Teachers are constantly being told to move away from punitive approaches — but rarely given the actual, practical skills to replace them with. And that gap? It's leaving teachers feeling disempowered, lost, and like restorative practice just doesn't work.
This episode is Claire's answer to that.
She's breaking down her exact framework for helping students build real accountability after big behaviour moments — in a way that's realistic, respectful, and actually works in a real classroom.
In this episode, Claire covers:
Why restorative conversations alone aren't enough — and what's actually missing
What real accountability looks like (hint: it's not a forced apology or a lunchtime detention)
Her four-step framework: Regulate, Reflect, Repair, RecordRegulate — why you can't skip this step, and how to support a student's nervous system before any conversation happens
Reflect — getting students to genuinely understand what happened and why, using scaffolds that don't feel like an interrogation
Repair — letting students choose their own pathway forward so there's real buy-in and ownership
Record — why documentation isn't punitive, it's protective — for you and for them
Why students shut down in behaviour conversations — and how this framework changes that
The difference between compliance and genuine change over time
Resources mentioned:
🛠️ [Reflect & Repair Toolkit] — think sheets, regulation tools, reflection scaffolds, repair notes, and Claire's Classroom Management Digital Hub, all in one place
Have a question, comment, or just want to say hello? Drop us a text!
RESOURCES AND MORE SUPPORT:
Shop all resources
Join The Behaviour Club
My book! It’s Never Just About the Behaviour: A holistic approach to classroom behaviour management
The Low-Level Behaviour Bootcamp
Free guide: 'Chats that Create Change'
Connect with me:
Follow on Instagram @the.unteachables
Check out my website