In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, Dr. Emily debunks five pervasive sex myths that may be holding you back from experiencing your best intimate life. From the "body count" obsession to orgasm pressure, we explore why these common beliefs are not only wrong but potentially harmful to your sexual confidence and relationships.
We dive deep into why the number of sexual partners doesn't determine your skill as a lover, the truth about natural lubrication and arousal, and how focusing solely on orgasms can actually prevent you from having them. Dr. Emily also addresses vibrator myths, explaining why sex toys enhance rather than replace intimacy, and breaks down outdated beliefs about anal play that keep people from exploring new dimensions of pleasure.
Featuring listener questions from Francesca, Josh, Taylor, Melissa, and Nicole, this episode provides practical advice for navigating sexual insecurities, communication with partners, and expanding your intimate repertoire. Whether you're dealing with dryness, struggling to reach climax, or curious about introducing new elements to your sex life, this episode offers science-backed insights and compassionate guidance.
Show Notes:
00:00:00 - The Body Count Myth
08:00:00 - Quality vs. Quantity in Sexual Experience
11:30:00 - The Lube Myth & Natural Lubrication
17:25:00 - Orgasm Pressure & Pleasure Focus
23:17:00 - Vibrator Addiction Myths
29:57:00 - Anal Play Misconceptions
33:02:00 - Listener Q&A: Building Sexual Confidence
This episode emphasizes that great sex is about communication, presence, and understanding your own body—not conforming to arbitrary standards or myths that create unnecessary pressure and shame.
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Why We Struggle With Commitment
In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Show Notes:
00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia
00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety
04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma
07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics
10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory
13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment
15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics
17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility
20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners
22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought
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The Ultimate Guide to Having Better Sex
This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships.
Timestamps:
00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions
00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication
06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks
09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs
15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive
18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues
21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life
24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues
29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex
44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy
55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues
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How to Build a Relationship That Actually Lasts Forever
In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life.
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Timestamps:
00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute
03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story
06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure
10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse
17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education
20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships
23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication
27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates
30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values
46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life
1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy
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Why Your Sex Life Isn't as Good As It Could Be
In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure.
Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure.
Timestamps:
00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure
00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity
10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping
14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration
20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug
23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice
32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release
43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing
46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential
01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation
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