alignment with yourself.Kelly Brogan is a soul alchemist and threshold guardian devoted to the transformation of collective consciousness. As a young know-it-all atheist, candy-addict, straight-A MIT neuroscience major and Ivy-league trained psychiatrist, she specialized in feeding women, herself included, straight into the mouth of the medicated beast. After a Hashimoto’s healing journey inspired her to sound the alarm on the bait-and-switch of big pharma, she became a renegade activist—authoring the New York Times bestseller, A Mind of Your Own, and its follow-up, Own Your Self; co-editing the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression; and eventually becoming an honorary member of the Disinformation Dozen. She is the creatrix of Vital Mind Reset, the online health reclamation program, and the membership community Vital Life Project. She’s a human, cat, and chicken mom.
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