The Confidence Chronicles

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If you’re holding back, second-guessing yourself, or diluting your message so you don’t upset anyone… this episode is for you.

Caring what people think doesn’t make you professional.
It makes you forgettable.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why people-pleasing is the fastest way to kill your authority, your confidence, and your personal brand, and what actually happens when you stop editing yourself for approval.

This is a real conversation about visibility, courage, leadership, and the cost of staying small.

If you’ve ever thought:
• “What if they judge me?”
• “What if I say the wrong thing?”
• “What if I’m too much?”

You’re going to want to hear this.

🔥 IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:

• Why caring what people think keeps you invisible
• How people-pleasing shows up in your content and messaging
• The difference between being liked and being trusted
• Why neutrality does NOT equal authority
• What actually happens when you stop playing it safe
• How your personal brand grows when you stop shrinking
• The mindset shift that changes how you show up online and in rooms

🎯 THE REALITY CHECK

If no one disagrees with you, no one deeply trusts you either.

Your job is not to be liked by everyone.
Your job is to stand somewhere.

📣 CALL TO ACTION

If this episode hit, I want to hear from you.

• DM me on Instagram or comment on Spotify and tell me what landed
• Share this episode with a woman who needs to stop hiding
• And if you know you’re ready to stop blending in and start leading, let me know 👀

I’m watching who’s ready.

📲 CONNECT WITH ME

Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence
Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/
LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

👑 WORK WITH ME (when you’re ready)

♟️ The Queen’s Table
High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 The Next Level
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income
https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

📚 MY BOOKS

Becoming Magnetic
Confidence Feels Like Sh*t
https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

Wow mi gente, I can’t even 😭

I had to share this with you in the moment because damn it was massive. This is a moment we will never ever forget.

Benito Gracias, por TODO!

If you are Rican and living down under hit me up!

Watch my episode with Yadi on being Puerto Rican Down under here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Z3D36sK4fI&t=5542s

Chapters

00:00:58 The Benito Bowl Halftime Show Reaction
00:02:19 Living Without Your Culture: 16 Years in Australia
00:03:30 Bad Bunny's Global Impact on Culture and Connection
00:04:53 From Kidnapped at Seven to Celebrating Puerto Rican Pride
00:05:13 The Power of Self-Belief: Bad Bunny's Message
00:05:43 Don't Stop Believing in Yourself
00:07:37 Uniting People Through Music and Love
00:08:01 Bad Bunny Is Coming to Australia
00:09:51 It's More Than Music: A Cultural Celebration
00:10:33 Thank You Benito: Final Thoughts and Gratitude

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Yadi, an anthropologist and fellow Puerto Rican living in Australia, to talk about what it really means to live far from your motherland and still keep your culture alive.

There are less than 1% Latinos in Australia.
There are even fewer Puerto Ricans.
No restaurants. No food. No community hubs. No shared language in the streets.

And yet… here we are.

This conversation was inspired by Bad Bunny bringing his global tour to Australia, selling out two massive shows, and reminding us how deeply culture lives in the body, especially when you’re far from home.

We talk about diaspora, displacement, identity, grief for the motherland, and the responsibility of keeping culture alive for our children when it’s not reinforced by the environment around us.

This episode is for anyone who has ever:
• Left their home country
• Missed their people, food, music, or language
• Felt invisible in a dominant culture
• Had to become the culture carrier
• Built family and community from scratch

✨ IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:

• What it’s like being Puerto Rican in a country that doesn’t know Puerto Rico
• The grief and beauty of living in diaspora
• Relearning what our grandmothers knew instinctively
• Raising children with cultural pride far away from home
• Why music, food, and language matter more than we think
• Finding each other when “your people” barely exist
• Celebrating Puerto Rican identity in a non-latin country

💛 FOR THE IMMIGRANTS, THE DISPLACED, AND THE DIASPORA

If you’ve ever felt homesick for a place that shaped you,
If you’ve ever had to explain who you are, again and again,
If you’ve ever worried about your kids losing their roots…

This episode is for you.

You’re not alone.

Chapters

00:00:00 Celebrating Puerto Rican Culture Down Under
00:02:05 The Miracle Meeting: Finding Family 16,000 Miles From Home
00:09:12 Seeds Planted: How a Mother's Dream Sparked a Journey
00:12:51 From the Bronx to the World: A Puerto Rican Upbringing
00:14:47 The First Flight: Italy at Fifteen and Finding Identity
00:33:35 Kidnapped at Seven: Erica's Traumatic Puerto Rico Story
00:34:51 Bad Bunny's Gift: Music as Cultural Healing
00:59:31 The Diaspora Experience: Living Between Worlds
01:07:19 Bailé Inolvidable: The Quinceañera Dance That Connected Generations
01:23:08 Building Community in Foreign Soil
01:33:40 The Concert Countdown: Bad Bunny Comes to Australia

📲 STAY CONNECTED

If this conversation resonated, share it with someone who needs to feel seen.
Tag us on Instagram and tell me what landed https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
These conversations matter.

👉🏽 And if you are down under and going to see Benito in Sydney hit us up! We’d love to see you there 💃🏻

👑 WORK WITH ME

♟️ The Queen’s Table
High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 The Next Level
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

📚 MY BOOKS

Becoming Magnetic
Confidence Feels Like Sh*t
👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

📲 CONNECT WITH ME

Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence
Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/
LinkedIn → https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/

If you’re doing all the “right things”
Showing up. Posting. Being consistent. Trying to be professional…
But still feel invisible, overlooked, or like you’re blending in,

This episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down how caring what people think quietly destroys your authority, weakens your personal brand, and keeps you stuck editing yourself instead of leading.

This isn’t about being loud, controversial, or reckless.
It’s about clarity, embodiment, and owning your voice without apology.

In this episode, we cover:

Why people-pleasing kills authority faster than inconsistency

How “being liked” keeps you invisible, not respected

The subtle ways you’re diluting your message to stay safe

Why neutral brands are forgettable brands

How confidence and trust are felt, not forced

What shifts when you stop managing perception and start owning your perspective

If you’ve ever thought:
“I don’t want to upset anyone”
“What if people judge me?”
“I should probably tone this down…”

This episode will challenge you in the best way.

You cannot build a powerful personal brand while prioritising approval. Authority is built by standing somewhere, not blending in everywhere.

👑 WANT MORE OF THIS?

I’m considering running a live personal brand workshop where I teach my full method for building authority, visibility, and a brand people actually remember.

If that’s something you’d want:
👉🏽 Send me a DM on Instagram
or
👉🏽 Leave a comment on Spotify and tell me “I’m in.”

Your responses will decide if I run it.

Chapters

00:00:00 Caring What People Think Is Ruining Your Brand
00:04:25 The Green Bush Analogy: Why Criticism Hurts
00:07:05 The Truth About Putting Yourself Out There
00:08:43 When Someone Triggers You: The Gift in Disguise
00:11:15 The Power of FWOT: Living Unapologetically
00:12:00 Building Thick Skin: Your Invitation to Practice
00:13:17 Becoming Untouchable: The Mission Over Opinions
00:16:21 The Celebrity Mindset: Look Forward to the Critics
00:17:57 Personal Branding Masterclass
00:19:13 Your Mission on This Planet

📲 LET’S CONNECT

If this episode hit, take a screenshot, share it to your Instagram Stories and tag me @thequeenofconfidence https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence

Or, if you’re listening on Spotify, drop a comment:
What’s one way you’ve been holding back because of other people’s opinions?

Because the moment you stop performing for approval…
Your brand starts working for you.

Before you even open your mouth, people are already feeling you.

Your energy walks into the room before your words do.

This lesson is all about presence, not performative, not loud, not forced.

We’re talking about grounded, magnetic energy that holds weight. That commands respect.

You’ll learn the psychology of presence, how to shift your nervous system into calm confidence,
and how to use breath, posture, and stillness to take up space without overcompensating.

This isn’t about being the loudest.
It’s about being the most anchored.

Because when you’re regulated, rooted, and intentional—people listen.
Not because you yelled…
But because they felt you.

Chapters

00:00:00 The Energy You're Broadcasting Right Now
00:00:22 You Don't Have to Be Loud to Be Powerful
00:00:45 Energetic Presence: How to Be Felt Without Speaking
00:01:15 The Lion in the Room: Understanding True Presence
00:03:08 What Presence Really Is: Safety, Confidence, and Congruence
00:04:35 The Insecurity Trap: How Self-Obsession Kills Presence
00:06:41 93% of Communication Is Nonverbal
00:08:02 Your Nervous System Doesn't Lie
00:09:24 Confidence Is Frequency: Contracting vs. Expanding
00:09:55 Are You Leaking or Anchoring Your Power?
00:10:47 Commanding Attention Without Overcompensating
00:11:18 The Power of Stillness and Silence
00:12:21 Body Language Mastery: Posture, Movement, and Eye Contact
00:16:30 The Final Shift: Becoming the Lioness in the Room

✨ Reflection Prompts:

👑 What kind of energy do you usually bring into a room? Is it grounded, chaotic, avoidant, performative?
👑 What does it feel like when someone walks in and you can immediately sense their presence?
👑 What would it look like to bring more intention into your presence this week—at a meeting, a dinner, or even a social media post?

👑 WORK WITH ME

♟️ The Queen’s Table
High-level mentorship for women ready to build authority, visibility, and legacy.
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

👑 The Next Level
For women ready to grow their confidence, audience, and income.
👉🏽 https://thequeenofconfidence.com/nextlevel/

📚 MY BOOKS

Becoming Magnetic
Confidence Feels Like Sh*t
👉🏽 https://the-queen-of-confidence.myshopify.com

📲 LET’S CONNECT

If this episode hit, let me know.

👉🏽 Come and DM me on Instagram and tell me where you noticed yourself leaking or anchoring your power.
👉🏽 Or leave a comment on Spotify and share what landed for you.