Lara Boielle (Clinical Sexologist): Sex Isn't For Somebody Else, It's For You - Finding Your Way Back To Intimacy
Sex. Intimacy. Desire. Shame. These are topics we don’t often talk about, especially as women in midlife, but they affect every part of who we are. In this deeply honest episode of Tea with Jules, I sit down with Lara Boielle, a clinical sexologist and naturopath, to have the conversation we’ve all been avoiding but desperately need.From scheduling space (not sex) to understanding how our libido is tied to how wefeel about ourselves, Lara shares wisdom, warmth, and practical steps for findingyour way back to yourself and to intimacy. We talk about shame, the noise of midlife, and why slowing down and reconnecting with your body is the key to rediscovering desire.Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, freshly dating, or navigating this season of life solo, this episode is about breaking stigma, finding safety, and realising that sexuality is not for someone else, it’s for you.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why sex and intimacy are about YOU first, not somebody elseThe difference between scheduling sex vs. scheduling space for connectionHow shame impacts our bodies and relationships, and how conversationdismantles itWhy libido is tied to self-connection, not just hormonesThe role of presence, play, and novelty in keeping intimacy alivePractical steps to reconnect with your body and find your “new door” in midlifeAbout Lara BoielleLara Boielle is a clinical sexologist, relationship therapist, and naturopath who works with individuals and couples across diverse relationship structures. She creates safe, inclusive, non-judgmental spaces to explore intimacy, communication, and pleasure, while helping clients navigate sexual challenges. LGBTQIA+ friendly and deeply committed to dismantling shame, Lara empowers people to reconnect with themselves and build more satisfying relationships.Lara's Website:https://www.theintegrativesexologist.comLara's Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/the.integrative.sexologist/Follow Me On Instagram:@julessebastian, @tea_with_julesWatch:https://www.youtube.com/@JulesSebastianChannelSubscribe:https://julessebastian.com/pages/sign-upRead:https://www.booktopia.com.au/tea-honesty-jules-sebastian/book/CREDITS:Sound Engineer & Music: @kailesh_reitmansVideographer & Editor: @nathan_niguidulaProducer: @lisajohnston_ @julessebastianWelcome to Tea with Jules hosted by Jules Sebastian. Here we spill the tea and learn life lessons from honest conversations with experts, celebrities and friends.
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