Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky

This week Monica sits down with award-winning filmmaker, Women Rising founder, and author Sara Hirsh Bordo for a deeply personal conversation about chronic illness, self-silencing, and the hidden cost of being the “good girl.” Sara shares how her autoimmune diagnoses transformed her from documentarian into subject—and led her to write Autoimmunity and the Good Girls: How Permission to Put Ourselves First Has the Power to Keep Us Well. Drawing on her personal experience, original research conducted across 22 countries, and more than 50 hours of interviews, Sara explores how conditioning women to be agreeable, useful, and endlessly giving can shape their relationships with stress, identity, and their own bodies. Together, Monica and Sara unpack the difference between kindness and self-abandonment, why setting a boundary can feel like betrayal, and what it means to treat the body as a witness rather than an enemy.
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Celebrated novelist Chang-rae Lee joins Monica this week on Reclaiming for an insightful conversation about immigration, identity, and the stories we construct to make sense of our lives. Chang-rae opens up about coming to the United States from Seoul at age three and how the loss of his mother at the beginning of his writing career shook his sense of self. He and Monica examine his belief that all immigrant novels are dystopian novels and their shared fascination with the stories that live in the aftermath of life altering events. Together, they move between displacement and belonging, fear and creative freedom, the gravity of history and the reclamation of play—and consider whether taking back your story might also mean refusing to be confined by a single one. Plus, Chang-rae reveals how his new novel, A Tender Age may be his most autobiographical yet.
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The incomparable Allison Janney is nominated for an Emmy this fall for her role in The Diplomat, so we’re revisiting one of our favorite conversations with her. Allison opens up about the silver-screen legends who shaped her early career—Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman—and how their mentorship changed everything. She reflects on how her breakout role in The West Wing introduced her to Bradley Whitford, who now plays her on-screen husband in The Diplomat, and reveals why political roles are actually a total stretch for her. Allison also shares her journey of self-exploration through ketamine, MDMA, mushrooms, and even astrology—and how those experiences have helped her see herself and the world more clearly. Finally, she reflects on her deep friendship with Matthew Perry and the shared understanding that comes from loving people who carry pain and brilliance in equal measure.
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Writer, poet, and thinker Siri Hustvedt joins Monica this week on Reclaiming for a profound conversation about the physical reality of grief, the shared self created by long love, and finding language for what remains after someone dies. Siri opens up about losing her husband and creative partner, writer Paul Auster, after 43 years together and how writing her memoir Ghost Stories became an act of survival. She and Monica explore the trope of female hysteria, the misogyny Siri faced as a woman intellectual, and what it took to stop feeling guilty for being outspoken. Together, they move between the body and the mind, science and mystery, devastating loss and sustaining humor—and consider the ways life asks us to reclaim ourselves over and over again.
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Comedian, writer, and The Daily Show correspondent Josh Johnson joins Monica this week on Reclaiming for a thoughtful conversation about finding connection through humor, embracing what makes us different, and learning to live with the knowledge that nothing is guaranteed. Josh gets real about losing his father at 26 and how it rewired the way he shows up for people, why retiring his mom became his North Star goal, and how the exact traits that once got him labeled the weird kid are now his sharpest weapon on stage. He and Monica dip into grief, politics, comedy, and the wild idea that just saying the uncomfortable thing out loud might be the most powerful move you've got.
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