The Confidence Chronicles

My love, I'm recording this one from the car as we wrap up our incredible US speaking tour, and I have a story to tell you.

When I announced that I was going on a speaking tour in America, I had ONE event booked.

One!

And now we're leaving with five events under our belt.

I want to tell you how that dream started becoming a reality, because there's a lesson here for every woman who wants to build a bigger business, speak on stages, write a book or make an impact.

You have to let people know what you're building.

So many of us have these huge visions, but we're waiting until everything is perfect before we share them. We're waiting until the book is finished, the stage is booked or the business looks successful enough.

My love, your community can't support a dream they don't know you have!

In this episode, I'm sharing how I've built an audience that has been part of my journey from the beginning, from writing my first book to giving my TEDx talk and growing my speaking career.

We're talking about showing up online, sharing your story, building genuine relationships, creating offers and turning your audience into a community that actually cares about what you do.

And if you're thinking, “But Erika, I don't know what to post, I'm not good on camera, and nobody cares about my life,” we need to talk. 😂

You don't have to have it all figured out.

You just have to start letting people in.

I love you. Let's make those big dreams happen.

♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE | FOR WOMEN READY TO MAKE BIG MOVES

You don't have to build your vision alone.

The Queen's Table is my intimate, high-level mentorship for ambitious women ready to grow their personal brand, expand their influence and create a bigger impact.

Surround yourself with women who are making big moves, raising the standard and pushing you to think bigger about what's possible for your business and your life.

If you're hungry for your next level, I'd love to have you at the table.

→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
Becoming Magnetic and Confidence Feels Like Shit
→ https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

Chapters

00:00:00 How I Turned 1 Speaking Gig Into a 5 Event US Tour
00:00:56 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:52 Car Podcasting: Building the Life You Desire on the Road
00:06:26 Step One: Build Your Audience and Community First
00:10:27 Stop Hiding Behind Perfect Content: Connection Over Production
00:11:53 Take Your Community on the Journey: The Book Launch Blueprint
00:14:12 From One Event to a Full Speaking Tour: The Manifestation Story
00:20:00 You Don't Sell From Stage When You're Clean
00:21:06 The Tony Robbins Vision: What I'm Doing Today to Get There
00:22:30 The Hard Truth: Do Steps 1 Through 10 Before Expecting Step 21

My love, this is a very emotional one.

I'm sitting poolside in Orlando with my babies, recording on my phone, because I need to share what happened when I took my family back to the places connected to my first husband Jeo's death.

I haven't been back to some of these places in years.

This time, Hamish was holding my hand. My children were in the back of the car. And just around the corner from where Jeo died, we found a pumpkin patch.

My boys were laughing and playing, and I found myself crying.

Because sometimes healing looks like returning to a place that once broke your heart and discovering that you can make a beautiful new memory there.

In this episode, I'm talking about grief, closure, motherhood, resilience and why I believe our hardest stories can become a source of strength for ourselves and others.

This isn't a polished studio recording. It's me, my family and a very real moment in the middle of our American adventure.

I hope it meets you wherever you are in your own healing journey. ❤️

♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE

You don't have to build your vision alone.

The Queen's Table is my intimate, high-level mentorship for ambitious women ready to grow their personal brand, expand their influence and create a bigger impact.

Surround yourself with women who are making big moves, raising the standard and pushing you to think bigger about what's possible for your business and your life.

If you're hungry for your next level, I'd love to have you at the table.

→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
Becoming Magnetic and Confidence Feels Like Shit
→ https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

Chapters

00:00:00 I Took My Kids Back to Where My First Husband Died
00:00:43 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:39 Recording Poolside in Orlando: The Place That Holds Everything
00:02:43 Driving Down Goldenrod Road: Showing My Kids Where We Crashed
00:03:34 The Army Base Window: Where I Looked Out and Everything Changed
00:04:12 The Pumpkin Patch at the Corner of Dodd Road and Heavenly
00:06:37 Heavenly Street: The Sign That Made Me Believe He's Still With Us
00:07:41 It Felt Like a Past Life: Closure, Healing, and New Eyes
00:10:29 When Life Guides You: Listening to What Needs Work
00:11:38 Bad Things Can Bring You Blessings: The Gift in the Hardship
00:13:05 Telling Your Story for the Other: Who Will Your Sad Story Help
00:14:12 Victimhood Is a Jail You Lock Yourself Into
00:14:55 Letting My Kids Witness Me: Processing Emotions in Real Time
00:16:39 The Love That Holds Me: Gratitude for Hamish and My Kids

My love, I want to bring back a conversation from the Confidence Chronicles archives because I think it's a reminder so many ambitious women need.

You do NOT have to choose between hustling yourself into burnout and sitting around waiting for your dreams to magically happen.

There's another way.

And it starts with understanding the difference between hustle and hunger.

Hustle can get you moving, especially when you're starting out. But when you're constantly operating from fear, scarcity or the need to prove yourself, that energy can eventually leave you exhausted.

Hunger is different. It's the fire behind your purpose, your vision and the impact you're here to make.

In this episode, I'm sharing how to recognise which energy you're operating from, the questions I ask myself to stay aligned, and practical ways to keep your ambition alive without burning yourself out.

Because baby, I don't want you to stop dreaming big.

I want you to stay hungry for the life you're building. 👑

🌴 MIAMI — THIS IS YOUR LAST CALL!

And if you didn't know already, while I'm here in Miami, I'm hosting Positioned, Paid & Published with Maha Abouelenein!

It's an intimate, full-day personal branding workshop where we'll work on your visibility, reputation, media opportunities, stages and your 90-day action plan.

If you're ready to make a bigger impact and become known for what you do, I'd love to have you there.

🎟️ Use code PPP20 for your special listener offer.

👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published

READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?

📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app

📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business.
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout

♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/

✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/

🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For keynotes, corporate events and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/

📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence

👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/

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Chapters

00:00:00 Why Working Harder Isn't Growing Your Business
00:00:43 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:40 The Difference Between Hustle and Hunger
00:03:44 The Burnout Story That's Keeping You Stuck
00:05:35 When Hustle Is Actually Useful and When It's Not
00:06:30 Hunger Is the Fire That Sustains You
00:09:12 How Hard Work Became Part of Erica's Identity
00:12:07 Tapped Into Purpose: Why Erica Does What She Does
00:13:00 Fear Checks You, But It Shouldn't Run You
00:14:16 Hunger Is Knowing Where You're Going
00:16:07 Check Yourself: Are You Moving from Fear or Desire?
00:16:39 The Sticky Test: When to Walk Away
00:17:46 Using Struggle as Fuel When You're Starting Out
00:18:27 Comfort Can Kill Your Hunger
00:19:56 The Stories You Tell Yourself Become Your Reality
00:21:20 Does This Energy Feel Expansive or Exhausting?
00:22:36 When People Project Their Limits Onto You
00:25:25 How to Stay Hungry Without Slipping Into Hustle
00:26:43 Tip 1: Set Goals That Are Intentional and Outcome-Driven
00:27:56 Tip 2: Rest Without Guilt—It Fuels Your Hunger
00:29:30 Tip 3: Define What More Means for You
00:32:35 Tip 4: Surround Yourself with People Who Expand You
00:34:15 Tip 5: Feed Your Fire Daily
00:37:28 Stay Hungry, Stay Grounded, Go After What's Yours
00:38:09 The Queen's Table: Your Invitation to Expand

Have you ever been so focused on what's next that you've forgotten how far you've already come?
I'm coming to you from Florida, where I had a moment by the pool that completely broke me open.
Years ago, I looked up at the Florida sky screaming and crying after losing my husband. This week, I looked up at that same sky and cried again. But this time, it was because I finally stopped long enough to see the life I've created.
My husband. My beautiful children. My business. Speaking on stages across America.
There was a time when I genuinely thought I was cursed. That I wasn't worthy. That my life would never turn out the way I dreamed.
And now? I can't believe how far I've come.
This episode is a reminder for every woman who's been working so hard to build her future that she's forgotten to acknowledge everything she's already survived, overcome and achieved.
IN THIS EPISODE:
The emotional moment in Florida that brought my past and present together
Why ambitious women struggle to celebrate how far they've come
How the hardest chapters of your life can shape who you become
Why you can be grateful for what you have and still want more
Please take a moment today to look at your life and say, “I'm proud of me.”
Because I am so fucking proud of you 👑
🌴 AND WHILE I'M HERE IN MIAMI…
If you've been following this journey, you know how much it means to me to be back in America, sharing my story, speaking on stages and doing work I once never imagined would be possible.
And if you didn't know already, while I'm here in Miami, I'm hosting something really special with Maha Abouelenein!
It's called Positioned, Paid & Published, an intimate, full-day personal branding workshop for women who are ready to stop being overlooked and start becoming known for what they do.
We're getting hands-on with your personal brand, your story, your visibility and your next moves. Think media, stages, building your reputation and creating a real 90-day action plan.
I'd absolutely love to have you in the room with us.
🎟️ Use code PPP20 for your special listener offer.
👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published
READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND?
📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS
→ Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025)
→ Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020)
Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book
Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audiobook app
📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE
Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business.
→ https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout
♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE
My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/
✨ THE NEXT LEVEL
Build your confidence, audience and income.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/
🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK
For keynotes, corporate events and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA.
→ https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/
📲 FOLLOW ERIKA
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/
Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence
👑 LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI
Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLWtf2VIsUYg-vkERa16r_VcFNz3Bt6kLI
All platforms: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/
🙏🏽 ENJOYED THIS EPISODE?
Please subscribe so you never miss one. It takes 30 seconds and it means everything to us!
Chapters

00:00:00 You're So Focused on What's Next, You've Forgotten How Far You've Come
00:00:39 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are
00:01:36 Recording from Florida: The Speaking Tour Reality Check
00:03:05 The Poolside Breakdown: When Gratitude Hits You Like a Wave
00:05:35 From Screaming at the Sky to Living the Dream
00:06:30 The Medicine You Give Is the Medicine You Need
00:06:57 Tell Yourself You're Proud: The Reminder We All Need
00:08:03 Sharing the Moment: Why Vulnerability Matters for Your Brand
00:09:13 Your Past Doesn't Break You, It Makes You
00:11:22 The Bad Shit Is the Bridge to Your Dream Life
00:13:12 My Kids Watched Me Keynote: The Moment That Changed Everything
00:14:11 You're Responsible for Your Life: Radical Responsibility Reminder

I'm in Miami, and I want YOU in the room! 🌴👑
I'm hosting a special full-day event with Maha Abouelenein called Positioned, Paid & Published.
If you're ready to build your personal brand, get visible, land stages, pitch the media and become the obvious choice in your industry, this is for you.
This is an intimate, hands-on workshop where you'll leave with a 90-day action plan for your personal brand.
🎟️ Use code PPP20 for your special Confidence Chronicles listener offer.
👉🏽 https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/positioned-paid-published