Unmasked Minds

Podcast/Youtube Description:
In this episode, psychologist Sarah Wills tackles what happens after you lose it with your kids and how genuine repair can actually strengthen your relationship more than perfect parenting ever could. Sarah explains why "sorry, but you made me yell" isn't an apology, the neuroscience behind fight-or-flight parenting moments, and her practical 4-step framework for repairing ruptures in a way that builds resilience rather than shame.

Whether you've raised your voice once or found yourself in a full-blown yelling match, this episode will show you how to take responsibility without losing your authority, teach your kids that conflict doesn't end relationships, and break generational cycles of conditional love.

Takeaways:
Why even psychologists lose it with their kids—and why that's actually normal (and even valuable when handled correctly)
The difference between real repair and deflection disguised as an apology
How to recognize when you're in fight-or-flight mode and why nothing good happens when you try to parent from that state
A practical 4-step framework for genuine repair: remove yourself, understand what triggered you, reflect on what you'd do differently, and take responsibility
How to have the "what happened" conversation with your kids without re-triggering the conflict
Why teaching accountability doesn't mean making everything their fault—and how to find the balance
What happens to children's self-esteem when they're consistently told your emotional regulation is their responsibility

Connect with Sarah Wills:
Instagram | www.instagram.com/sarahthepsych
LinkedIn | https://au.linkedin.com/in/sarah-wills-b856974

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Takeaways
Good enough parenting allows for mistakes and repair, promoting resilience in children.
Social media can provide tools and awareness for parenting, but also leads to constant comparison and pressure.

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Takeaways
Perimenopause and ADHD interaction
Symptoms of perimenopause and their impact

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Inspiration
06:16 Physical Symptoms of Perimenopause
11:21 Mental Symptoms of Perimenopause
20:40 Link Between ADHD and Perimenopause

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Takeaways
Setting realistic expectations is crucial for managing the overwhelming chaos of school holidays.
Establishing boundaries and managing internal expectations are essential for finding contentment and balance in parenting during the holidays.

Chapters
00:00 The Overwhelming Chaos of School Holidays
06:25 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Values in the Holidays
13:44 The Pressure of Comparison and Expectations in Parenting

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Takeaways
Non-Blank Slate Approach
Building Trust and Relatability

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Gratitude
05:03 Building Trust and Relatability
10:13 Therapy and the Pursuit of Perfection
17:19 Ethical Considerations in Therapy and Coaching
22:31 Support and Collaboration Among Therapists