What Your Therapist Thinks

Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood.
Some takeaways:
• Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood.
• The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence.
• How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection.
• How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does.
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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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Therapists Julie Goldberg joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the mechanics of nervous system regulation and offer a practical, somatic perspective on mental health. They explore the range of human response from fight-or-flight to shutdown. This episode reframes anxiety and burnout away from personal failures to adaptive physiological responses designed to keep you safe.
Some takeaways:
• The differences between safety, mobilization and shutdown.
• Why the goal isn't permanent calm but building resilience and flexibility.
• How our bodies naturally find safety in the presence of another regulated human.
• Changing the narrative from "What's wrong with me?" to "What is my body trying to tell me?"
• Simple somatic techniques to help navigate your stress.
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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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Financial therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the psychological roots of our bank accounts. They center the conversation on the emotional landscape of money: how one’s childhood and systemic failures, not personal incompetence, shape financial anxiety.

Some takeaways:
• Why "logic" fails when it crashes with childhood narratives and fears.
• The difference between functional planning and toxic guilt.
• How to stop restricting pleasure and start integrating joy into your financial plan.
• How socioeconomic factors influence your wallet more than "bad habits" do.

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Lindsay’s Recommendation: debtcollective.org.

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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Erica Bonham, LPC, MA joins Kristie and Felicia to demystify EMDR therapy and how it actually works to heal the brain. They explore how bilateral stimulation mimics REM sleep to "unstick" traumatic memories trapped in the nervous system. Erica advocates for a bottom-up approach to recovery to address the somatic and emotional roots of distress.
Some takeaways:
• How bilateral stimulation helps the brain reprocess
• Why a somatic approach is often more effective than cognitive insight
• How to develop compassion for the internal mechanisms that try to keep us safe
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Episode referenced: What Type Of Trauma Do I Have? Understanding Trauma
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Read Erica’s Book: Always Enough, Never Done.
*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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Relationship expert Colette J. Fehr joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the messy, neurological reality of moving on. They explore why breakups feel less like a simple goodbye and more like overcoming an addiction, creating a need for a strategic "reset" of the brain. Colette advocates for “no-contact” as a vital tool for nervous system regulation and reclaiming your sense of self.
Some takeaways:
Why missing an ex mirrors an addiction cycle and how to break it.
How creating distance allows your nervous system to detach from an ex.
How to move from waiting for closure to finding an internal resolution.
The dangers of "rebounds" and why reclaiming self-worth should be a priority.

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Listen to Colette’s podcasts, Insights from the Couch, Real Talk for Women at Midlife and Love Thy Neighbor.
Read Colette’s Book: The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure Lasting Love.

Listen to Colette’s TED Talk: Secrets of a Couple's Therapist
*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle
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