The Best of You

Today’s Scripture is: Romans 12:9–18

**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**

"Hate what is evil" and "bless those who persecute you" can feel like an impossible tension — until you understand what Paul is actually asking for. This episode unpacks one of scripture's most demanding passages and makes the case that clarity and love are not opposites. We explore:

We'll explore:

-The difference between naming harm and becoming hardened by it

-What the research tells us about resentment and what chronic unforgiveness does to our bodies and brains

-The two dimensions of forgiveness — and why neither requires you to minimize harm or trust someone who hasn't earned it

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What if procrastination isn’t about laziness… but a disconnect between who you want to be and what you actually do?

So many of us carry goals we care deeply about: habits we want to build, changes we long to make, ways we want to grow. And yet, we find ourselves stuck in the same patterns, circling the same resistance, wondering why it’s so hard to follow through.

In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook and goals expert and New York Times bestselling author Jon Acuff explore what’s really happening beneath procrastination and how to finally begin moving forward.

Because procrastination isn’t a character flaw. It’s a gap.

A gap between your intentions and your actions.

And over time, that gap can quietly erode something deeper: your trust in yourself.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed by your goals, or caught in cycles of starting and stopping… this conversation will help you understand why and what to do next.

You’ll explore:


Why procrastination isn’t about laziness and what’s actually driving it


The hidden impact of broken self-trust (and how to begin rebuilding it)


How your “soundtracks” (repetitive thoughts) shape your actions and results


The real reason discipline alone doesn’t work and what does


The 4 key places people get stuck in the growth process (and how to move forward)

This conversation offers a practical, compassionate path forward, helping you close the gap between who you want to be and how you’re actually living, one small step at a time.

More Resources:

Make sure to grab Jon Acuff’s latest book Procrastination Proof: Never Get Stuck Again and then claim $97 worth of free bonuses.

Take Jon's free procrastination profile here.

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Want to hear more like this? Start here:

Episode 199: How the Body Teaches the Soul with Justin Whitmel Earley

Episode 157: Braving Change—3 Ways to Get Unstuck and Transform Guilt and Regret

📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here

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Today’s Scripture is: Proverbs 4:20-23

Many of us have been taught that setting limits is selfish — that real love means giving without reserve. This episode makes the case, from both scripture and science, that boundaries are not walls against love but what protect love's integrity.

We'll explore:

-The research on compassion fatigue and what happens neurologically when we chronically override our own limits

-The full context of Proverbs 4 — and why the wisdom writer connects attentiveness to your inner life with health to your whole body

-Why guarding your heart is not a selfish act, but an act of profound faithfulness to God and the people you love

To Go Deeper:

Visit my blog, and type "boundaries" into the search bar.

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For more on external boundaries, see The Best of You or click here to get the first 3 chapters free

For more on internal boundaries, see Boundaries For Your Soul, or click here to get free resources.

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Today’s Scripture is: Mark 8:34–36

**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**

This episode tackles one of the most misused phrases in all of scripture — and one that has caused real harm for a lot of people. We look at what Jesus was actually calling us toward, through the lens of psychology and the concept of the true and false self.

We explore:

-The difference between denying the false self and erasing your personhood

-How fear-based identity forms — and why it's not the truest version of who you are

-Why "take up your cross" is not an invitation to accept abuse, toxic relationships, or depression as God's will

-Jesus as a model of strength, not smallness — and what that means for us

To Go Deeper:

Blog post: What Does It Really Mean to Deny Yourself

Get the first 3 chapters free of The Best of You

Episode 56: Am I Really Supposed to Die To Myself?

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Today’s Scripture is: Psalm 27:10-14

This episode explores the psychology of attachment wounds through the lens of Psalm 27—one of scripture's most honest cries about being left behind.

We explore:

-what neuroscience tells us about how early attachment experiences literally shape brain architecture

-why our nervous systems stay on alert long after the original wound,

-how the psalmist's declaration speaks directly into that place.

We also explore the research on prayer and the brain, and what it might mean for our nervous systems to slowly experience being held.

To Go Deeper:

Episode 16: What are Attachment Styles and Why do They Matter?

Episode 136: Sacred Attachment—Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting in Divine Love with Michael John Cusick

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Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison’s free email community for ongoing reflection and support.

While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍
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