Ladies, We Need To Talk

What if, instead of being the best time of your life, new motherhood was miserable? Perinatal depression and anxiety affects one in five women in Australia. But the shame of it is carried in silence.
Yumi Stynes speaks to women about their darkest days as new mums; sleep deprived, fearful and feeling alone. She hears how these women came through their suffering and got the help they needed.
Featured in this episode:  
Dr Erin Seeto, Clinical Psychologist and Director of Clinical Services at the Gidget Foundation 
If you need help:
Lifeline Australia 13 11 14
PANDA National Helpline 1300 726 306
Gidget Foundation 1300 851 758
This episode will answer questions like: 
What does it feel like to have perinatal depression and anxiety? 
What is perinatal depression and anxiety? 
What are the risk factors of perinatal depression and anxiety? 
How is perinatal depression and anxiety treated? 
How do you recover from perinatal depression and anxiety? 
Can your relationship impact perinatal depression and anxiety?
What to listen to next: 
I love you but go away: Women taking marriage sabbaticals
How swapping a husband for a wife made this economist better off
Turia Pitt is a selfish woman
Paying for sex at 70
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  
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Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery
Why genital herpes does not mean the end of your sex life
This episode contains references to suicide, suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety, birth, birth trauma, mothering, parenting, mental health care plan, psychology, hospital, family, breastfeeding, colic, crying, sleeplessness, sleep deprivation.

What happens when your husband suddenly becomes someone you don’t recognise? One cold day in 2020, Belle Burden’s partner of 20 years told her he was leaving her. There were was no warning, no chance to talk. 
Before her relationship collapsed, Belle’s life looked enviable. Heiress to a wealthy New York family empire, she had the kids, the job, the holiday house and a committed marriage. But overnight, everything Belle thought she knew about her husband changed, and he became a stranger to her. Despite the pain of separation, Belle came to know herself again and rebuilt her life stronger than before. 
This episode will answer questions like: 
What does it feel like to be cheated on? 
Can you tell if your husband is having an affair? 
Do people suddenly fall out of love? 
Who is Belle Burden? 
How can women protect themselves financially in a marriage? 
What lessons are there to be learnt after going through divorce? 
What to listen to next:
I love you but go away: Women taking marriage sabbaticals
How swapping a husband for a wife made this economist better off
Turia Pitt is a selfish woman
Paying for sex at 70
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  
What to read next:
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery
Why genital herpes does not mean the end of your sex life
This episode contains references to divorce, separation, affair, cheating, heartbreak, money, settlement, parenting, re-invention, self-discovery, gender, mothering, independent, finance.

What’s it like to parent when you can’t see your kid? Nas Campanella, the ABC’s National Disability Affairs reporter, knows there’s many ways to be a great mum. As a blind woman, she’s navigated internalised ableism, and copped BS from strangers. Through it all, she’s given the middle finger to expectations and come out the other side stronger.
She talks to Yumi Stynes about the quiet strength that comes from trusting her own instincts and the deep bond she’s formed with her son.  
This episode will answer questions like: 
What’s it like to be a mother while vision impaired? 
How do blind parents use sound, touch and voice to care for their babies?
What are the biggest challenges of parenting with a disability? 
How do you keep children safe without relying on sight? 
How do people use sound, touch and instinct to read their baby’s needs? 
What public scrutiny do disabled parents receive? 
How do you raise an empathetic child? 
What to listen to next: 
I love you but go away: Women taking marriage sabbaticals
Life without boobs: Meet the women staying flat after breast cancer
Body image and babies with Turia Pitt and Sophie Walker
Where's my village? Esther Perel on how to build community
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  
What to read next:  
Why these women took marriage sabbaticals — and how it went
Building a village means showing up even when it feels hard, says Esther Perel
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery
Why genital herpes does not mean the end of your sex life
This episode contains references to disability, vision impaired, blind, mother, parent, National Disability Affairs reporter, ABC, work-life-balance, working mum, child, baby, parenting, teaching, attachment.

Marriage sabbaticals aren't a divorce, or an excuse for guilt-free frotting but a chance to reset priorities. But do they work?
It can be hard to figure out how to fix a relationship in need of repair when you're in the grind of the day-to-day. Living separately for a while or even taking a solo holiday can be a chance for a jump-start, but it comes with risks.
Yumi Stynes meets women who've hit pause on their partnerships in the hopes of coming back together stronger than before.
This episode will answer questions like: 
What is a marriage sabbatical? 
Why do women feel like they need a break from their marriage? 
Why do some women feel like they care for their husbands like children? 
How can you ask for a break from your relationship? 
How do you know you’re happy in a relationship? 
What does an equal partnership look like? 
How do relationship preferences change over time? 
Can having a break save your marriage? 
What to listen to next: 
Women who cheat
Is everyone having better sex than me?
The new way to date
How pop culture f*cked us up, with Sophie Gilbert
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  
What to read next:  
How pop culture messed us up, with Sophie Gilbert
How swapping a husband for a wife made this economist better off
Paying for sex at 70
Life without boobs: Meet the women staying flat after breast cancer
This episode contains references to sex, marriage, family, parenting, mental load, emotional labour, domestic labour, inequality, chores, perimenopause, break-ups, relationship, love, psychology, attachment.

How does it feel to be betrayed by the person you love most? Women open up to Yumi Stynes about being cheated on and picking up the pieces of their shattered hearts.
There's the fishy feeling you try to shake off, finding texts, unearthing emails, wondering if you're paranoid. And then, the moment of truth and painful aftermath. From Beyonce to Lily Allen, queens everywhere have wondered, "How did I get caught up in your double life??"
For some women, infidelity destroys the foundation of trust forever. For others it leads to bloodletting and rebuilding the relationship.
Featured in this episode:  
Christina Spaccavento, sex and relationships counsellor 
This episode will answer questions like: 
What does it feel like to be cheated on? 
How do some women find out their partner has been cheating on them? 
Why do people cheat? 
Can you stay in a relationship after infidelity?  
How do you rebuild trust after cheating? 
What to listen to next:
Women who cheat
Is everyone having better sex than me?
The new way to date
How pop culture f*cked us up, with Sophie Gilbert
You can binge more episodes of Ladies, We Need to Talk on the ABC listen app (in Australia) or wherever you get your podcasts.  
What to read next:
Why Kate chose to 'stay flat' after breast cancer surgery
How Turia Pitt's body image changed in motherhood
What loving someone with an addiction or dependence can look like
The dark side of being a perfectionist
This episode contains references to sex, marriage, cheating, West End Girl, Lily Allen, Madeline, Beyonce, David Beckham, Victoria Beckham, Becky with the good hair, Shakira, Lemonade, infidelity, women, family, emotional cheating.