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“He got her pregnant and didn’t tell anybody” | Confronting Infidelity after 26 years of marriage.
In this episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with Alice to explore the emotional complexities of infidelity shattering Alice’s once-thriving expat lifestyle, leading to a powerful journey of personal growth, self-discovery, and healing. Alice shares the subtle signs of betrayal, and the overwhelming emotional recovery required to rebuild after separation. This heartfelt conversation highlights the role of resilience in navigating relationships post-divorce, the loneliness often experienced in expat life, and the ongoing process of reclaiming one's identity. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways: Infidelity often reveals itself in subtle yet deeply impactful ways. Honest confrontation is essential for addressing relationship breakdowns. The emotional aftermath of betrayal can feel overwhelming and disorienting. Children are highly perceptive of shifting family dynamics. Trust is the cornerstone of any strong relationship. Rebuilding after divorce demands deep self-reflection and growth. Forgiveness is a key part of emotional healing. Self-discovery is a lifelong journey, especially after significant life changes. Episode Chapters:00:00 Navigating Life After Divorce 01:38 The Expat Experience and Its Challenges 03:06 The Unraveling of a Marriage 10:14 Confrontation and Realizations 19:06 The Aftermath of Betrayal 29:49 Finding Identity and Healing 37:12 Moving Forward and Embracing Change 40:14 Reflections on Love and ForgivenessSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Child of Divorce | The Ripple Effects of Family Separation
In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey has a candid and thought-provoking conversation with Dan about the complexities surrounding his parents' divorce after 50 years of marriage. They delve into the often-overlooked ripple effects of such a life-changing event, particularly how it impacts families and relationships. Kiz and Dan discuss the emotional shock of witnessing a long-lasting marriage come to an end, the crucial role of empathy in understanding everyone’s perspective, and the difficulties of navigating family dynamics in the aftermath of divorce. Through personal reflections, Dan shares the challenges of supporting children and grandchildren while still trying to maintain healthy relationships as the family adjusts to the changes. Emphasising the importance of open communication, understanding, and compassion, Dan offers valuable insights into how families can weather the emotional storm of a late-in-life divorce and find ways to heal together. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the complexities of family and the resilience needed to thrive in the face of unexpected change. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Listen to Dans mothers episode on Kizmet here Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS 🔖 divorce, family dynamics, grief, empathy, relationships, post-divorce, parenting, communication, resilience, personal growth Key Takeaways Divorce impacts not just the couple but the entire family unit. Children are resilient but need support and understanding during transitions. It's important to protect children from the negative aspects of adult relationships. Grief is a personal and unique experience that everyone processes differently. Maintaining boundaries is essential for healthy family interactions post-divorce. Open doors for communication help children express their feelings and concerns. Understanding the reasons behind relationship breakdowns can foster empathy. Personal growth often comes from navigating difficult family situations. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Divorce and Its Ripple Effects 07:41 The Shock of Separation and Family Dynamics 19:01 Understanding Grief and Moving Forward 22:42 The Importance of Empathy and Non-Judgment 30:38 Key Takeaways for Families in Transition See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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The truth (and) lies somewhere in the middle | The daughters perspective
The Divorce Part 3: Daughter In this deeply moving episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey speaks with Kartya about the emotional impact of her parents divorce on family dynamics and mental health. Kartya recounts her journey through her parents' separation, the sudden shift in family roles, and the profound emotional upheaval she faced. It highlights how communication breakdowns, secrets, and shifting responsibilities can affect children during and after a divorce. This episode offers valuable life lessons on coping strategies, emotional recovery, and the transformative power of reinvention and personal development. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways: Divorce impacts the entire family dynamic, not just the couple. Children often experience confusion and emotional pain during separation. Poor communication can deepen emotional wounds in divorce. Children may unexpectedly take on caregiving roles. Mental health struggles can complicate the divorce experience. Keeping secrets from children fosters isolation and mistrust. Divorce can accelerate a child's journey to independence. Appearances of a "perfect family" can mask deeper issues. Post-divorce relationships thrive with open, honest communication. Personal growth often springs from emotional adversity. The emotional impact of family turmoil is profound and lasting. Support systems, especially strong friendships, are crucial for healing. Mixed emotions are a normal response to major life changes. Resilience often emerges through hardship and healing. Therapy can be a key tool for emotional growth and recovery. Trauma can unlock hidden strengths and confidence. Navigating post-divorce parental relationships is complex but vital. True personal development often requires stepping outside comfort zones. Embracing change can lead to unexpected new beginnings and empowerment. Episode Chapters: 00:00 — The Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics03:50 — Navigating the Shock of Separation11:52 — The Unraveling of Family Facades15:46 — The Role Reversal: Becoming the Caregiver20:41 — Communication Breakdown and Emotional Fallout21:35 — Navigating Family Turmoil25:03 — The Journey to Independence30:10 — Finding Resilience Through Adversity36:10 — Mixed Emotions of New Beginnings41:16 — Embracing Change and GrowthSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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"I'm leaving Monday" | Serena's husband Pred shares his side of their divorce
The Divorce Part 2: Husband In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with previous episode guest Serena’s husband Pred to explore his life during and after divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional impact of their marriage breakdown, the complexities of dating again in your 50s, and the journey of personal reinvention. Pred shares his candid experiences with navigating family dynamics, finding happiness, and ultimately remarrying. The conversation sheds light on the challenges and opportunities that come with post-divorce life and the lessons learned along the way. Stay tuned for the next episode with their daughter Kartya. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me Tiktok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways: The emotional impact of divorce varies among family members. Reinvention after divorce is a transformative experience. Understanding different perspectives is crucial in processing a marriage breakdown. Investing in relationships before children leave home strengthens family bonds. Many couples experience a disconnect after focusing primarily on parenting. Dating after divorce requires openness to new experiences. Honest communication is essential in new relationships. The pursuit of happiness post-divorce can lead to unexpected opportunities. Navigating family dynamics after divorce presents both challenges and rewards. Personal growth often stems from reflecting on past relationships. Memorable Sound Bites: "I'm leaving on Monday." "I didn't really want to mess up his HSC." "I was literally counting the days." "Marriage is perfunctory. We're just going through the motions." "You can never go forward by looking in a rearview mirror." Chapters:00:00 – Introduction to Kizmet Podcast and Guest Pred02:55 – Reflections on Marriage Breakdown and Narratives05:57 – Understanding the Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics08:53 – The Journey of Reinvention After Divorce12:08 – Dating and Relationships Post-Divorce15:06 – Navigating New Relationships and Family Dynamics17:46 – Finding Happiness and Remarrying20:56 – Lessons Learned and Moving Forward24:01 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts Tune in to this insightful discussion on rebuilding life after divorce and embracing new beginnings. Don’t forget to subscribe to Kizmet Podcast for more relatable stories of divorce!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Cheating discovered via Bank Statement | “That's when the penny dropped”
The Divorce Part 1: Wife In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with her guest Serena to explore the often-overlooked complexities of grey divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional journey of resilience, healing, and self-discovery that follows the breakdown of long-term relationships. Serena opens up about her experience, describing her married life as resembling the façade of a "Stepford Wife." On the outside, everything appeared perfect—happy family, smooth social life—but behind closed doors, things were slowly falling apart. Secret bank accounts, unspoken issues, and an underlying sense of growing disconnect made her realise that her marriage was crumbling, even though she hadn’t fully seen it at the time. Through candid and heartfelt conversations, Kiz and Serena shed light on how embracing vulnerability, facing painful truths, and starting over can lead to a new sense of freedom and self-purpose. This episode highlights the often transformative and empowering experience of rediscovering oneself after divorce. If you're navigating similar struggles, or just curious about the journey of emotional healing, this conversation is a must-listen. Connect with us: Website – kizmet.me Instagram - @Kizmet.me TikTok - @kizmet.me Watch this episode on our YouTube Produced by - SESSION in PROGRESS Key Takeaways Grey divorce is on the rise due to various societal changes. Perception of a perfect life can mask underlying issues. Shame and guilt often accompany the breakdown of relationships. Financial independence is crucial for women post-divorce. Survival mode can lead to seeking necessary support and legal advice. Rebuilding life involves learning new skills and finding new identities. Emotional healing is a non-linear process that takes time. Finding purpose in work can aid in personal growth after divorce. Authenticity and vulnerability can strengthen relationships with others. Embracing change can lead to a more fulfilling life. Personal growth, resilience, emotional healing, relationships, life after divorce, self-discovery, financial independence, support systems, reinvention Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Grey Divorce and Personal Stories 03:01 Navigating the Breakdown of Relationships 06:03 The Impact of Perception and Shame 08:49 Uncovering the Truth: Financial and Emotional Realities 12:01 The Aftermath of Discovery and Initial Reactions 15:00 Survival Mode: Seeking Legal and Emotional Support 17:51 Rebuilding Life: Strategies and New Beginnings 20:54 Finding New Identity and Purpose 24:03 Thriving After Divorce: Career and Personal Growth 27:02 Reflections on the Past and Embracing the FutureSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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