What Your Therapist Thinks

Erica Bonham, LPC, MA joins Kristie and Felicia to demystify EMDR therapy and how it actually works to heal the brain. They explore how bilateral stimulation mimics REM sleep to "unstick" traumatic memories trapped in the nervous system. Erica advocates for a bottom-up approach to recovery to address the somatic and emotional roots of distress.
Some takeaways:
• How bilateral stimulation helps the brain reprocess
• Why a somatic approach is often more effective than cognitive insight
• How to develop compassion for the internal mechanisms that try to keep us safe
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Episode referenced: What Type Of Trauma Do I Have? Understanding Trauma
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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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Relationship expert Colette J. Fehr joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the messy, neurological reality of moving on. They explore why breakups feel less like a simple goodbye and more like overcoming an addiction, creating a need for a strategic "reset" of the brain. Colette advocates for “no-contact” as a vital tool for nervous system regulation and reclaiming your sense of self.
Some takeaways:
Why missing an ex mirrors an addiction cycle and how to break it.
How creating distance allows your nervous system to detach from an ex.
How to move from waiting for closure to finding an internal resolution.
The dangers of "rebounds" and why reclaiming self-worth should be a priority.

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Author and counselor KC Davis, LPC joins Kristie and Felicia to break down the shame often associated with a messy home. They unpack the life-changing mindset of moral neutrality, meaning that your ability to do laundry is not a reflection of your character. KC supports shifting away from society’s standards of "tidiness" to a sustainable approach that prioritizes your mental health.
Some takeaways:
• Why struggling with dishes doesn't make you a "bad" person
• How to look at house chores as a way to make your space livable instead of a never-ending to-do list.
• Using hacks like larger trash cans or paper plates to manage your home during difficult mental health seasons.
• Why self-compassion is better motivation than guilt when you're feeling overwhelmed.
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Jeff Guenther, LPC, also known as TherapyJeff, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack everything on modern romance. They break down the dating world as a space that requires nervous system regulation and radical authenticity. Jeff advocates for a shift away from performing for validation to a more grounded approach focused on genuine curiosity instead of the pressure of finding "the one."
Some takeaways:
Why looking at first dates as fun instead of as a job interview leads to better matches
How to check in with your nervous system to avoid performing for validation
Understanding how dating apps gamify rejection and how they lead to burnout
The difference between healthy vulnerability and trauma dumping and how to spot early signs love bombing

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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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Dr. Rebeccah Lyle, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, joins Kristie and Felicia to explore the nuanced reality of ADHD in women and AFAB individuals. Together, they break down how social expectations of "good behavior" sometimes mask ADHD symptoms in girls, leading to life-changing diagnoses in adulthood when the pressures of career and motherhood reach a breaking point.
Some takeaways:
Reframing neurological differences as strengths
Understanding the psychological toll of masking and how it inevitably leads to burnout
Shifting the narrative from self-blame for a "lack of discipline" to advocating for systemic accommodations and self-compassion

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Mentioned in this episode: Am I Emotionally Numb? Signs Of Emotional Numbness and What To Do Next (WYTT, Season 1)
*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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